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Would you tell your friend to get lost?

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user1498051868 · 30/06/2017 21:50

Me and 2 friends are going for a weekend away,staying in quite a nice hotel.
We are driving down in friends car.
I packed a small suitcase (the smallest size ) and 15 mins ago she texts saying "can't bring a case,boot has alcohol in etc so we are taking a small hold-all...I said I haven't got one and we are leaving at 7 am in the morning.
She replied use carrier bags?????
I said no.
Why tell me this late when there's nothing I can do
Would you be annoyed ?

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Brittbugs80 · 01/07/2017 11:59

Just googled the hotel. I bet they make you carry the cans in too, just to humiliate you a bit more. Your clothes in a carrier bag would have been the cherry on top.

You do know it doesn't have to be a physical/intimate relationship to be an abusive one?

Make sure your card isn't used for all payments. I've noticed they have a spa and they usually charge to the room, which would be straight on your card.

I've a feeling it would have been cheaper for you to cancel and take the £500 hit on credit card than if they start charging things to your room/card. I hope I'm wrong.

Cavender · 01/07/2017 13:41

The Lowry is a five star hotel. You cannot carry three cases of beer across the lobby of a five star hotel!

I'm Blush just thinking about it.

kali110 · 01/07/2017 14:38

Op they're using you.
They're using you because they know you'll put up with it.
THey can can do anything because you'll just go along with it.
These people are not your friends.
it's better to have little friends than lots that treat you like crap.

Whocansay · 01/07/2017 14:56

OP, these women are bullying you and taking your money. Please do as one of the previous posters said and DO NOT USE YOUR CARD FOR THE FINAL BILL.

You will never get the money back for this. Spend nothing more on them. Feign illness this evening so you aren't pressured into buying them dinner / drinks all night. Enjoy the facilities of the hotel on your own.

As for the beer, although this is incredibly classy (and of course you cannot buy beer in Manchester, that famously dry city Hmm), it will reduce what they take from the mini bar, so is probably a good thing.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 01/07/2017 14:57

Fucking hell I just googled prices to stay at the lowry Shock they will never pay their share op. After this weekend please cut your losses with these horrible people and walk away. I've done this in the past and felt like a new person. They are just nasty bullies and not worth your time.

DAMNgina · 01/07/2017 15:03

Whocansay

I almost fear that they are just saying there's beer in the boot as a way to get OP to pack her bags into a Tesco carrier.

Or even if there is a beer boot, they may just empty the contents of the minibar and take it with them.

Cos you know they sound classy.

Either way, OP will pay.

Hopefully it'll be the turning point for her - it's tough when someone has their emotional claws in you.

Have read a bit of her back story on other threads and it makes it so much worse.

Hugs to OP - I wish there was a MN-er at the Lowry who could do something, don't know what though...

Thesingingtoad · 01/07/2017 15:07

This sounds like such a disaster.

It is going to cost you so much more than £500. None of them is going to cough up their share of the room. I'm guessing only your name is in the booking so any mini-bar, meals, spa use and room trashing will be billed to you. If you complain now they will turf you out of the car with your bags for life in your hands. No cost to them except petrol money - (for fucks sake don't pay for any petrol money up front too!!)

You should have acted earlier and told the bank your card had been taken and you believed used fraudulently to book a hotel, and asked for a new card...but it's too late now.

Still, learn from your experience, it's going to be a very expensive one.

None of these bitches are your friends - they are all having shits and giggles at your expense - both financially and emotionally.

Whocansay · 01/07/2017 15:30

I've just read your other thread. Bloody hell! Why are you doing this to yourself?

These people are NOT YOUR FRIENDS. They are horrible bitches. Please cut contact with them when you return and find some better friends.

RoganJosh · 01/07/2017 15:33

Hope you're ok. Shout if you need any cheerleading pom-poms behind you. Smile

Ellie56 · 01/07/2017 16:37

I think you need to wake up big time and smell the coffee. Stuff these so called friends.

Presumably the bill has not been paid yet. You could ring up your card company even now. Either that or expect a huge bill you'll be paying off for months. Sad These horrible creatures are not your friends. They are just users.

Whatwankeryisthis · 01/07/2017 21:36

Hope you're having an ok time OP, they sound like complete knobs Sad

TheNewSchmoo · 01/07/2017 21:47

I bet when she turned up they didn't have holdalls. They are serially humiliating you. This makes me so sad

Writerwannabe83 · 01/07/2017 22:05

I've just read your other thread. Bloody hell! Why are you doing this to yourself?

Which one? Does anyone have a link?

Giraffey1 · 01/07/2017 22:16

Make each of them use their own credit cards at the hotel for their individual to do. Make it clear at check in that your card is for your room only,

CremeFresh · 01/07/2017 22:32

I bet they still say your hold-all is too big . Horrible people .

frozenfairy123 · 01/07/2017 23:10

Really feel for u! Hope u are ok?

Theyhaveallbeenused2 · 01/07/2017 23:17

Hope it's going ok op

Original poster
user1498051868 · 02/07/2017 16:52

Hi everyone sorry I've just had a chance to get on here now..just arrived back home.
Well 1 extra girl (who I didn't know) came too and guess who I had to share a hotel room with?? The strange girl (even tho the other two are really good friends with her)
1 of the girls had brought her small suitcase (filled with makeup ) and basically said in a sarcastic way "my car my rules"
They did have all the beer but I refused to carry any in.
One of the girls especially (we will call her Lisa)constantly made comments to me.
Everyone was dressed and she said how amazing everyone looked etc and wow that dress is amazing and to me ....nothing.
Then we got in the lived and I said "can you move along I'm squashed"
And she rolled her eyes and pulled that face you make when you don't like someone and annoy you..so I snapped back "what are you rolling your eyes at,move along" (I felt proud)
She spent most of the time being short with me,as if I was the but of the joke.
Everyone was asking each other in hotel room "can you pass the deodorant or pass the scissors etc ..I said oh Lisa can you pass the hair spray please"
"Her reply "oh god yes queen jo of course" in a sarcastic tone.
I hand on heart don't think she even likes me..
Friends for over 15 years and that's how I feel.
She will say nice things about the other two but not me...
They went for a "nap" and I went to the shops ..obviously then she said "shopping again ,you've got issues"
Anyway I'm home,it's done..nothing else planned etc.
Do you think she doesn't like me?

OP posts:
Original poster
user1498051868 · 02/07/2017 16:53

Lift not lived ...

OP posts:
noenemee · 02/07/2017 16:55

More to the point, you don't like them, so I wouldn't worry about it and I'd distance yourself.

TheweewitchRoz · 02/07/2017 16:56

She sounds like a bitch & you're much better off without her.

RandomDent · 02/07/2017 17:04

Done now, you know what to do now. :)

DAMNgina · 02/07/2017 17:05

Glad you're back safe and sound OP.

Did they pay their way?

How do you feel about "Lisa"?

Goldmandra · 02/07/2017 17:06

OP, you need to find some ways to get out and make new friends who will treat you with respect. None of the people you spent this weekend with is your friend. You need to walk away from them because being around them will only serve to erode your self-esteem.

Tell us what you enjoy, what interests you, what you're good at and maybe the MN collective can come up with some suggestions of how you can meet some new people who deserve to be called friends.

Jesterstolehisthornycrown1 · 02/07/2017 17:09

She sounds like a playground bully. And all the others are afraid or have some misguided admiration of her so go along with everything she says and does. She is horrible!
I hope you didn't get lumbered with the payment of the rooms?
Did you have a nice time with the new girl? Maybe she felt a bit like you?