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To have dobbed my manager in...

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UndomesticBlonde · 29/06/2017 14:34

Bit of background - I've been diagnosed with stress-related eczema- so I've taken this week off work sick after finally getting a diagnosis from the consultant - and finding out that I'm otherwise very healthy.
I've been given a care plan after seeing the consultant - and writing this using dictation facility on my computer btw. She recommended I take a few days off to get my condition under control and then return to work next week.
Anyway I love my job but my commute is 3 hours total. I have quite a difficult boss - I know I'm good at my job - in fact I've had a few experiences recently where I was able to solve problems that no one else could. Including my manager who has been there longer than me.
However my manager has been on my back since I started this job - and I finally snapped and sent our head of department an email detailing the issues I had with her. Not least I was given the right to work a day from home but it being made so unbearable (and stressful) that I had no choice but to go back to working in the office.
I'm feeling really guilty but this person has made my work hell at times; having had counselling I've worked out my manager is pretty threatened by anyone around her who can do their job well; which is a shame because there are parts of her job she does very well - just not the managing bit. I'm sitting here wondering what shitstorm I've stirred up; by the way she has another team who report directly to her - and that team has one by one slowly left the company so she's struggling at the moment with a staffing crisis. So I feel bad for having sent our head (who is new to his job) this email...I think I may be sacked when I get back in the office...

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Coddiwomple · 04/07/2017 12:31



Megbert · 04/07/2017 12:34

Someone will be along shortly with tales of performing their own c-section in the boardroom during a meeting.

Covered from head to toe in eczema.

BitOutOfPractice · 04/07/2017 12:34

I suffer from psoriasis OP - not as bad as you from the sounds of it - and at times it has been an utter utter misery - and it flares up a treat when I'm stressed. I don't think, unless they've suffered from a similar condition or loved someone who has, some people ever really get it. Ignore them OP and concentrate on getting better.

You certainly don't sound like a slacker to me!

BitOutOfPractice · 04/07/2017 12:36

Someone will be along shortly with tales of performing their own c-section in the boardroom during a meeting

Grin With a letter opener and a staple gun!

I started contractions with DD2 at my desk and completed a press release before letting DH know. Can I have my medal now please? Wink

Buffal0buttcheeks · 04/07/2017 12:40

OP ignore the negative, I thought I'd post to say rooting for you, sounds like a good action plan and don't blame you for dobbing your manager in it

UndomesticBlonde · 04/07/2017 12:40

Bit it sounds like we might work in the same industry.
This thread is making me laugh, better than making me cry.
And anything that makes me laugh helps my stress!

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Megbert · 04/07/2017 12:41


Nope, no medal unless you actually gave birth while doing the press release.

But you can have a nice certificate.

Greyponcho · 04/07/2017 12:50

If the stress is causing such symptoms on the skin, I dread to imagine what it's doing to your insides & bits we can't see such as the mental toll.
Humans aren't meant to be exposed to constant stress: it can cause lasting damage. Go on, Coddy, give it a google and then see if you still have the same views wonder if you're a hater of all these slackers with 'invisible' disabilities too? Hmm

nakedscientist · 04/07/2017 12:50

Well I gave birth to quintuplets, UNDER my desk whilst on a conference call where I organised world peace all whilst suffering from flu, athletes foot and nits.......Oh and I PAID my boss for the pleasure...

kate20091985 · 04/07/2017 12:51

Hi OP just wanted to say ignore some of the PPs who are minimising this, they have no idea what you are going through and are attention seeking. One of my best friends had extremely severe eczema several years ago and she worked in a medical setting, so obviously had to take time off until they healed. Her hands were bleeding and she couldn't even close her fingers. I spoke to her a few weeks later and she said they were much better as she was now able to hold a cup of tea. So it absolutely can be that debilitating.

Megbert · 04/07/2017 12:53


kate20091985 · 04/07/2017 12:53

Thought of this reading some of the previous posts Grin
BitOutOfPractice · 04/07/2017 12:55

nakedscientist you are a wimp! Pah!

OP you can always rely on MN to make you laugh, even if sometimes it's an incredulous guffaw!

Penfold007 · 04/07/2017 13:03

Coddiwomple I currently have stress induced eczema on my hands and feet. It is painful and unsightly. My hands are covered in raw angry patches that bleed at the slightest knock or touch. I know what's caused the stress and it isn't something that can be solved at the moment. I've avoided going sick but feel no need to judge those who need to go sick.

Nanna50 · 04/07/2017 13:09

Well I went on maternity leave with my first child at 28 weeks and didn't return until she was a year old so I guess I have no bragging rights.

OP you don't have to justify yourself to anyone.

BitOutOfPractice · 04/07/2017 13:15

Megbert, when you're ready with the certificate. A sticker would do if I'm honest

MsWanaBanana · 04/07/2017 13:16

MyHeartBelongstoG I don't even believe you. No one in their right mind would go back to work 2 days after giving birth. If it is true, if feel so sorry for your poor kids. Leaving a newborn after 2 days. Wow just wow

mikeyssister · 04/07/2017 13:27

My mother had eczema that was so bad that like a PP said she was unable to bend her fingers at all. In the end the HSE decided she had to retire from work on disability and then they transferred her onto an invalidity pension - all because of a little eczema!!

Megbert · 04/07/2017 13:32


To have  dobbed my manager in...
Ceto · 04/07/2017 13:42

And I say that as someone who had exactly the same condition as you.

How can you know you had exactly the same condition, to the same level of seriousness, MyHeartBelongs?

BitOutOfPractice · 04/07/2017 13:44

Thank you megbert. My day is complete now that my superwoman status has been properly acknowledged

I hope it makes everyone else on the thread who are malingering buck their ideas up Wink

nakedscientist · 04/07/2017 13:48

Seriously though, I've not had a sick day off for 30 years and I've been dead since 1972...

BitOutOfPractice · 04/07/2017 13:59

Hmm, I think "dead" is one of those modern made-up syndrome things that only wimps get. In my day we carried on, dead or not.

nakedscientist · 04/07/2017 14:02

That what I mean! one whiff "deaditis" and their off, lying down, getting other people to carry them around...

nakedscientist · 04/07/2017 14:04

sorry for the typos, mummification is not what it used to be

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