To be scared she is going to kill me and steal my family?

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My first ever post on here (many NC's ago) was about my really obnoxious neighbour who harassed me by knocking, texting, Facebook messaging at least 5 times a day.
I plucked up the courage one day to tell her to fuck off and she stopped for just under a month.
I feel like I'm going crazy she keeps copying little things and I know she's doing it and she knows she's doing it and it's creeping me out - here is a list of examples of her fucking weird behaviour.

• when she sees DS has new clothes she buys her DS them too. For example the same little pair of trainers, parka, hats, etc.
• she bought the same pram. Even in the same colour.
• she dyed her hair to the same (fairly unusual) colour, a week after I did mine. --Cost me a bomb and I put a box dye over it a few weeks later

--- I lied through my teeth about DS's primary school applications as I knew she'd copy. And she did. In the same exact order.

• she bought my winter coat.
• her husband bought my partner's motorbike DESPITE not even having a license, claiming he was going to get one, it sits redundant outside their house but meant she could come over to ours with mundane questions about it for weeks.
• she started shopping where I shop.
• signed up to the same GP, despite being with her practice since she was a child.
• signed her DS up for same hobby class as my DS.
• she knowingly exposed my children to chicken pox and then was very dismissive of it.

And then today to top it all off she announced she's calling her new baby the same name as my baby with one letter difference.
So it would be equivalent of Harley and Harvey. It's not those names but that kind of idea.
DP thinks it's creepy but also really funny but seriously wtf else are you going to do? We are moving next March purely because of her. I can't bare it any longer she's hysterical but so so suffocating!!

Wow.
How weird.
She probably won't kill you though

This is super creepy OP. Is there no one you could report it to? Maybe contact the police on their non-emergency number. Tell them you feel intimidated and fearful that she is stalking you.
If you are close to other neighbours I'd be telling them your concerns. It may get back to her and she may tone it all down.

I had a stalker as a teenager and it was the scariest years of my life. My Dad actually threatened the stalker before we moved house after discovering she had been in our house....
Be really careful OP.

I would be so happy to accept that this is paranoia if it was just a couple of things, but it's not it's shit loads.

The motorbike thing - I do genuinely think he wanted a motorbike but she used it as a way to worm her way back in.

We went away recently and left our loft window ajar. Because I have blocked her on everything she found DP on Facebook and messaged him telling him it was a burglary risk. He told her it was fine and not to worry. She then got her DP to scale up our drainpipe/window sills/to be quite honest I don't really know how and shut it. She didn't message again and then when we got back informed us about how they shut it because she likes to look out for us.
I'm sorry, call me paranoid but if all of this was happening with your family, what would you think?

Surely her DP must know what she's up to. She has serious issues.

Whatever you do OP don't follow the advice above to contact the police on their non-emergency number if you don't want to be the station laughing stock.

why on earth would he pay a few hundred to copy you?

I wonder that, too, but since he doesn't even have a license, that sounds like he's onboard with her plan.

Is it possible she just wants to buy the house you live in and wants to cause you to leave?
It is all very creepy, but at the same time she could claim she just thinks you have good taste, so if she wants to frighten you away without risking any legal consequences, that looks like a really good way to do it.

Because she sounds insane, but if her boyfriend is onboard with it, perhaps there's some more mundane reason to it.

Better to be safe than sorry. Vladimirs

I'd lie about everything, tell her your son's middle name is Wendy to see if she copies. Tell her you're going on holiday to Benidorm then go to Nice.

Buy tote bags, so if you come in with shopping she won't know where it's from. If she asks you where you bought your coat, tell her it's from oxfam.

Just wind her up and make it so much harder for her to copy you

See a story in Over The Gate by Miss Read: "Mrs Next-Door, the queen of copycats, drives her patient neighbour mad with rage."

Make sure you don't give her your new address of where you're moving to,otherwise you'll wake up one morning a few weeks later and find she's moved next door to you.

Vestal
Definitely not to buy. We both rent back to back terraced houses.
They are in no financial position to buy (nor are we). All four of us are pretty young and have similar lifestyles (I'm on Mat leave, she's a SAHM and both our partners work in similar fields)

I would tell her to back the fuck off! And lie lie lie ecery time you do have talk to her. What's with all the creepy feckers people talk about on MN lately!?

I would try to find somewhere else to live.

She's being a nuisance now: it's clear she doesn't understand what's reasonable and what's going too far. Her behaviour could easily turn into something far more threatening.

Start mentioning crazy things like a pp said. A caravan would be a good start, then change your mind. Take up a hobby, then stop.

Id write down everything so you have a note of it

She sounds really bored and probably envies your life OP xx

What NachoCheese said ^
Even if you don't report her now you'll have evidence if you ever need it. Thank god you're moving though, that sort of behavior would totally creep me out.

VladmirsPoutine and that right there is the issue - people don't take stalking seriously. The neighbour is orchestrating situations so she can have contact with the OP, that goes beyond copying someones fashion tastes and having a low self-esteem - that is obsessive behaviour. A stalker doesn't have to be some fat guy with bad hygiene following and camping outside your house.

OP contact Paladin or the National Stalking Helpline, they won't laugh at you or minimise the situation. This is effecting you so please don't feel silly, stalking is often not taking seriously even when it's proven abusive ex partners doing the stalking.

It's easy too mock this situation if you haven't been on the receiving end. It is scary because you don't know how far it will go and I bet you aren't being paranoid.

Keep as polite a distance as possible. Try not to antagonise them but keep a log of everything and any photo or video evidence incase it starts stepping up.

Op this sounds frightening. I'm so sorry you are In this awful position. Have you tried reporting her to the police?

Lie about where you're moving to.

sounds weird. Its like the if I have this item my life will transform idea. what is there that on the surface you have and she doesn't because it sounds as if she is going all out to emulate the perfect life as she sees it. The big problem here is her mental health may not be in a healthy state. There is likely something lacking in her life or self esteem that she cannot make her own desicions and be happy with. Bit like when some one copies a celeb right down to the hair, shoes they buy etc. Sometimes it idolisation other times its deeper and more complicated. Im sorry you are having to deal with this.

How could she copy your prinary school application choices if you didn't tell her what they were? Or do you mean she put the ones you told her you'd chosen?

if u are serious.and are worried.that ok.noone can tell you how something makes you feel.but either you are OR or this is real and worrysome.so what to do next which either way ha to be something as this sint pleasant way to live.
could you go to ur local police.be very honest.tell them your worries and just want some advice on whether this is something to worry about or to makr it up with them.you don't no,she could be known for this?aks for advice and be open to them telling you there is "really nothing to fret about madam" then at least you've done all you can here and then can decide what next for your family.

Yeah you need to stop telling her things. And maybe confront her again.

If I came back from holiday and a neighbour told me they got their dp to scale a fucking drainpipe to close a window on my property I would go mad.