MIL trying to rename my baby...

[JonSnowsWhore]

I need to know if it's just me or if I'm justified in how fucking fuming I am...

Had baby Wednesday morning, we had decided on his name before he was born & i added a middle name that meant something to me so of course my OH could also pick one if he wanted. He didn't come up with anything.
Say the name we picked was Harry James surname.
Today, in the car on our way to register the baby, his mum is on the phone to him, he's being very quiet so I guess it's something he doesn't want me to know about. Next thing I know when we've got out the car I've got texts on my from from her saying naming the baby is a big thing & please don't rush into anything, also please let my OH have an input as it's important. That she's spoken to OH's dad, & rest of the family, and they all agree that Christopher Harry Jack surname is a lovely name & we should consider it!!!

This name has literally never been mentioned by either of us before & I still have no idea where it came from or why the hell they as a family are sitting there discussing what mine & my OH's baby's name should be when he's already here & had that name for 6 days!
Now he's ended up with Christopher as a random bloody middle name, which would have been fine if I'd was my OH's choice but I know it's not, I know it's hers!

Oh god I feel sorry for you. There is no way I would have added a random name in just because someone told me to. Please change it to the name you wanted and decided on with your dp xx

I have no idea why his family were involved in choosing a name, why was it even discussed with them, how did they even know you were on your way to register his name?

You and DH are oversharing information and sending them the message that they have a say. They don't.

Please have an honest heart to heart with your DH and go back and change the name.

I'd totally share pic of the birth certificate then change it without telling them. They'll blissfully think he's called what they wanted and he's not.

Oh dear it'll rankle forever, I was talked into the ex mils choice for s middle name for my daughter who's now in her 20s. It still irritates me that I caved.

Can you change it?

Why the actual fuck did you even register it when it was only mentioned on the way there??

Dear god. Change it. MIL tried to do this to me - until I told her to fuck right off...baby already had 'their' surname, what more did she want!!

Seriously. Foot down now or else big problems in the future (I don't speak at all to MIL now or have any contact...this was just one of the 'smaller' things she did' )

Trust me I'm not over sharing anything, and certainly haven't given them any reason to think they have any right to have a discussion over the name! My OH was there yesterday for an hour, I think she was probably trying to get I his ear then but he didn't want to cause an argument by telling me

Errr no it's not you. Who the hell tries to name someone elses baby

Feckin I know I'm a fucking idiot & wish I hadn't but like I said it was either that or isit & argue infront of the registrar

Well they weren't in the registry office with you, were they? Why on earth did you add it in if you didn't want to use it?

Sorry posted too soon, sit & argue infront of the registrar & I was already upset enough as it was, had been crying my eyes out in anger (hormones!) I really really wish I hadn't given in

If she wasn't with you, why did you OH all of a sudden think it was a good idea to add the name in?

It's partly because OH then started saying that it's what he wanted to add in as a middle name, so I couldn't really argue with that. Even though deep down I know it's not his fucking choice

Congratulations on your new baby.
Well it is better than Fox, maybe she reads MN. Very traditional for all the names, could be worse.
You could have said no, you didn't and now you have a name added by MIL - is your husband trying to keep the peace and so says nothing to her (or you) piggy in the middle?
YABU - why didn't you say no at the time rather than let it wind you up later.

Ahhh, the greek heritage mil.

A good friend isn't allowe to any family events and isn't acknowledged as married by her MIL as she isn't greek and she keeps introducing her ds to lovely greek girls . Refused to go to the wedding as well.

It's not all greek mothers BUT in my limited experience they have form with their sons. NO ONE WILL EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR HER

Wow, please don't tell me you actually named him what they wanted!?! Fuck her, what a cunt. Change the birth certificate and ignore whatever grandparent title she wants to be called e.g. Grandma and just call her something else forever more to piss her off e.g. Nanny.

Please just change it to the name you decided on in the first place, it obviously seemed like the perfect name for your baby. And now he's stuck with a name you don't like very much, for the rest of his life. Your MIL sounds quite controlling, does your OH often do stuff just to please her? It's like he can't say no to her ideas. Hope you get this sorted x

I would go out and get the most hideous pet you can think of. A scaly lizard or a 3-legged cat with one eye, and name it Christopher

And then text her and say that while you didn't think the name was appropriate for DS, you're so glad she suggested it because it suits perfectly

You can change it within the first month or 6 months (I forget exactly) then after that it has to be by deed poll.

I would honestly in your position change the baby's name back to what was initially agreed.

You should have texted back that you had given him a say in it and the decided name was a joint decision. Then carried on registering the baby how you both wanted.

Sparechange amazing! Yes do that too! But tell her the pets name to her face so you can see the reaction.

Go alone and take it off the birth certificate. .
No need to make a fuss - can you swop it for dh first name instead?
If not the whole of his favourite footie team instead. .?? Really wind mil up that would!!

Just so everyone gets it right, I didn't give him the first name she wanted, I only let my OH put it in as a middle name! I'm not that much of a pushover haha.

She's usually quite lovely & we get on fine but I could tell she was going to be a bit over bearing when the baby was born tbh. This has just floored me though, 6 days in & it's already descended into chaos 😂

My MIL also did the same to use. She insisted, she even angry and ran away from home for a few days when DH says didnt want to change our baby name

PMSL😂😂😂 There are some batshit crazy people out there.