To be scared she is going to kill me and steal my family?

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My first ever post on here (many NC's ago) was about my really obnoxious neighbour who harassed me by knocking, texting, Facebook messaging at least 5 times a day.
I plucked up the courage one day to tell her to fuck off and she stopped for just under a month.
I feel like I'm going crazy she keeps copying little things and I know she's doing it and she knows she's doing it and it's creeping me out - here is a list of examples of her fucking weird behaviour.

• when she sees DS has new clothes she buys her DS them too. For example the same little pair of trainers, parka, hats, etc.
• she bought the same pram. Even in the same colour.
• she dyed her hair to the same (fairly unusual) colour, a week after I did mine. --Cost me a bomb and I put a box dye over it a few weeks later

--- I lied through my teeth about DS's primary school applications as I knew she'd copy. And she did. In the same exact order.

• she bought my winter coat.
• her husband bought my partner's motorbike DESPITE not even having a license, claiming he was going to get one, it sits redundant outside their house but meant she could come over to ours with mundane questions about it for weeks.
• she started shopping where I shop.
• signed up to the same GP, despite being with her practice since she was a child.
• signed her DS up for same hobby class as my DS.
• she knowingly exposed my children to chicken pox and then was very dismissive of it.

And then today to top it all off she announced she's calling her new baby the same name as my baby with one letter difference.
So it would be equivalent of Harley and Harvey. It's not those names but that kind of idea.
DP thinks it's creepy but also really funny but seriously wtf else are you going to do? We are moving next March purely because of her. I can't bare it any longer she's hysterical but so so suffocating!!

Move.

This would creep me out but you could have so much fun with it as well
Mention you are buying a caravan, wait for one to appear in their drive and then say you changed your mind
And repeat- till they get the message
Have they found out your kid will in fact be going to a different school yet

Make sure you give no indication of where you're moving to!

She's stalking you.

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Or maybe yep moving would be a good idea

Yep I'd move. She sounds unhinged.

Do you live in Aberdeen?
Sorry they just sound a bit like the family I have posted about today

I would be scared

Mention the tattoo you are booked in to have done. .
Entire Simpson's family maybe??
The Van Trapp family (big fan aren't you op?)
Cast of Eastenders?

I have a friend who does this, much lower level. If I see her and am wearing something, next time I see her, she'll have it it. We went on holiday recently and as we were unpacking it got quite weird. It's tricky. It's hard to explain how weird it makes you feel. I'm summing-up the courage how to say something without causing upset, as I have a tendency to think she's not very confident, so sees me looking nice in something and so thinks she will also look nice in it.... And will be hurt I think. Watching replies with interest...

Stalking isn't something the OP should be having "fun" with. The stalker's fixation seems to be 'harmless' at the moment, but that could escalate. Often people don't take stalking seriously including the police, it's not fun and it's not harmless.

OP check out the link in my previous post or contact the National Stalking Helpline.

Honestly, OP, are you sure it just isn't the fact that she's obnoxious that's making you hyper-sensitive to some of these things? If you're neighbours with children of similar ages, surely shopping in the same place, being in the same GP surgery, having a child attending the same club and making the same school applications is pretty usual? Pushchairs go through fads when DS was tiny and we lived in London, I once counted 13 Bugaboo Bees in the outside space of a park cafe and names likewise. Obviously, it's different if you have an Emilia and she has an Amelia versus if you have a Persephone-Mae and she has a Persephone-May.

I would go into the witness protection programme. She sounds like a crazy scary nut job.

I would try and have some fun with it. This may make you feel a bit better. For example slip in litttle things like references to sex toys, tattoos, intimate piercings, an affair that you are 'having', change your name to hers and see if she says anything.

She's got a screw loose OP - can you not move house any sooner?

Like PartyPolitics says, you could also have a little fun too:
Buy yourself a wig - short crop, different colour, or something like that - you can remove it when she has hers done exactly the same.

Good luck - I have to say, I would be quite scared.

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Tell her to back off. You've done it before and it worked short term. Keep doing this. Do not communicate in any other way. Just keep it short and say No. No. No. Give nothing away about yourself or family.

Really?

PartyPolitics I'm 400 miles from Aberdeen which makes it quite desirable for me to move too.

I know it's stalking and I know it's low level. I've mentioned it to people before and they've kind of been like 'she's lonely' 'it's flattering' 'maybe you've just got good taste!' But when we first moved here, her style, house everything was a complete different style to what it is now. I don't feel comfortable in my home or street because I know she is watching.
She watches out of her curtain when she hears our car pull up and every time I open my front door to take bins out or just for some air, she does the same!
I have been so tempted to report it before but surely this could all be 'circumstantial' and there's no solid proof?

Don't get a lab puppy or dye your hair red, whatever you do! It's all very Single White Female. Don't tell her the truth about anything and definitely don't tell her where you're moving to! Have you ever brought up this stuff with her? I'd be really pissed off with her.

Good lord, I think you maybe over reacting here, she knowingly gave your children chickenpox? she died her hair the same colour? maybe she just liked that colour, her fella bout the motorbike??? why on earth would he pay a few hundred to copy you? I think you maybe just a tad paranoid.

This is just weird.

Does she a wide circle of friends? (Or many at all)

PS. an aside - love your username

Why does she have your phone number? Can't you just block her? Block her on Facebook as well.

I try to avoid all conversation with her now. It was when I turned my back on her that this all stepped up a notch.
I've never actually seen SWF but my mum told me not to watch it.

Vlad on everything this is all 100% accurate.

The name she is copying is DS2's name and it is unusual. I've never met another one. So the Persephone reference is quite accurate.

The pram is a bugaboo but the really old Cameleon. I bought it second hand off a lovely family friend. It's done about 10 babies.
She travelled 70 miles to collect the SAME one, and then bought the hood, Cosy toes etc so it was the same colour as mine. Despite the fact she still has her youngest's silver cross.

That sounds so creepy & annoying. I really wouldnt feel comfortable in your situation.
She is obviously lacking something in her own life and is trying to copy yours to fill the void or has an obsessive type of personality and has become fixated on you.

Were you friendly with her at one stage? How does she know so much about your life? I wouldnt have a clue which GP my neighbor uses unless I asked them.

Whatever you do dont, give her any more information about any aspect of your life.