To wonder what you would think if your OH said that

[Poisongirl81]

Before being with you in his life he has had sex with men! A couple of times just for the sex. He's also had long term things with women and fancies me very much. Just don't know how to feel.

Prospero.

Are you not reading between the lines here? Because gay sex is ick, and disgusting, and if you have shudders sucked a penis, which is a dirty dirty thing, then you are not a real man.

Also, did you not get the memo, were not allowed to ask why. Asking why means we don't believe in the right to consent.

You're not happy to kiss a mouth that's had a penis in it? But you'd happily suck a penis yourself? Sorry this makes no sense to me.

Because I just couldn't be with someone who has sucked a penis. That's quite simple why do I need to explain my sexual preferences to anyone?

I'm not into scat play/swinging etc either and wouldn't date someone who was.

I want to be with someone with the same sexual ideals to mine, so we both enjoy the same things not a miss matched bits and bobs here and there with one always missing something. Just like I couldn't be with someone who didn't enjoy bdsm.

I haven't commented on whether anyone is right or wrong, I'm simply asking in order to understand a motivation that I don't get.

I want to be with someone with the same sexual ideals to mine, so we both enjoy the same things

Then you should be fine if you both like cock?

I want to be with someone with the same sexual ideals to mine, so we both enjoy the same things

Then you should be fine if you both like cock?

Beadoren

It's not the penis that is a turn off, obviously. I only want to sleep with straight men who have never been sexually intimate with other men.

I agree with equal rights for all obviously regardless of sexuality.

Do you no sexual preferences at all? There's nothing about any person that might make you decline to have sex with them? What about someone 40 years older than you- would that make you ageist?

Grow up and stop ramming your ignorant views down everyone's throats.

To be honest call it what you will but a man having sex with another man is classed as gay. Yes he can be classed as bi now. However if you vision your man with another man it is seen as gay. It's not a bad word or an offensive word it's a factual word.

^^

Someone always has to take it wrong.

I said ideals not identical... so we would both enjoy straight sex, our sexual boundaries to be the same, no point liking oral and dating someone who doesn't.

Well if he married you and has sex with you, he's not gay, is he?

seriously??

Beadoran, does it work the other way around too? If a gay man has a preference for men who have only had homosexual experiences does that mean he automatically thinks that straight sex is ick and vaginas are dirty dirty things? I certainly wouldn't believe that of such a man. I would just think that he had a preference for men who had no interest whatsoever in heterosexual sex. But you would think that of him?

To be honest call it what you will but a man having sex with another man is classed as gay

Not necessarily. That's your definition.

To be honest call it what you will but a man having sex with another man is classed as gay

Not necessarily. That's your definition.

My biological dads, dad was a closet gay. Clearly gay men do have sex with women because they are too embarrassed/ashamed/scared to come out.

*I want to be with someone with the same sexual ideals to mine, so we both enjoy the same things

Then you should be fine if you both like cock?*

Presume you are just trying to be funny - or have never actually had sex or a sexual impulse yourself.

Beadoren

Oscar Wilde was married does that make him not gay too?

I wouldn't suddenly discover somebody was 40 years older than me and then throw a relationship away.

And yes, that would be agism

Oscar Wilde didn't live in the 21st century. Pretty rare these days to have a lavender wedding.

Oscar Wilde didn't live in the 21st century. Pretty rare these days to have a lavender wedding.

I suggest you all check who actually said that.

How is it ageism? Is it seriosuly ok in your world for someone underage to date someone a lot older. I'm worried if that's the case.

I happen to be with a man who is seventeen years older than me. Anything about twenty I dont like the idea of. I also don't like the idea of being with anyone younger than me. Why is that an issue?

It isn't.

It isn't.

It's more like if you found out that your partner once dated someone 25 years older and decided you didn't like them anymore on the strength of it.

Anyone who ditched a loving committed relationship because of a long past sexual experience is not truly in a loving committed relationship at all, are they?

It's more like if you found out that your partner once dated someone 25 years older and decided you didn't like them anymore on the strength of it.

Anyone who ditched a loving committed relationship because of a long past sexual experience is not truly in a loving committed relationship at all, are they?