To wear a stunning figure hugging dress to a close friends wedding

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My friend and I were both 16 stone this time 2 years ago. We both went on a diet and two years ,later I am now 10 stone and a size 10. She is still 16 stone and a size 18.

It's her wedding next Saturday and I showed my intended outfit to my Mum who said that while it looked beautiful I should wear something plainer and less figure hugging as almost everyone there hasn't seen me for over a year, doesn't know about my weight loss and I will attract too much attention away from the bride with my huge weight loss.

Do you think my Mum is right?

My friend will look beautiful anyway, so I don't see why I should have to deliberately look plain for her wedding!

My mum says it's 'rubbing it in' because she desperately wanted to be slim for her wedding. But that is not my fault.

Lana what I mean is - no one will care! Therefore - wear what the hell you want! People (including me!) spend way too much time worrying abut what other people will think of them, when in reality, most of the time other people are not giving them more than a second thought! OP might feel self conscious in her lovely dress, but she needn't because all eyes will be on the bride and to her

'not' her (not 'to' her) sorry!

Sorry toomuchwine I thought you were meaning to be rude to the op. I often find that women whom use the term "I don’t mean to be a bitch but..." then go on to degrade another woman, so I read it in a similar way. I can see you meant that OP shouldn't worry, there is more going on during the day than one guest's dress. I agree.

I also want equality. To second Vulva's point, to the posters being judgmental, when can women be permitted to be the size that they are (whatever that size may be) without judgment?

This story has been picked up by our local paper, saw saw a link to it on Facebook. I haven't read it but the title was so similar to this thread it must be the same story.

Lionel Messi's fellow players at his wedding this weekend with their wives/gf. If the OP poses like Fabregas' o/h - the lady in the middle - rather than the two beautiful ladies either side then her mother has a point

I see this thread has brought out the mumsnet Cissy and Ada contingent.

I love you Merchant!

Have a fab time at the wedding OP, I bet you look fab and your friend won't mind at all. Many of the suggested dresses were figure hugging but appropriate.

I'm a ten stone size 10-12, not tall but do work out. I'm losing weight and will bloody well enjoy looking amazing in clothes when I hit my target. It's definitely not for men but I do worry far more about what other women think (nasty school bullying legacy), and clearly many women think a lot about what other women wear :(

THIS THREAD IS NOW IN THE DM!!

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4651388/Is-okay-upstage-bride-Weight-loss-success.html

Oh lord!!

Perhaps the kindest thing to do would be to put on all the weight before the wedding? It's the only thing to do! 10 Desperate Dan pies a day.

That blonde woman at Lionel Messi's wedding, my goodness she looks stunning, and her dress is beautiful.

Blonde lady does look incredible.

I got quoted in the DM. I feel dirty.

@dailyfail why wasn't my thread post in your rag? Pissed right off now.
Did op ever pic of the actual dress as it was too much for me to read (lazy).

Good grief! It's a lovely dress. It's certainly not bodycon. Surely OP can wear it with pride! (Well done on your weight loss, btw OP!)

Op congrats on your weight loss Honestly some of the responses on this thread are insane and downright nasty. Don't see the problem in wearing what sounds like a fairly modest dress. Unless as others have probably said you're wearing an actual wedding dress, a bikini or something deemed appropriate by Kim Kartrashian or Liz Hurley I don't see the problem. Perhaps the hysterical posters wailing about potentially upstaging the bride or making a "grand entrance" are visualising this type of scenario. Remember and put on plenty of rouge op

😂 That dress was inappropriate. She looked downright incredible in it, though.

damn right! She wore it well!!

Scarlett O'Hara on AIBU - today I bumped into an old friend which was just delightful as we got to reminiscing about how pretty I still am after all these years. Naturally one thing led to another and I ended up warmly embracing him in a purely mostly platonic hug. At this moment two of the town busybodies walked in and wrongly mistook it as some sort of affair. So as not to drip feed I've been desperately in love with this man for my entire adult life even throughout several marriages to other men. My current DH knows this fact and isn't too happy about it but I feel he's being a little unfair. I mainly coupled up with him as he's loaded and a girl's got to eat. Anyway this friend's birthday party is tonight and I really don't want to go now as all our friends are convinced I'm some sort of harlot trying to steal this other woman's husband. I mean I tried but he knocked me back so I don't see what everyone's problem is! DH forced me to go regardless and insisted I wear a revealing, sequinned red dress which I sort of argued about but then in the end thought well best just to go along with it for an easy life eh. Then when we get to the party DH buggers off and leaves me to enter the function all by myself! It was highly awkward to say the least. AIBU or should I just LTB?

Dont upstage the bride. Tone it down

It was 2 years ago @Jeeperscreepers69. They are probably over it by now

Unless it's a racy skin tight, dead short, boobs out hot date kind of dress I think you'll be fine. I went to a wedding where a guest wore a see thru black crochet dress & black g-string. The Bride & her family were furious. It was the talk of the wedding.

So long as it is not white or body con, not too short and not to much cleavage wear what you want. Congratulations on the weight loss.

Sorry but YABU. Leaving aside your friends feelings, generally it is not considered the done thing to wear overly figure hugging dresses at weddings or anything showy/likely to attract attention. It does depend tho, why don't you compare against what other friends plan to wear? If you are going to stand out compared to them, its likely the dress is a step too far.

Withour disparaging how well you have done to lose the weight, don't see this wedding as an opportunity for you to enjoy/display your newly slim figure. It is your friends day.

Did the OP wear the dress in the end?