To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

Do you have a photo of the dress? People are going to notice your weight loss anyway, but it might be kind if you wore something that didn't rub her face in it, but without seeing the dress it is hard to say if you are BU.

Don't be coy. Your own thread title asks if you're BU to wear a 'stunning, figure-hugging dress'. You already know it's going to pull attention from the bride.

You don't need to go in a wimple but have a bit of class.

I think do what you want but I would not want to hurt a good friend. Plenty of occasions to wear a fab dress.

Few too many buts in my post there

Could we see a picture of dress?

Well done on your fantastic weight loss, but I think YWBU, sorry. Your mum is right about drawing attention away from the bride, you can avoid looking plain without upstaging her.

Can you described the dress a bit more? Is it just fitted or proper body con style?

I doubt you'll look that unusual, that is, so much so as to upstage the bride. There will be plenty of size 10 guests, I would have thought. As long as your dress does not look like a wedding dress you'll fit in fine.

I don't know why people are saying not to wear it, the op hasn't said it's mega short, so all her legs are out. you can get plenty of dresses that are longer and still tight and plenty of people wear them to weddings.

People are going to notice that you have loads loads of weight no matter what you wear as it sounds like you have lost a lot. Well done :)

Wear what you like, as long as it's suitable for a wedding. The bride will be the centre of attention no matter what.

Oh, and as we're not at a wedding now,
Well done! How'd ya do it? I've got a few lbs to shed and nothing seems to be working.

I think if there's a chance your mum is right, and I don't think you'd be posting in here otherwise, you should find another outfit. You could wear it and justify it with a 'suck it up buttercup' attitude but I don't think that'd be very kind.

Honestly, I see no problem with wearing a nice dress to a wedding. Fundamentally, that's all you're planning to do.

People are going to be wowed by you losing six stone no matter what you wear, so I say wear the dress. I'm sure the bride will be too busy enjoying her wedding day to even notice people complimenting you.

People aren't going to say it's 'vile just to be horrid', what you'll get is honest opinions which it doesn't sound like you want.

Impossible to judge without seeing the dress.

If it's literally second-skin tight Lycra or really short or revealing that's not appropriate wedding attire, regardless of how much you / the bride weighs.

If it's just a lovely dress and you happen to look fabulous in it then go ahead and wear it. I always try to look my best for weddings, not because I am trying to "upstage" anyone, just because I rarely get the chance to dress up so like to look my best.

I definitely don't think you should deliberately make yourself look crap but maybe don't wear anything too 'wow'

It might be simple but apparently it is also stunning in your own words. I think that your well deserved enthusiasm for your new figure is making you a bit blind to the situation. Your mum is not necessarily saying that you want to upstage her but obviously thinks you look amazing enough that you might upstage her.

Are you toned or do you have loose skin? Maybe your mum's trying to be delicate to spare your feelings?

Surely one wouldn't wear a figure hugging dress to a wedding anyway? More normal to have a simple tea dress, no? It would be cruel to upstage her and I think you know this or else you wouldn't be asking.

Fucking hell groupie steady on.

Crack on so.

I think you need to think how you would feel in her place. Your weight loss is substantial so will be noticed without you wearing an obvious dress. Well done on the weight loss by the way. Show us the dress and let us help you to decide?

There's a middle ground between potentially upstaging your friend on her wedding day by wearing "a stunning figure hugging dress" and having to "deliberately look plain"

I'm very toned. No loose skin. The dress looks lovely on.

I'm going against the grain.
As long as the dress hem is not 2 inches below your bum with acres of boob on display, I'd wear it.
I can guarantee that all the female guests are not going to be dressed as Amish housewives, so why should you?
If you've lost 6 stone, it's going to be obvious whatever you wear, unless you're planning on donning an inflatable Sumo wrestler outfit

Firstly, congratulations on your weight loss!

Secondly, I can see both points of view. You want to dress up for your friend's wedding, and you can wear styles and cuts you couldn't before. I get that. But I also see the wisdom of the never upstage the bride advice.

I assume you're going to be there for both the ceremony and the evening celebrations. Could you maybe wear a pretty jacket or something with your dress for the daytime festivities that you could leave off later on in the day? Just a thought.

It would be very unkind to your friend, but tbh it sounds like you don't really care and will wear it anyway, so.