Or is my neighbour a wanker?

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I hate not getting on with my neighbours...I like to have them there as support but I've got an ishoo with my newish neighbour and AIBU?

So, there have been a few things...shouting at the kids for being noisy, and when I say shouting I mean shouting and always when I'm not there. I'm a SP if that makes any difference. He does this when I'm not there.

DS15 had some friends over a few weeks ago and they were in the garden and I saw him come up over the wall with a face of rage and he threw a can at them telling them to "shut the fuck up". I had warned him that the gathering was happening but they would be finished by 11 because I know he's noise sensitive. And I moved them inside (9.30) and he must have heard me do this so came knocking saying very nicely "don't move them because of me...don't want to ruin the party". But I'd seen him pop over the wall incandescent with rage so it didn't quite add up

Then today, DS12 went into his garden via a gap in the fence to get his football and found TWO BIN BAGS of footballs that were all ours.
The wall I talk about is something he built as soon as he moved in and had previously complained about DS12 kicking the ball against it and we took it and never did it since.

AIBU thinking what sort of wanker bags up footballs rather than just throw them back?
We live in a semi, you just have to deal with neighbours? It may sound like we are nightmares but the reality is the ds's play football in the garden once a week max, and that's discounting winter and rain, the ball goes over maybe once a month and so he's been storing these for over a year.

No, it wouldn't be theft.

Trespassing is illegal. The neighbour could call 101, and a local community police could come round and caution the teenager for trespassing. It really is wrong to just go into next doors garden without being invited. He boarded up a gap in the fence to stop him doing this very thing.

There's every chance he was okay with the odd football, but then became pissed of with your sons being entitled and crawling into his garden to get the ball back. The fact you didn't think the best part of 20 footballs had gone missing is odd. Who doesn't notice that at least 1 football a month has gone missing. Did your son never think to knock on the bloody door and politely ask for them back?
The bit about the party, he may have had no issues with the noise originally, assuming it would naturally quieten down, but if a party was still going on at 11pm I'd be in a fowl mood.

That would be funny DMRAT if I suggested calling the police. But I didn't. Because it would be almost as ridiculous as calling them about the kid next door coming over to get his football.

And trespass is not a criminal offence. You can try and sue for the benefit they have received from being on your land but good luck with that.

It is threads like this that make me think it really is true that the British really don't like children, as is reputed.

'Family from hell'
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ManyManyShoes Mon 26-Jun-17 07:17:26
^And are partners of other ethnicities incapable of displaying of incandescent rage? Your logic is flawed, mathanxiety"

I would love it if you would spell out for me the logic of your post there.

Agreed math. British children consistently have low marks in happiness surveys, compared with both Europe and the reston of the world. We are failing them, socially and educationally.

TDHManchester - are you tongue in cheek when you suggest domestic incidents should only be conducted during civilised hours?