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To not want to send my kids to school today?

169 replies

NoCapes · 23/05/2017 07:35

I'm in Manchester, I was kept awake most of the night listening to sirens and helicopters flying overhead
I feel sick to my stomach about what has happened (as I'm sure we all do) particularly as it is so close to home and I could hear it
Now while I know its massively unlikely anything will happen today, my anxiety is telling me to keep my babies at home with me today

OP posts:
SynysterGates · 23/05/2017 07:36

have a pj day. i would if i was near there

Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 07:38

I don't think it would be unreasonable to keep them off today in the circumstances.

WelliesAndPyjamas · 23/05/2017 07:38

Don't let the fucking cowards win. Count your blessings. Help others. Carry on as normal.

MacarenaFerreiro · 23/05/2017 07:39

You have to send them, your upset is understandable but you know it's your anxiety talking.

blueskyinmarch · 23/05/2017 07:39

I disagree. You get up and go about your day as normal. You show the people responsible for this that they cannot scare you and drive fear into your daily life. Hold your head up and show your children that you are not afraid. I know it is easier said than done but it is the only way.

VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 23/05/2017 07:40

Send them to school. Don't transfer your fears to them. Keep them strong. Don't show them your anxiety, you'll pass it on to them.

OvariesForgotHerPassword · 23/05/2017 07:40

Do you think they'd panic more if their routine was disturbed, or would they be OK?

If they'd be okay, I say keep them off for today. If your mental health will suffer for sending them in, keep them at home.

Mammylamb · 23/05/2017 07:41

If you were anywhere else I'd tell you to get the kids to school. But it seems like you got hardly any sleep last night so a pj day isn't unreasonable

KarlosKKrinkelbeim · 23/05/2017 07:41

I remember feeling very similar when I had to get up and get the tube to work the day after the London bombing. Everyone was being outstandingly kind, polite and considerate to each other. I was glad I'd gone out in the end.
Sympathies to all of you there.

Huldra · 23/05/2017 07:41

If you keep them off will your anxiety tomorrow be:
Better
Just the same
Worse

Will it increase anxiety in your kids?

positivity123 · 23/05/2017 07:42

Give them a big cuddle but send them into school as normal to teach them that you can not let these things ruin your life.

SouthWestmom · 23/05/2017 07:43

Utterly ridiculous and bordering on making someone else's tragedy about you.
It's fine for you to be worried but there's no more danger than there was yesterday and you don't want your kids to grow up scared to do normal stuff.

10storeylovesong · 23/05/2017 07:44

Personally I wouldn't keep them off, although I've been up since 3 as well as a result of it. It's a strange one as I'm usually of the opinion that you can't let the bastards win. However, I'm a police officer in Manchester and my friends are at the scene and I know what they've been dealing with (I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant and can't be there to help them) and I've seriously considered trying to sell tickets that I have for a gig this weekend.

TheNaze73 · 23/05/2017 07:44

Don't wallow. You should gonabout your normal business.

By changing, they're winning

lovelylavender1 · 23/05/2017 07:45

There's a lot of that noyef

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ChristopherWren · 23/05/2017 07:45

Of course you should send them to school!

Bananamanfan · 23/05/2017 07:46

I think you will all feel better to go out & talk to friends & the school.

Bananamanfan · 23/05/2017 07:47

Btw, completely understand your wish to stay at home, but i think you will find comfort & support if you go out & do normal stuff.

DermotOLogical · 23/05/2017 07:47

Noeuf I agree.

OP this is not about you. Send your kids to school and relax.

The reason this is so high profile is because terrorist attacks are still very rare.

ChocolateRaisin09 · 23/05/2017 07:48

Depending on their age, they might have a chance to discuss it with their peers, teacher etc, it might do them good to process it with friends. I do understand how you must feel though, It's so horrible.

Silvercatowner · 23/05/2017 07:49

Utterly ridiculous and bordering on making someone else's tragedy about you.
It's fine for you to be worried but there's no more danger than there was yesterday and you don't want your kids to grow up scared to do normal stuff.
This.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim · 23/05/2017 07:49

I don't think there's any need to be quite so unsympathetic. These things do cause fear and anxiety when they happen close by. I was very tangentially affected by 7/7 (safe in my office, though there were some panicked calls to friends and family) but I felt anxious the next day. But facing it was the right thing to do.

Sionella · 23/05/2017 07:49

NoCapes - and so are millions of people in the Middle East. That's how they live their lives every day. Because they had the misfortune to be born in a place that the west was v v interested in. We are all now reaping the rewards of the fear and death seeds that were sown many years ago.

The whole mess just makes me so sad. I just don't see how it can ever be fixed. And in the meantime the western armies will carry on bombing and it will carry on fuelling the flames of the kind of cowardly evil shit we saw last night.

Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 07:50

Totally understand where you are coming from OP especially as you have been up all night yourself. Brew

I don't believe that if you had chosen to keep them off for this one day means anyone is winning.

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