To think I have the most unfortunately named love rival?

[RedStripeIassie]

I'm only just back with my dh after we split for a time and suddenly I find Jolene is back in our county and wants to get back in touch with him?

Every time I sound off about the fact they got history and she's always fancied him people start singing fucking Dolly Parton!

Last time I got really torn up over it and confidied in my dsis and BIL he put the damn song on and laughed for a whole few minutes and I forgave him because everyone was a bit drunk and stoned but them
Mary Anne never lets me forget either and she's meant to be close family

Just to clarify he'd never cheat on me and never has.

Hi Red. What were your conditions for potentially taking him back, during your brief separation?

Just off the top of my head...

• Him repaying a backdated contribution for DD when he eventually received his inheritance
• Giving up drink/skunk (duh)
• Him getting counselling / participating in perpetrator programme?
• Getting full-time work

Etc etc.

Anything else?

I wouldn't go near a bloke that behaved like that. I would be afraid to be on my own with a bloke again, in case it happened. I would be afraid I might bump into him out in the street.

That is a more typical- and healthy- reaction to what he did.

You haven't reacted like that.

DH and I didn't drink more than a couple when we have the children, because they may need us. Children shouldn't be around people drinking heavily, let alone doing drugs. It is the key factor in whether they go on to drink heavily themselves.

Just have a think, Lassie. No one wants to upset you, but you are a bit out of step with what 'normal' should look like.