To want a film I don't feel comfortable with, turned off?

[Knightly]

DH and I were just casually sitting, flicking through channels. He stopped on one film, no idea what it's called, but it had already started in full swing.

I didn't have a clue to the story line and neither did DH so not able to fill me in. He said he knew roughly he thought and her identity was different and she was in hospital.

Next thing I know a woman has woken up in a hospital gown screaming and looking at her hands.

Then some nurse brings in this bloke who has paid to have sex (rape), with her. Nurse was under impression she was still knocked out. Nurse leaves and when rapist gets to it, she bites his tongue off.

I said "DH, I don't feel comfortable with this. Can you turn it off?"

"No, ffs"

I said "Well I am leaving the room then because I feel uncomfortable".

"Fuck sake. Fine! I'll turn it off"

I said "Don't worry, I'm going anyway due to the way you're speaking to me".

He said "Well no, it's just always about what you want".

Was I being unreasonable here? It didn't help that I didn't know the story line, so essentially film was just graphic scenes with no plot to me.

Also, anyone know what film it is? Is on now.

RebelRogue.
Yes.
No one has the right to tell any adult what they can and can't watch, whether they like it or not.

Any - 100% spot on with your post yesterday at 21.55 - that is exactly how people who love and care for one another react.

All the posters who are lauding the film and determinedly explaining the scene in question are spectacularly missing the point.

He could not get to the remote control quick enough. He knocked over the coffee table in his haste to shut it down then ask if I was ok to carry on watching.

That is what people who care for each other do

This x 1,000,000

This is what DH does for me too. I don't need to ask 😍😍😍

Why on earth would anyone need their DH to change a bloody to channel for them?

@Shwangalangadingdong well in OP's case because certain scenes are triggering and upsetting due to being abused as a child.
I consider that a very good reason.

Yes I understood the OP. What I don't understand is why grown women expect their other halves to police the TV and censor certain parts on their behalf by knocking over furniture to change channels on their behalf?

You clearly don't understand Shwang, but I really can't be arsed to explain it to you. Try reading Any's post again.

I didn't expect him to do anything, nor would I even allow my husband to censor my viewing for me. You are clearly not familiar with my MN back catalogue

I was simply illustrating that on that one occasion he demonstrated some empathy and compassion that op's H and some of the people on this thread might benefit from taking note of

It's not rocket science

I understood that some posters were saying their DH's turn off if material of a sensitive nature comes on. Is there something I missed there? What I don't understand is why an adult woman can't do that herself. In the case of the OP her partner presumably had the remote but if the remote is on the coffee table why is it up to him to turn over?
I would be pretty fucked off if someone else decided to censor what I watched since I turned 18

Crossed posts there. Again I understand empathy and compassion. I personally found kill bill cathartic as a previous poster said for my own personal reasons.

The point went thattaway >>>>>>>>

I wouldn't watch it either I just don't watch violent stuff. If other people want to that's their business

I would have just left him to it

Any it's as frustrating as trying to knit custard isn't it?

Kill bill is brilliant and when you watch the whole thing it's got a story to it but it is violent. I don't think you're being unreasonable but if it were me and I hadn't wanted to watch it I would have just gone to a different room to read or something. Him getting mad at you for asking and getting snappy was a bit unreasonable.

OP I hate violence too. DH watches those films when I'm out.

Er, Any I beg to differ but from your anecdote it sounds like you did allow him to censor your viewing even if it was meant in a kind and compassionate manner.
It may seem as though I am being pedantic here but I have had this done to me before (The Accused if anyone's interested) and I found it incredibly patronising

@AnyFucker look at you being all censored and stuff .

Why is there talk of censorship? Any's husband was aware of the upcoming content, so turned it off whilst he established whether it was ok to carry on viewing it. That's hardly censoring! It's having some understanding of your partner's feelings.

Can't be arsed to engage further.

I'll just check with my hubby if thst's ok 1st though

If you're both watching something neither of you have seen, then I guess it was obvious from the build up what might happen and both adults are responsible for deciding whether to continue watching or not.
If it's something one person has already seen and knows it could be grim you discuss it beforehand, as in the case of Apocolypto mentioned earlier (which is incredibly violent)
Or you could just listen to the warnings at the beginning of programmes and decide then. It's not rocket science, we don't need men to protect us from fecking telly

Any is right
However the areselicking is not

Arse licking ? There is agreement/disagreement. That's it.

Everyone saying how wonderful Kill Bill is and OP should really watch it because it's actually a film about revenge (or whatever). It's wonderful in your opinion. Your opnion doesn't automatically make it a brilliant film. One of my favourite films wouldn't neccessarily be one of yours and I wouldn' be telling you you should watch it because of how great it is. You're all stating that it's brilliant as a fact and it isn't, it's your opinion.

OP I had heard rave reviews about KB so last time it was on I tried it. I got as far as Uma T killing a woman graphically in front of her child. I saw the scene you're referring to, I thought it was horrible. I turned it off because in my opinion there was fuck all wonderful about it - in my opinion. I know other people like that genre - good for them. I don't and I completely get where you're coming from.