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To bake a cake with DD and take it to the mosque?

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PixiePopPops · 19/06/2017 08:56

I know it's a tiny gesture in the grand scheme of things. But I thought maybe baking a cake for the worshippers to eat when they break their fast tonight might be a nice idea? We live a couple of minutes away.

It's just, in other terrorist attacks, there is an immediate outpouring of love and support. Athough it's early, there seems to be a lot less today. Coupled with the biased media reporting. Thought it might be a nice way of showing solidarity and love.

But are they going to be in mourning? Does it seem patronising? I'll absolutely accept if I am BU, please don't flame me.

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Syc4moreTrees · 19/06/2017 11:30

alpacas obeying husbands is a tenant of most religions, so i wouldn't let that colour your views too much.

alpacasandwich · 19/06/2017 11:34

Most religions don't have this on their website:

www.islamiccentre.org/presentations/hijab.pdf

alpacasandwich · 19/06/2017 11:34

Women, be mindful of your chastity and don't look at men Hmm

alpacasandwich · 19/06/2017 11:35

"Women of bad character show their figures to strange men". Ugh.

LotusBomb · 19/06/2017 11:37

You don't have to agree with the beliefs to demonstrate compassion for people alpaca.

LotusBomb · 19/06/2017 11:37

If that was enough to put you off then I question the integrity of your initial intention altogether.

alpacasandwich · 19/06/2017 11:39

I just wouldn't feel comfortable rocking up there with a cake when they think I don't have a right to be a woman in a public space unless I am covered from neck to feet.

LotusBomb · 19/06/2017 11:45

Your perogative. But I live in a conservative Islamic country and don't get treated any differently by the Muslims that I encounter on a daily basis, male and female. They seem perfectly capable of separating my beliefs from theirs and treating me as a human being so I'm sure we can all do the same. If you were moved to carry out an act of kindness, go ahead and carry it through. We need more of that right now.

alpacasandwich · 19/06/2017 11:46

It's probably just my anxiety worrying that I'll be judged.

wheresmyphone · 19/06/2017 11:49

Lovely idea.

BusterGonad · 19/06/2017 11:50

For goodness sake, the Op wants to take cake, why is everyone suggesting otherwise? I expect there will be plenty of dates, and why biscuits? Go for it Op if it will make you happy. Who doesn't love a homemade cake?

LotusBomb · 19/06/2017 11:51

I hear you but don't let that stop you. Most people do see the good in others despite any difference in religious beliefs :)

Caillou · 19/06/2017 11:54

My husband is fasting, and in that heat, he says fruits is all he fancies,

It is a very nice thought that you are having op :)

barrygibbscheekbones · 19/06/2017 12:33

I don't think you will get anywhere near there today. My office is 5 mins from where the attack happened and it took me 30 mins this morning to walk from the tube as so many roads shut.

Very strange atmosphere here this morning.

barrygibbscheekbones · 19/06/2017 12:35

Oops just seen that you didn't mean the Finsbury Park mosque.
I'm sure your local mosque will be happy to receive such a nice gesture.

waitforitfdear · 19/06/2017 12:37

foxy

It's been reported continually on radio 5 live.

everthibkyouvebeenconned · 19/06/2017 12:38

What a wonderful thought OP.

The fact you want to make the cake with your daughter heartens me too

MrsPeelyWaly · 19/06/2017 12:38

My husband is fasting, and in that heat, he says fruits is all he fancies

But you'll know that people graze and whilst cake may not be what a lot of people would break their fast with it's something they might have later in in the evening.

IntrusiveBastards · 19/06/2017 12:40

It's a nice gesture but unless you were a known cake maker then I'd avoid it. OCD and thoughts on poor hand hygiene would out me off. I'd also be suspicious. Sadly people do things that look nice but are horrid. Things in sweets for example

Flyinggeese · 19/06/2017 12:47

alpaca each to their own though. I can't believe you had a lovely thought then were put off by this! A real shame.

speckledostrichegg · 19/06/2017 12:53

alpaca a quick search would bring up similar ideologies on orthodox Jewish, Christian etc websites

I, and I'm sure the majority of other posters, know many male&female Muslims who don't agree with those views

disastrousflapjack · 19/06/2017 13:03

I don't think it matters in this case whether you agree or disagree with aspects of the religion. They are people. People who are probably concerned about this sort of incident being a reflection of how they are seen in the wider community, and anything that shows that we don't want distrust and prejudice to spread any further, is a positive symbol imo. I'm Jewish. I disagree with lots of teaching of my own and other religions and to that end, am an atheist, but giving a cake to show solidarity is something I'm all for.

TakeMe2Insanity · 19/06/2017 13:11

I am muslim, take it to the mosque office, say its for iftar. There will be plenty of people to eat and appreciate it this evening.

Thank you

everthibkyouvebeenconned · 19/06/2017 13:12

flapjack great post

PixiePopPops · 19/06/2017 13:14

I did it! I took some dates too. Seemed really really well received and the people at the front desk (it was like a cultural centre/ mosque) were lovely. Had a nice chat about love and tolerance and solidarity being the only things that will beat these wankers. They invited me to eat with them later, but unfortunately it's a bit late for my DD and I'm a lone parent. So they gave my little DD a sweet in return Smile really glad to have done it, actually. Thanks for everyone's encouragement.

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