To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

If OP had always been this smaller size than she was, would it be an issue wearing a figure flattering dress?

Let's face it, you're going to wear it anyway, aren't you?

Can't judge until we see it.

One minute it's stunning and figure hugging, the next it's plain. Which is it?

You sound mean spirited OP. Your mum is the one who has seen the dress, and you won't show us, so I'm inclined to agree with your mum.

Wear the dress! Be proud of yourself and your friend should be proud of you too

If you show us a picture it would be easier to judge.

Otherwise, I don't have any idea if you're being unreasonable.

But if you live in my area where I've seen bras and thongs on show at weddings you're probably fine.

Please show us the dress

I attend LOADS of weddings and different styles suit different people. I wouldnt automatically say no long/tight fitting dresses are appropriate attire but it does depend on the dress- split to naval and double leg splits probably a no....But I can't decide if I can't see it!

Hmm i think in your heart of hearts you know that you are wanting to bask in your weight loss triumph, even if it upsets your friend. You may look lovely (and perhaps the hen party may be a better place to show off your achievement) but don't be that friend who tries to make someone else's celebration about themselves.

Hmmm without seeing the dress I'm not sure.

On the one hand, if it's a mega tight nasty Lycra thing with yours tits hanging out then I wouldn't.

But if it was a nice monsoon type number which is clinching and compliments then why not.

This is exactly the sort of thread that the DM loves. If you show the dress, that will be shown in the article, too.

What if the tables were turned? Don't look at it from your newfound confident eyes, try to remember how you used to think and feel when you were bigger 2 years ago and look at ithe from those eyes. You know for a fact you'd be a little put off by it all.

I'd rather wear a potato sack than ever even risk my mates feeling inadequate on the most special day of their lives. It's not a big deal to wear something less figure hugging is it?

Can't find the exact one as it's not from an online retailer but it looks a little like this but longer (knee length) and it is a maroon colour and has embroidery on the shoulders and ends of the dress.

www.asos.com/naanaa/naanaa-bodycon-dress-in-mesh-lace-contrast/prd/8008732?iid=8008732&clr=White&SearchQuery=bodycon%20dress&pgesize=36&pge=0&totalstyles=3098&gridsize=3&gridrow=5&gridcolumn=2

Also I had a very stunning relative with an amazing figure attend my wedding - I was too busy enjoying MY wedding day to give a monkeys how stunning she looked

I think your mum's right. Can't you wear something less 'stunning' to try not to rub your friend's nose in it too much? Also, well done, and how did you lose the weight?

No-one has told the OP to burn the dress but when your own Mum is telling you to rein it in you are probably showboating.

It's a cotton material so doesn't cling to me.

Well done OP.

I think the important thing is that you both tried to lose weight together - obviously not successfully for the Bride.

If the tables were turned, how would you feel about her wearing that dress - really.

You don't sound like a great friend TBH.

almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year,

Is it a very small wedding?

I'd wear that

Is it that short?

Honestly that's not remotely elegant. 😂

If you want to wear it wear it, but I don't think you're a very nice friend. It's not your opportunity to show case yourself it's hers.

She's not really your mate if you care more about showing off your weight loss then upstaging her

Yes, Yes !

We're not going to get to see the picture are we? Because you suspect everyone will say your mum was right. You should be proud of your achievement but really, what is wrong with wearing something's less tight. Figure hugging and elegant don't usually go together so I would be very interested to see the dress.

I feel sad for the bride to be honest.

None of us know you or your friend, but your mum does. Unless there's a back story there (ie your mum also has tried and failed to lose weight) I would take her advice. She's seen the dress and knows whether it has the potential to upset the bride. She sounds very thoughtful. I really would get an alternative that isn't a show stopper. Enjoy the wedding and no doubt all the compliments.

I think you're getting a very hard time.

Wear the dress. It's fine.