To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

That ASOS dress is too short for a wedding imo

Wear a jacket or pashmina with it for the day. Then take off after the speeches.

As long as you don't have your boobs and your thighs out, it'll be fine.

Has yours got sheer panels on it like the one in the picture? It is very clingy. We're you planning on wearing a jacket as well? I think I'd feel a bit naked wearing just that (although I know you said yours was longer)

Sorry Op - way too short for a wedding.

Less is more.

I suspect you are not thinking of this as your friends wedding, you're thinking of it as an opportunity to show everyone how great you look.

As said, for me, I'd dial it down, but I'm not you.

I can't understand why you wouldn't want to wear something gorgeous to a wedding!

The dress isn't my cup of tea personally (much prefer a catsuit) but I always thought as long as it wasn't white and short you can wear what you like - weight loss or no weight loss?

Maybe that's why I haven't been invited to many 🤔😂

Bluntness100 I've explained it is KNEE LENGTH and not the length in the picture.

Op, I suspect you know exactly what you're up to.

Yes the Asos dress is too short for a wedding but mine is longer. Why don't people just read before commenting!

Is it just me or is there a touch of glee when OP says her friend is still a size 18?!

Definitely steer clear of the figure hugging dress. Your figure will still be remarked and admired if you have lost that much weight. But it is bad form anyway, let alone that it is your close friend who you should want to have a wedding where she can shine and glow and do all the other lovely bride stuff.

I agree with the poster who said you are viewing the wedding as a showcase for yourself. Wrong wrong wrong.

Does it have the sheer back panel and the bit around the waist at the front?

OP says hers is knee length.

Broom a catsuit? like this?

I think you're getting a hard time here OP. I'm fat and barely noticed what anyone else wore to my wedding, including a couple of friends who had recently lost loads of weight. I was far too busy being the centre of attention. I don't think you'll outshine the bride, she's the bride, it's all about her (and her DH of course). Wear your dress and enjoy a few compliments, it's not like they're rationed and people can't say nice things to both of you.

Is yours white cotton lace too? A bit kind of like a short sexy wedding dress?

It's not particularly 'stunning'.

There are two aspects to this.

1. will your amazing dress pull focus from the bride? Well, probably not, as there'll be other size 10 guests there, and she's the bride.

1. will your amazing dress make the bride feel a little bit shit on her special day, even if she's blissfully happy to be with her new husband? Probably yes. There aren't many failed dieters who don't feel a twinge of regret, jealously, self-loathing, whatever, when they see a diet partner succeeding where they've failed. And if everyone is cooing, oooh, look how well you've done to shift the pounds all day, as you obviously hope think they will... Well, come on.

It's fine to feel proud of your willpower and achievement, but not at the expense of a friend's feelings on what's HER day. Keep the mesh-backed mini dress for a girls' night out.

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I think you are being very unkind.

It's one day out of your life and one of the most important of your friends!

Why would you want to turn what should be the most special of days for your friend into your show?

Congratulations on the weight loss.

Have seen the dress and suggest it'd be more considerate to wear something less figure hugging.

You sound like a gleeful show off to me. Sorry. Why ask us, you don't care, you are toned, fit and slim, do what you want to do.

Eh? Round my way, everyone wears stunning figure hugging dresses to weddings!

Your mum's seen the dress and thinks it will spoil your friend's day. Even if she's wrong, if the bride really is a friend, why risk it? It's much more important that she doesn't feel upstaged at her wedding. Be kind and don't make it about you. Now you're slim there are endless opportunities to show off your new figure and countless dresses. Leave this one be.

Can we see a pic of you wearing it? Personally, I would wear the dress. Is that not the reason why you lost the weight, to look fabulous? Wear it! It would do your confidence a world of good instead of going there in another dress that you would have chosen so as not to upstage the bride. And who said you would be upstaging???? Wear the dress on which you have set your heart on

Well done op. Wear the dress. Ffs it is maroon and knee length!