To want a film I don't feel comfortable with, turned off?

[Knightly]

DH and I were just casually sitting, flicking through channels. He stopped on one film, no idea what it's called, but it had already started in full swing.

I didn't have a clue to the story line and neither did DH so not able to fill me in. He said he knew roughly he thought and her identity was different and she was in hospital.

Next thing I know a woman has woken up in a hospital gown screaming and looking at her hands.

Then some nurse brings in this bloke who has paid to have sex (rape), with her. Nurse was under impression she was still knocked out. Nurse leaves and when rapist gets to it, she bites his tongue off.

I said "DH, I don't feel comfortable with this. Can you turn it off?"

"No, ffs"

I said "Well I am leaving the room then because I feel uncomfortable".

"Fuck sake. Fine! I'll turn it off"

I said "Don't worry, I'm going anyway due to the way you're speaking to me".

He said "Well no, it's just always about what you want".

Was I being unreasonable here? It didn't help that I didn't know the story line, so essentially film was just graphic scenes with no plot to me.

Also, anyone know what film it is? Is on now.

Im sure he's a lovely man just a bit under pressure, maybe he has a terribly stressful job or some other important issue that's bothering him

Maybe he is, and maybe he does. Maybe that 'other important issue' is exactly what I suggested.

Who knows. Certainly not you or anyone else on this thread including the OP if she doesn't challenge him about his response.

Anyway, I'm bored of internet conjecture so I'm off to deal with real life issues instead of chat board twattery. My elderly father who has bowel cancer has just shat himself (again) so I'm off to deal with the aftermath.

Have fun!

Yes they need to talk about it, I've repeatedly said so. That doesn't mean that there is anything that can justify his response. Perhaps explain it, and give a clear indication what kind of person he is. But not make it a reasonable bit of behaviour. I find it interesting what kind of behaviour people seem willing to explain away or tolerate from their partners. I find it strange how many people think that the OP was out of order for saying how she felt and asking for the film to be stopped.

I can think of a few things that may justify his response. If you live your life looking at everything as black and white then there's nothing I can do about that.