to not be able to get over DH'S fussy eating?

[wowl]

I'm prepared to be told I am, but I'm just at the point of being beyond frustrated and into very angry. I'm probably being ridiculous so this is a bit lighthearted but I am frustrated.

I don't remember him being this bad when we got together. I really don't. I'm an adventurous person but not even that adventurous an eater, the food I like is perfectly normal. I used to bend to what he liked and cook things he'd eat (SAHM of a toddler) but now we live with another family member who also likes what I like so the fact he won't eat it is really being rubbed in my face now.

Meals he will eat:

• beef burgers with chips (picks the salad out if at a restaurant)
• margarita pizza
• chicken nuggets or breaded chicken breast and chips
• toad in the hole
• sausages in a baguette or with mash and peas
• fish and chips
• tikka masala
• lasagna if pushed
• cheese sandwiches

...that's pretty much it. Made non-spicy fajitas tonight and he's picked over one for 45 minutes

I just feel like I'm living with 2 children instead of one, and I find it a massive turn off. It's driving me mad at the moment, so AIBU to be really annoyed by this? He says he "tries new things" but that means taking one bite and making faces. I can't take it anymore!

Quite how he doesn't have scurvy is sometimes a mystery to me...

Wowl I couldn't do it.
I love food/eating out/trying new things and cuisines so I probably wouldn't be in a long term relationship with a fusspot but that sounds ridiculous

Honestly I'd make what you wanted and if he doesn't eat it or cook himself tough shit! I'm all for being reasonable and not cooking something he'd hate but why stress yourself. He's an adult.

Ugh. No. That would be a massive turn off.

I have a friend who is exactly like this. Exactly the same list of foods too. It's infuriating and makes meals out very awkward. Yanbu for being irritated big you can't make him like things.

Is your husband aged 4.

Seriously I'd stop shopping/cooking for him. If he wants to prepare himself chicken nuggets every night let him crack on.

Massive turn off, yes. Can you talk to him about it? My second reaction: Is he ill? Something that makes certain food taste weird for him? Just because you said you can't remember him being like this in the past.

We don't all like the same things, I hate food dislikes being labelled as fussy. But this is MN and you are meant to like everything here.

Yanbu
I felt annoyed for you just reading your post. I have a friend like this and it annoys me as I find it so childish.

Whether he's labelled as fussy or whatever, taking one bite and making faces is pathetic.

he eats what he eats.... you have to accept it.

Cook your own food and leave him to his own devices.

Don't have time for such nonsense.

Would do my nut in would that.

My dh was similar, I have retrained his palette, he had never Even tasted a curry when we met! Now loves them.

I put it out OR tell him what he is cooking for tea and leave it at that. No discussion, argument, negotiations. I'm feeding 4 people in this house, not being dictated to by one. No way.

chic maybe he's pulling faces because the food is disgusting. Or maybe because he has been served a dish he can't stand but trying too it because he's hungry or doesn't want to seem ungrateful.

I'm a "fussy" eater, if my husband fancies something I know I won't eat he cooks his food and I make something I like. He's never complained over what I won't eat.

Laguna no it isn't. But there is always someone getting butthurt because they are fussy and they take umbrage about other people getting annoyed with it.

Obviously, SEN, issues with texture etc. notwithstanding because if I don't then someone will jump on me.

Massive, massive turn off imo.

He eats like an annoying fusspot child. In fact, most children I know are pretty adventurous eaters.

I think this would actually cause real issues in my relationship.

I like to travel and part of that is trying local cuisine, I like to do things on the spur of the moment and eat out in nice restaurants, not look for somewhere that serves chicken nuggets and sit opposite someone who pulls a face at the merest hint of anything with flavour ...

I can't imagine doing things I love to do with someone who can only eat beige food, I imagine the rest of his life is as bland as his palate.

Either get him to make his own dinner, or just get in a short list of his acceptable foods and serve him those every night. Margarita pizza, breaded chicken, tikka massala ready meal. Repeat every three days.

I would struggle to tolerate this from a child, much less a fully grown human! YANBU. Tell him to cook his own - or go down the pub and order off the kids menu, because that's what it looks like!

This is my DH. Processed over homemade every time and his favourite food ever is a plain cheese (mild cheddar) sandwich with no butter on plastic white bread. It's like he has no tastebuds. His family are the same with some added salad but nothing made from scratch and no baking ever. No interest in food or world foods. My DH is a real typical Scotsman - its all macaroni pies and butteries and fizzy irn bru and crisps. He also does the turning over stuff on his plate and picking out bits. I, in turn, have a real interest in food and cooking and although I'm not well travelled, love to try different foods.

I get by by having separate meals a few nights a week - he & kids will have a cheese & tomato pizza (kids sometimes make their and have grapes/tomato/pepper/cucumber on the side and sometimes dough balls or garlic bread). I'll have a smoked salmon & prawn marie rose or chicken caesar salad. Or he'll have mince & tatties and I'll make my mince into chilli tacos or chilli & rice.

I do find it a real turn off and would love for us to have a shared interest in food, recipes, cooking etc. I don't remember this being such an issue when we got together but it was 17 years ago and I was blinded by young love! However I love him and he's got lots of good points so I put up with it as I'm sure I drive him up the wall in other ways. I do sympathise though!

Jimi You just sound controlling! Would you like to be TOLD what you're eating??

I wouldn't tolerate this infantile behaviour from my kids. I would be massively turned off if I were you. This is ridiculous.

This is the EXACT SAME list as my (super fussy) 8 year old!

aqua it's hardly infantile if the guy doesn't like something does it?