To have dobbed my manager in...

[UndomesticBlonde]

Bit of background - I've been diagnosed with stress-related eczema- so I've taken this week off work sick after finally getting a diagnosis from the consultant - and finding out that I'm otherwise very healthy.
I've been given a care plan after seeing the consultant - and writing this using dictation facility on my computer btw. She recommended I take a few days off to get my condition under control and then return to work next week.
Anyway I love my job but my commute is 3 hours total. I have quite a difficult boss - I know I'm good at my job - in fact I've had a few experiences recently where I was able to solve problems that no one else could. Including my manager who has been there longer than me.
However my manager has been on my back since I started this job - and I finally snapped and sent our head of department an email detailing the issues I had with her. Not least I was given the right to work a day from home but it being made so unbearable (and stressful) that I had no choice but to go back to working in the office.
I'm feeling really guilty but this person has made my work hell at times; having had counselling I've worked out my manager is pretty threatened by anyone around her who can do their job well; which is a shame because there are parts of her job she does very well - just not the managing bit. I'm sitting here wondering what shitstorm I've stirred up; by the way she has another team who report directly to her - and that team has one by one slowly left the company so she's struggling at the moment with a staffing crisis. So I feel bad for having sent our head (who is new to his job) this email...I think I may be sacked when I get back in the office...

[BitOutOfPractice]

They could do useful work as door stops or garden features but no, that's too good for dead people nowadays

[nakedscientist]

All they do is push up daisies while everyone else is working on a skeleton staff.

[BitOutOfPractice]

Well in fairness those lazy daisies won't push themselves up. Garden weeds are feckless shirkers these days

[purpleviolet1]

Lol! Just had a good laugh at some of the comments.

Sorry
To hear off the eczema OP. Have you ever tried taking fish oils? They reduce inflammation in the body which can help things like eczema. Good luck and hope things get better at work.

[nakedscientist]

Some of those daisies are really seedy and the violets, not sure if they're shirking or shrinking...

[Bit, is it just us, has everyone else run away? OP I hope you're OK]

[BitOutOfPractice]

I think it might be just us naked

Honestly, this malingering lot don't know how to flog a joke to death keep an amusing thread going like us dead folks

[UndomesticBlonde]

I'm here -eating salmon actually naked. I will have to update when our restructure takes place. If I have not found another job. I'm quite shocked at how brutal some people are. I've had to completely change my lifestyle , including giving up and also - on the advice of friends with eczema - dairy and wheat. It felt a bit crack pot at the time but the symptoms eased - so even if it was a placebo effect. My social life has suffered and my children haven't had all the attention they deserve because my life has just been about trying to keep working - I'm an unintentional workhorse - only because DH is freelance and we need a reg salary. I've had other symptoms some unpleasant - some not so, dizziness so bad I came into work but had to stay sitting down and pretend I was okay. How I got into work and back home I don't know.

[mikeyssister]

Hope you're not naked in work??

[nakedscientist]

Oh love that sounds really tough. I hope things work out for you. I hope you know that we were making fun of some other posters and not you.

[mikeyssister]

Coddiwomple - FUCK OFF!!

[nakedscientist]

Mikey I haven't got a stitch on under my clothes.

[Coddiwomple]

charming mikeyssister
Do you really think being rude will help put your point across?

[BitOutOfPractice]

What the actual fuck are you on about Coddi In fact, what are you even on?

Several people have very patiently (more patiently than you deserve tbh) explained just how painful and debilitating eczema can be, many from personal experience. Yet you still come back with your snippy sarcastic little diatribe. Have you any idea how nasty you sound? I'm so glad I don't wok for you.

As for your "May I suggest changing job or field and find a more relax environment that doesn't make you so ill" little throwaway comment...patronising and simplistic much?

Here, have a and see if you can get your empathy bypass reversed

[BitOutOfPractice]

Do you really think being rude will help put your point across?

You clearly do coddi with your nasty snide posts

And yes OP I hope you know we are laughing at the "I ran a marathon with a leg hanging off" brigade, not you!

[Coddiwomple]

thank you for the but I prefer

[Increasinglymiddleaged]

I have just asked our head of HR if we ever lost staff due to eczema related issue, apparently not yet, but thank you for giving us a good laugh!

Right so you just wandered up to HR and said 'I'm just pissing around on MN rather than working and there is someone who has had time off for eczema, can you just check through all the sick notes and self cert notes to make sure that this has never happened here?'

O....K....

[memyselfandaye]

@Coddiwomple why are you taking such delight in belittling another person?

What is wrong with you that this issue that has zero effect on your life is making you come across as an angry, bitter, condescending twat?

[Coddiwomple]

thankfully people do have a sense of humour in my office Increasinglymiddleaged, I am aware that a strange concept for someo people.

[mikeyssister]

I'm not sorry I was rude. I watched my DM try to work for years with swollen hands that would crack everytime she tried to bend them, and she would come home in tears because people like you would tell her that her hands were disgusting and they shouldn't have to look at them, that they put them off their lunch and how they didn't want to catch whatever it was she had.

You have no idea how hard this can be for other people, while your sitting in your ivory tower laughing with your HR friends.

[Ceto]

I have just asked our head of HR if we ever lost staff due to eczema related issue, apparently not yet, but thank you for giving us a good laugh!

How lovely for you and the Head of HR, having a merry titter about what can be an extremely serious condition. Next week, let's have a laugh about diabetes, the one after that, cancer. It sounds like s/he is definitely in the wrong job.

And why were you skiving having jolly chats with HR instead of working anyway?

[nakedscientist]

People, coddi is just trying to make it all about her for some reason.

Bit and I were trying to make you laugh

The rest of us hope you keep your job until you get something better crops up and hope that your health improves.

[mikeyssister]

Oh and naked I'm absolutely disgusted that you are naked under your clothes. That really brings down the tone of this thread.

[UndomesticBlonde]

Naked and bit thank you.

[Coddiwomple]

And why were you skiving having jolly chats with HR instead of working anyway?

because I can!
Obviously.

On a serious note, I stick to my point: if your job is genuinely making you ill, then retrain or look for another one. It's not the same as walking out today without a back up, but why would you make your own life miserable without doing something about it?