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To not want to be cummed on?

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 19:23

My dp does not do condoms and I'm not a fan of the pill. We use the withdrawal method and he, without fail cums somewhere on my body. This was the same with my Xh and most of the blokes I've been with in the past. What do they get out of it? Is it like pudding to mark your territory?

I've mentioned it to my dp and his chilled out self always says 'sure, next time' but then gets 'caught up in the moment, and it ends up somewhere on my body Hmm.

I'm not being unreasonable to resent being covered in someone's body fluids am I?

OP posts:
FreeSpiritJen · 02/06/2017 20:01

@onionknights

He needs a cum rag or sock.

He needs a 'Penis Beaker.' (Yeah I know someone said it already, but it never stops being funny...) Grin

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PoweredByCaffeine · 02/06/2017 20:01

Where does he put the pre cum?

I BF, am on the mini pill and use condoms and still worry Blush

I'd of thought in the moment if you don't use condoms it's inevitable. Could you try a femidom? Are they still around?

But I agree in theory, if he doesn't want to use condoms he should dispose of his waste if you've asked him not to dispose of it on you.

Sparklingbrook · 02/06/2017 20:01

He doesn't sound very nice. He finds it a turn on and you don't like it. That's not great.

I didn't realise it was lighthearted. So it's not a problem really?

Flyinggeese · 02/06/2017 20:01

OP to say 'resent being covered in someone's body fluids' It doesn't sound like you like him, or sex (with him), much anyway.

However, the fact remains if you say no he should respect that.

FreeSpiritJen · 02/06/2017 20:01

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To not want to be cummed on?
MiddleClassProblem · 02/06/2017 20:01

Also agree with Giddy. Why would you prefer a wet patch obvs the bed then have to faff changing the sheets or ew! Sleep in it!?!

TheNoseyProject · 02/06/2017 20:01

A healthy couple takes usually 6 months to conceive - 9 months (since sept) proves nothing of the effectiveness of this method as no doctor would say there was anything worth investigating until 12+... borrowed time my friend!

PoweredByCaffeine · 02/06/2017 20:02

I'd rather that then the sheets though, better to wash it off then marinate in it Blush

FreeSpiritJen · 02/06/2017 20:03

Sorry I posted the pic twice in error. Didn't think it had worked first time round.

ImperialBlether · 02/06/2017 20:04

I'm a million times more horrified at your casual attitude to getting pregnant than I am to where he leaves his semen.

Rainydayzandmondays13 · 02/06/2017 20:05

Can't he cum in his hand like my dp used to? Oh and my 19 month old is a result of the withdrawal method

MaisyPops · 02/06/2017 20:07

You don't do condoms.
You don't do the pill.
You don't like him getting cum on you (fair do, but whilst it doesn't turn me on, I'm not bothered and I'd rather wipe it off me than have it on the bed).

Must admit I'm not really sure what you want as a solution, you can't expect him to get close and then right before find a cloth and use it. And that's before the logical issue that the withdrawal matter isn't contraception.
Sounds like the beaker thread.

metspengler · 02/06/2017 20:07

Tell him what you told us, that you consider his bodily fluids disgusting and his orgasm feels like an animal going to the toilet on you to mark its territory.

Should solve your problem pretty quickly whichever way he takes it. Grin

PollyPerky · 02/06/2017 20:07

There is no correlation between taking a while to get PG once and it always taking ages to happen again.

First DC took around 8 months of trying, 2nd one night- at the wrong time of a safe period- though we didn't mind as were planning it soon anyway.

You are going to cum a cropper my love :)

CountryCaterpillar · 02/06/2017 20:08

I took about 8-9 months of active trying first pregnancy. Fell first time second time around and we had just excited to stop contraception and see where it goes..

CountryCaterpillar · 02/06/2017 20:08

Pollyperky snap!!!!

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 20:09

Ok, I'm hall with out 2:4 blended family. Off to the GP for me. Thanks mumsnet.

OP posts:
PollyPerky · 02/06/2017 20:09

I don't actually 'get' your aversion to one small teaspoon of fluid.

Presumably you don't swallow either?

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 20:10

happy Ok, I'm hall with out 2:4 blended family

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 20:11

I don't mind swallowing but sex is usually midday or mid Peppa pig and I don t have an opportunity to shower.

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Moussemoose · 02/06/2017 20:12

PollyPerky

You are going to cum a cropper my love

I see what you did thereGrin

Well it made me laugh anyway.

ComputerUserNotTrained · 02/06/2017 20:17

Hang on, you've been together all of five minutes (assuming you started having sex not long after you got together), both of you have a child each already, and you're not bothered about getting pregnant?

I'm hoiking my judgy pants, sorry.

guffaux · 02/06/2017 20:18

reminds me of the joke...

i gave my wife a massive orgasm last night...

did she like it?...

no, she spat it out

NotYoda · 02/06/2017 20:18

You don't sundu like a shrinking violet OP

Sparkling

Didn't realise that about the Sex Topic. OTOH everyone on AIBU is exactly who they purport to be...

NotYoda · 02/06/2017 20:18

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