To not go with 18 yo DD for an injection?

[danielandgeorgia]

DD is getting that new meningitis injection next week. She wants me to come with her. AIBU to say she is old enough to go alone?

She doesn't want you there because of the injection.

She wants to spend time with you.

Cherish it.

My daughter's 45 and I'd go with her. Avoiding housework would just be the nice little bonus.

You choose doing housework over your daughter? Un-fucking-believable. Your child, and I don't care how old she is, asks her mother to support her, and you would rather attend to housework. I feel so sorry for your daughter. You should be ashamed.

Go with her, then get her to help you with the housework. Sorted.

I hope this is a wind up.

If not, I feel sorry for your daughter.

I feel like I've walked into a parallel universe. I'm very close to my parents and consider myself to be a pretty good mum but if my 18 yo (and I have at least one older than that) told me she wanted me to accompany them for something as mundane as an injection, I'd laugh, in a good way. They need to advocate for themselves.

But, weirdly, if my 25 yo asked me to go, I'd go.

Hopefully she won't be too busy cleaning when you're a bit infirm and need a lift to the hearing clinic!

So housework is more important than your DD?

House work???????

So does this work the other way round then? I've accompanied my parents, especially my mother,
to more medical appts than I can shake a stick at, and it'll get more frequent the older they get. But meh, they're adults. They don't need me there when I've got washing to be done. Must be more assertive...

Execpt they're my parents and I like to help out when I can.

My mil put her ironing before helping us out when we moved house, had sick kids and no one else to ask.
We see her once a year at Christmas for 3 hours or so.

Because she is a self absorbed twat.

I'm 23 and live with my DP... my mum is still coming to my doctors appointment with me next month. And it's london and we're in Devon. YABU. The housework can wait or be split, it's hardly a big deal, your DD wants your support!

My DD went on her own. It was her first doctors visit without her mum. All her sixth form friends had had the letters recommending it so a few had already had it done, so Shen felt she could nip across to the surgery and do it herself. I think she would have had me there if I had offered but I encouraged her to do it alone.

Good job I did because two months later she was away at uni, in another city, having to find her way to a strange hospital wing for all her mandatory vaccinations and blood tests to be a student HCP.

My DD was a very naive and young 18 year old too.

Good luck OP but do encourage her to go alone.

How about you go! Then stuff the housework and take your daughter out to lunch....sounds like she wants to spend time with you!

Some 30 yr olds are scared of injections. This is your daughter. I was still just learning lots of things at 18 and needed my mums support for many things at that age. I still do even now! My mum would drive the 4hrs to be with me if she thought I was anxious about any medical appointment even now at 35.

OP you're very unkind. What'll point do you think you're proving to your daughter?

YABVVVU.

an 18 year old is not a child
As we are all constantly told on MN that 18 year olds are adults and can vote (even calls made for the voting age to be lowered to 16 )
18 year olds need to learn to cope with life and its many nasty moments.

Well aren't you charming. I'm in my 30s and I know I can always rely on my mum for anything.

An 18yr old is maybe not a child, but it is the OPs child and will be forever.

of course the offspring is always a child to their mother but they also need to stand on their own two feet at 18.
Goodness - I cannot be the only one to agree with the OP

If this is real then OP you are being a numpty. Your child wants you there and you have no good reason for not going so go and be a good mum. Nothing to do with independence I would often go with my DSis for medical checkups - sometimes it is just nice to have some company.

Of course she's old enough to go on her own.

But if she's asked for your support why would you withhold it?

This isn't about you accompanying your daughter to the doctors, this is about your daughter wanting to spend time with you and believing that she can rely on you for support when the going feels tough.
My mother is a clinical lead in a busy hospital and I'm older than your DD, I've always appreciated that my mum can't come to everything, but I have swung by her ward and she's given me a hug almost any time I've been hospitalised, sometimes she's taken her lunch just to grab a coffee with me because she's my mum and she knows that I'm worried, and she wants to make sure everything is ok.

Housework is nowhere near as important as your DDs relationship with you.
I'd do the same for a friend, a sibling an old lady at church. But it's your call.