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To think I have the most unfortunately named love rival?

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 00:36

I'm only just back with my dh after we split for a time and suddenly I find Jolene is back in our county and wants to get back in touch with him?

Every time I sound off about the fact they got history and she's always fancied him people start singing fucking Dolly Parton!

Last time I got really torn up over it and confidied in my dsis and BIL he put the damn song on and laughed for a whole few minutes and I forgave him because everyone was a bit drunk and stoned but them
Mary Anne never lets me forget either and she's meant to be close family Angry

Just to clarify he'd never cheat on me and never has.

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MargotLovedTom1 · 02/07/2017 00:56

WattdeEll
"Nurse! She's out of bed again!"

Proper Grin

MeanAger · 02/07/2017 00:57

Who is OP? I need the backstory.

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 00:57

Yeah it's a good song but I can't listen to it now without feeling embarrassed.

She offered him a bj when I was with him but I was asleep on the beach years ago. He told me.

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MargotLovedTom1 · 02/07/2017 00:59

Who the fuck is Mary Anne?

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 00:59

We were all on the beach. It was a party

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 00:59

She's our firend

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Mummmy2017 · 02/07/2017 00:59

I get it..

You split up.

This lady went out with your now DH.
You got back together and had a child.
This lady has come back and wants to contact your DH.

All you can do is trust in your love.

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 02/07/2017 01:00

Thanks. I've got Jolene, Jolene, Jolene, Jo-lee-eene stuck firmly in my head now!

MargotLovedTom1 · 02/07/2017 01:01

Agree. Don't go begging her not to take your man (sorry!). Do you trust him? That's all that matters.

ExplodedCloud · 02/07/2017 01:05

She's not your friend.
Mean advanced search if you must.
Red last I read he was back sliding and no weed or alcohol was slipping into a little bit. In dd's presence. Hope I've missed the clean weeks.

Bunnyfuller · 02/07/2017 01:10

Omg it's that op. Did he have a fling with Lucille at some point. She picked a fine time to leave him....

DAMNgina · 02/07/2017 01:11

Oh I remember you - the park family?

I really hope he has changed- you and your daughter deserve better than that.

Have you spoken to him about J?

I'm sorry your "friends" aren't giving you the support you need - can you distance yourself from them and find some proper friends?

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 01:12

I think I realised I'm actually not that great a person and I'm quite up and down mentally and he helped me see a lot of stuff was both our problem not just his in the biased way I posted on here. It can't be easy to live with someone on the edge of breakdown like me. I just made things look normal for dd but really I was breaking inside.

Back to Jolene,,, I feel embarrassed but I guess because of her name it's funny to people bit how would you feel if your dh told you that his old mate fancied him and she was gorgeous???

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 01:13

Yes the park family BlushSad feels like a lifetime ago. He's a much better Dad now.

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MusicForTheJiltedGeneration · 02/07/2017 01:14

Jolene, Mary Anne, She Offered Him a BJ on the Beach - sounds like a country album in the making - yeeeehaw!

DAMNgina · 02/07/2017 01:15

Oh lassie Big red flags from your last post.

I fear that he hasn't changed at all and I'm scared that he's manipulating you.

I always thought you sounded like an absolute sweetheart.

Can you go to your GP and tell them how you think about yourself or speak to Women's Aid?

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 01:16

Maybe I should delete but neither of them have kids yet so I don't think they are mumsnetters

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ExplodedCloud · 02/07/2017 01:16

Screw him. Why are you on the edge of breakdown? Why are you supporting his issues when you have issues? Two negatives don't necessarily make a positive in relationships.

DAMNgina · 02/07/2017 01:18

It's good that you come here to talk about it, you don't seem to have a lot of support from your friends or family - ignore the silly posts.

DAMNgina · 02/07/2017 01:18

It's good that you come here to talk about it, you don't seem to have a lot of support from your friends or family - ignore the silly posts.

BoysofMelody · 02/07/2017 01:18

Are you Sid Peeks back from the dead?

BoysofMelody · 02/07/2017 01:19

Peeks = Perks

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 01:19

I really think he's ok now. Life is much better and he's changed. I was u think depressed myself or just bad anxiety and was a nightmare to live with too.

My therapist now has dumped me because she thinks I'm not honest with her and need more than she can offer and that he's no good but I've got to accept some of the mess is my fault.

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 01:20

I really shouldn't have posted on here after a drink. I was just wound up about the Jolene thing and BIL was playing it in the car when he dropped me home.

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RedStripeIassie · 02/07/2017 01:22

Just googles that and had a sixth sense it was an Archers thing even though I've never seen it Grin

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