To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

[user1498221998]

My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

There's way too much projection going on in this thread.

There's a lot more to looking stunning than the dress you wear.

I don't mean that to belittle you, but to agree that the bride will look beautiful on her wedding day, whatever her weight. Wear what you want. The bride won't be "upstaged" by any dress that looks anything like your link. Anybody even contemplating upstaging a bride will always look foolish more than anything else, imo, even if she's beauty incarnate.

Is there a reason she didn't choose you as a bridesmaid?

Well done on the huge weight loss OP! I think the dress is fine and you should wear it and enjoy the day and the compliments! No one will upstage a bride on their wedding day.
The op has worked hard and deserves to wear something more fitted if she wants. I'm sure there were plenty of occasions in the past when she couldn't.

@poorpearl - exactly that!!

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If in doubt ...

So if you can link us to a picture of a similar dress why can't you just take a picture of the actual dress and put it up ? Very odd .

Congratulations on the weight loss ! Well done on your achievement.

Sorry OP I also agree with your mum.

Why shouldn't the OP wear what she wants?

Am sorry but why should the OP have to look like she has a sack on just because the bride didn't have as much willpower

Maroon? Knee length? Cotton, not clingy? Wear it. It's fine. You're allowed to look nice! You'd have to wear anot actual tent complete with poles to mask 6 stone of weight loss.

Broom I bet you carry it off with panache

What will your friend think and feel? That's the only thing that matters tbh.

does it have the lace see through back and the v between the boobs? I think it is a bit self promoting. I'd take your mum's advice - always err on the side of frump at a wedding if the bride matters - channel your inner Kate Middleton at her DSis's wedding. Now that dress was appropriate!

I can't really picture you describe, the link you sent would not be terribly appropriate, it's not smart enough for a wedding. I agree, the main rule is not to upstage the bride, so if your own mum thought your own dress was not appropriate, I would listen to her.

To give you a rough idea, this is what an appropriate "figure hugging" outfit looks like

Projection?

The OP's Mum seems to think that wearing this dress could make the bride feel shit. I mean, just pick another dress.

Or wear it.

Do whatever you like.

Do you think it will upset the bride op? Not 'should it?' but 'will it?'

I'd wear your figure hugging dress op.

Losing weight is tough, you deserve to be able to show the results off.

can you not wear the dress on the hen night?

Have people read what the OP has said? The dress is maroon coloured and knee length.

OP I think you might be the most concerned about what you're wearing tbh. Everyone will be admiring the bride, not you

Well done on your weight loss

Fine if it's the shape of the dress in the picture but longer. Unless it also has the see through panels that the one in the picture has. They are completely inappropriate for a wedding or any other occasion other than clubbing.

Without seeing the dress this is an impossible question. No matter what you wear, even if you wore one of your old size 18 dresses the weight loss would be obvious, not a lot you can do about that.
So long as it's not massively 'look at me' I can't see the problem, however really can't judge that without a photo....

What a beautiful dress.

And you get to wear it to a close friends wedding.

You'll feel a million dollars.

Have a fab day OP, celebrating with your friend.

As someone who was a bigger bride, I would have been upset if a friend had flaunted her weight loss at my wedding - even if that wasn't her intention, I would still have felt that way.

People will be exclaiming over your weight loss, and how amazing you look, and that will take attention away from the bride. Add to that the fact that she may well be feeling like a failure because she hasn't lost the weight, and you, in a figure hugging dress will make her feel like utter shite on her wedding day. A friend would not do that.

Having lost so much weight, you will have no end of beautiful dresses to choose from, so please do the kind thing, @user1498221998, and choose a less 'stunning', figure hugging one.

If you want to wear it wear it.

Just be prepared for any fallout that it may cause.

I think the dress would look ok with a jacket in theory, but I think mums are usually right and you should listen to yours. She loves you but yet she still felt she ought to say it to you, so I think there must be truth in it

Have seen the dress and suggest it'd be more considerate to wear something less figure hugging.

Do you know the op?