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AIBU?

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Original poster

Or is my neighbour a wanker?

358 replies

squirreltrap · 24/06/2017 23:26

I hate not getting on with my neighbours...I like to have them there as support but I've got an ishoo with my newish neighbour and AIBU?

So, there have been a few things...shouting at the kids for being noisy, and when I say shouting I mean shouting and always when I'm not there. I'm a SP if that makes any difference. He does this when I'm not there.

DS15 had some friends over a few weeks ago and they were in the garden and I saw him come up over the wall with a face of rage and he threw a can at them telling them to "shut the fuck up". I had warned him that the gathering was happening but they would be finished by 11 because I know he's noise sensitive. And I moved them inside (9.30) and he must have heard me do this so came knocking saying very nicely "don't move them because of me...don't want to ruin the party". But I'd seen him pop over the wall incandescent with rage so it didn't quite add up

Then today, DS12 went into his garden via a gap in the fence to get his football and found TWO BIN BAGS of footballs that were all ours.
The wall I talk about is something he built as soon as he moved in and had previously complained about DS12 kicking the ball against it and we took it and never did it since.

AIBU thinking what sort of wanker bags up footballs rather than just throw them back?
We live in a semi, you just have to deal with neighbours? It may sound like we are nightmares but the reality is the ds's play football in the garden once a week max, and that's discounting winter and rain, the ball goes over maybe once a month and so he's been storing these for over a year.

OP posts:
Notknownatthisaddress · 24/06/2017 23:44

'It's the first time the ball has gone over in over a year'

'The ball goes over once a month.'

Which is it? Confused

Nicknacky · 24/06/2017 23:45

In case you missed my question, why is your son raking through his bin bags on his property?

FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 24/06/2017 23:46

Hello - I said his behaviour was odd in my reply, I am someone, thank you. But I also saw it from the man whose garden was being intruded intos side as well. I still don't get why you wouldn't ask for balls back/notice they were all missing

Original poster
squirreltrap · 24/06/2017 23:46

As I said in the OP I know he has noise issues, and I am considerate of this.

And am not noisy.

The kids aren't either

We are a quiet family.

OP posts:
Allabitmuchisntit · 24/06/2017 23:46

I don't understand the bags of balls thing?

Bags of balls is a lot of balls.

You must have bought a lot of balls over the past year? Did this not bother you?

And you consider your neighbour to be new, even though he's been there a year or more?

I'd bag up your balls too. Balls bagged. Bagged up balls. Balls in a bag.

Maybe your kids should play Twister or something instead.

tabulahrasa · 24/06/2017 23:46

I back on to a park, kids go there to play football, so there's literally someone's playing football at my fence if it's daylight, sometimes after.

I have 4 footballs that nobody's come round for, how the hell does one child kick over 2 bag fills?

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 24/06/2017 23:47

What sort of wanker who's home all day keeps buying her kids footballs

Erm, OP said she was a single parent, this doesn't mean she's home all day Hmm

And no need for name calling.

However OP I think YABU, it must get irritating having balls in the garden all the time, does your son not go ask for them back?

Zoflorabore · 24/06/2017 23:48

My ds is 14 and occasionally plays football in the garden and more often than not he will kick a ball over the back, neighbour always throws it back at some point.

Have you asked for the balls? How old are his dc?

I find it strange that A- your sons haven't mentioned all of these balls going missing and B- who on earth pays for all of the balls? I know from buying them that they are not cheap.

Definitely more to this story I think.

Original poster
squirreltrap · 24/06/2017 23:48

The first time they've been in the garden for over a year

The boys have not been going round / over because he's shouted at them. Today they went in his garden and by his garage found 2 bags full of their balls

OP posts:
TheStoic · 24/06/2017 23:48

His anger and yelling is not good. But it does kind of sound like you are annoying neighbours in this scenario.

PovertyJetset · 24/06/2017 23:49

Two bin bags of footballs is very extreme- how could you not notice them
Being gone and ask for them back??

You've pushed your rNDN to the edge of reason!!

Nicknacky · 24/06/2017 23:49

For the third time op, in case you missed it.....why were you kids looking in his bin bags on his private property?

KindleBueno · 24/06/2017 23:50

Why were they looking in bin bags beside a garage that isn't theirs?

RickOShay · 24/06/2017 23:51

op
i think your neighbour is out of order.
I woul talk to him about all of this. I think the responses on this thread are awful.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 24/06/2017 23:51

Two bin bags of balls?

Kicking a ball repeatedly against a wall for god knows how long?

A teenager party until ELEVEN?

Dear god. Teach your kids how to behave and set some boundaries.

ChicRock · 24/06/2017 23:52

So your kids frequently make enough noise when you're not home that the neighbour shouts at them, you provide them with an endless supply of footballs to kick into his garden, and today they've gone uninvited onto his property and started rooting around in binbags.

Your neighbour is not the wanker, you are. Get a grip of your children and teach them some respect and manners.

Original poster
squirreltrap · 24/06/2017 23:52

I don't know why and how they decided to look in the bag.
I think maybe they were slightly open?

They weren't in his wheelie bin, they weren't searching through his rubbish.

OP posts:
DailyMailReadersAreThick · 24/06/2017 23:52

Today they went in his garden and by his garage found 2 bags full of their balls

Seriously?

Your kids do that and instead of giving them a bollocking for trespassing on your neighbours' property, you're annoyed about the balls?

This has got to be a wind up thread.

tabulahrasa · 24/06/2017 23:52

"The boys have not been going round / over because he's shouted at them."

So they just spent at least £100 on balls instead?...

Zoflorabore · 24/06/2017 23:53

Sorry op I misread and thought he has dc too.

ArchieStar · 24/06/2017 23:53

Growing up if a neighbour told me I could get my ball/whatever from over their fence I would not assume I could just enter their garden. I would assume they meant to knock on the door and politely ask for it back with an apology of it going in in the first place.

Maybe he's the type of person to feel threatened by a load of teenagers too? Some people are. If they have been particularly rowdy in his eyes he's not going to be nice, he will tell them to shut up. The language used (and definitely the can throwing) isn't nice though. Though maybe he's tried speaking to them when you haven't been there and he's realised it's the only thing that stops them?

Who knows.

khajiit13 · 24/06/2017 23:53

Eh? Surely if your child kicks a ball over they should go and ask for it?? If there are two bags full why weren't you asking your kids why your were replacing so many balls? Your kids needs a new place to kick about or get a better aim. Sounds annoying for your neighbour

ArchieStar · 24/06/2017 23:53

Also I'm another wondering why on earth so many balls are being bought. Just go and ask for it back when it goes over. Simple!

Nicknacky · 24/06/2017 23:54

They shouldn't be searching around his property. The balls have been kicked in with no effort to retrieve them. Are you expecting him to kick them back every time? Why should he when it's a persistent problem?

sobeyondthehills · 24/06/2017 23:55

Erm, OP said she was a single parent, this doesn't mean she's home all day

No she didn't

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