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To not want to be cummed on?

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 19:23

My dp does not do condoms and I'm not a fan of the pill. We use the withdrawal method and he, without fail cums somewhere on my body. This was the same with my Xh and most of the blokes I've been with in the past. What do they get out of it? Is it like pudding to mark your territory?

I've mentioned it to my dp and his chilled out self always says 'sure, next time' but then gets 'caught up in the moment, and it ends up somewhere on my body Hmm.

I'm not being unreasonable to resent being covered in someone's body fluids am I?

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PeaFaceMcgee · 02/06/2017 19:33

It's a porn thing. If you've asked him not to and he still does, it's assault.

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 19:33

We've got a child each from previous relationships but that's enough!!! It's like having twins.

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Mollie85 · 02/06/2017 19:34

Billy Connolly: "I'd personally like to thank the Catholic Church for the "withdrawal method"... without which, I wouldn't be here... Grin

My friend is 8 months pregnant also having used the withdrawal method "with added douching" Confused Blush so if you really don't want to get pregnant op, please do bear that in mind.

(Not preaching, sharing experience, am not a trained sexual health practitioner)

The three different pills I tried did not work for me (various side effects with each one)
My ex "didn't do condoms"
So... I didn't "do sex" Smile

He soon learned to embrace them Wink

Sparklingbrook · 02/06/2017 19:34

Are you not worried about getting pregnant?

Highalert · 02/06/2017 19:35

You can like sex without someone jizzing all over you and the duvet.

twattymctwatterson · 02/06/2017 19:35

The withdrawal method isn't an effective method of contraception. If you really don't want any more kids then sort out a better way

MargaretCavendish · 02/06/2017 19:35

I'm sorry that most of the men you've been with have thought it's ok to ejaculate on you without your consent, and I'm also sorry that you seem to also consider a refusal to use condoms as nothing out of the ordinary, but I want to tell you that neither of those things are normal or the sign of a good person or partner.

SparklyUnicornPoo · 02/06/2017 19:36

You know the withdrawal method isn't particularly reliable right?

But no, YANBU if you've told him you don't like him cumming on you then either he respects that or no sex.

PeaFaceMcgee · 02/06/2017 19:36

AnnieAnoniMouse - being ejaculated on like a pornstar isn't a central part of sex. Don't be so rude - nobody should be forced into anything they don't like Angry

Sparklingbrook · 02/06/2017 19:37

I agree Highalert. Perhaps we are doing sex all wrong. Shock Grin

PalomaViolets · 02/06/2017 19:38

I'm 6 months pregnant due to this method Wink

PalomaViolets · 02/06/2017 19:39

Although we always went with a wet spot on the bed rather than on me .

Highalert · 02/06/2017 19:39

I'd be most annoyed at DP jizzing on my clean duvet. Sparkling.

Pinkheart5919 · 02/06/2017 19:39

We've got a child each from previous relationships but that's enough!!! It's like having twins Yet neither of you adults take any precautions to stop pregnancy Confused 😂

Porkpudding · 02/06/2017 19:40

Have had two babies from the withdrawal method.... why I decided it would be an effective contraception Twice is beyond me!!!!

user1495707114 · 02/06/2017 19:40

You don't seem that bothered about getting pregnant so good luck with that.

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 19:41

Haha mollie we're both lapsed Catholic up brought people with self control issues Blush.

I hate porn honestly. He doesn't watch it.

We're not too worried about pg as it took me ages to conceive with my first and if it did happen it wouldn't be the end of the world.

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Crunchymum · 02/06/2017 19:41

Never mind where he cums, you are very like to end up pregnant OP. Do you want that with such a selfish man????

Sparklingbrook · 02/06/2017 19:42

Me too Highalert very disrespectful to my high thread count Egyptian Cotton duvet cover. Angry

LorLorr2 · 02/06/2017 19:43

What? :O We got repeatedly told at school "The pull out method is not a contraceptive"

user1489675144 · 02/06/2017 19:43

You do realise with the withdrawal method you are likely to fall pregnant since very unreliable.

PeaFaceMcgee · 02/06/2017 19:44

Presumably OP and her partner do it perfectly in which case it's 96% effective - twice as unreliable as condoms on their own. Four times as unreliable as the pill.

It's her informed choice though. Also assume they've both been screened for a full range of STIs including HIV.

OP - this method relies on 100% trust. If you can't trust him to come into a wad of tissue, how can you trust him to pull out??

RestlessTravellerTheSequel · 02/06/2017 19:45

I'm sorry but you're stupid, ingnorant or both. I could name at least 5 other forms of contraceptive in the 10 seconds after I read your post.

If you really don't want another child I suggest you educate yourself.

Highalert · 02/06/2017 19:46

I can't bring myself to type the word cum I think I'm a prude.

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YouAreMySweetestDownfall · 02/06/2017 19:46

I trust him with the big stuff pea

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