to think 'I don't drive' is not a valid excuse?

[peppatax]

Two parts to this really, I don't know many adults that don't drive to ask but if you don't drive, can I ask why not?

Second part I guess is if you don't drive, do you expect others to accommodate you or make allowances for you solely on the basis of not driving?

if someone needs to keep expecting or asking for lifts then it's very clear to me that they really should consider learning to drive as it's obviously an issue
For sure, anyone who constantly begs favours is taking the piss and people should stop indulging them

That's my logic peace.
Some people can't or don't need to drive and I'll happily offer lifts so non driving friends can have days out.

But people who take the piss regularly need to actually be responsible and stop expecting others to prop their lifestyle up. If you routinely expect/need lifts then you need to learn to drive (medical reasons excljded).

All day long I see fat people squashed into cars like marshmallows crammed into match boxes

Nice...

if someone needs to keep expecting or asking for lifts then it's very clear to me that they really should consider learning to drive as it's obviously an issue
For sure, anyone who constantly begs favours is taking the piss and people should stop indulging them

Or just say no?

In my past life of single house shares, had a housemate who was always "sure any time babe" if other housemate asked to hop in if he was going the same direction, he then constantly called her a piss taker/user behind her back…. think he was more unreasonable than her TBH

peaceout I was attempting to agree with you there - reading back it doesn't look that way LOL

TinselTwins
I have no issue if people are going the same way as me. I wouldn't bitch if it was "we are both going to town...". I only get annoyed when people take the piss and in the case of my family member it was a pain in the arses to say no because they'd go in moods for days over it.

The work situation, I did it once (when it was sprung upon me and the intern was stood there with us) and I would have had no issue if if been asked in advance and it was GENUINELY on my way home & it was very much 'if I'm heading thay way hop in but if I have a meeting in a different place then they have to make their own way' (but would internally think the person was a fool for moving somewhere with almost no bus service when they don't drive). What annoyed me is that somebody who doesn't drive has chosen to live somewhere they require others for transport and then seemed to ask lots of people week to week to just take them places /just drop them off even though where they lived was not on anyone's route home. I made my excuses after that and wouldn't bitch about them, but I do know other people ended up feeling a similar way.

As ever, there are piss takers in life in all kinds of situations.

I don't drive, had a shit instructor who saw me as a cash cow now I don't have time or money (if I had of passed then I wouldn't have had a car anyway)

However I don't expect allowances aside from making sure it is somewhere I can reach by public transport.
If I need a lift or help from someone with a car I ask and offer petrol money/favor in kind whatever they want.
Never offended if someone says no, this is my choice and I live with it.

Op - How lovely of you!
I used to be terrified in my driving lessons; shaking, close to vomiting and nearly in tears. Worth it? I don't think so.
If you met me, you'd see a ballsy, confident woman in every other aspect of my life. Public peaking in front of hundreds of people? No probs.
Meeting a room full of strangers? Bring it on.
I bet I can do heaps of things that you're rubbish at.
Apparently I'm a lesser being in your eyes. Bothered? Nah....

Not a very nice thread to start, OP. For a lot of people, yes I realise that learning to drive comes fairly naturally.

I have Dyspraxia though, and after years of lessons, failed tests and getting into debt with the phenomenal cost of it all, I've had to accept that I do not have what it takes to be a driver. My coordination/spatial awareness just isn't up to it.

I've now accepted this, use public transport and taxis, and NEVER ask for lifts. In fact the only times I do accept lifts are when drivers are SO insistent and get offended when I say no.

I actually enjoy a nice bus/train ride anyway, and would much rather do this than accept a lift, and get patronised by the driver about being unable to drive! This has happened more than once.

SIMIISME, I sympathise!