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To not want to send my kids to school today?

169 replies

NoCapes · 23/05/2017 07:35

I'm in Manchester, I was kept awake most of the night listening to sirens and helicopters flying overhead
I feel sick to my stomach about what has happened (as I'm sure we all do) particularly as it is so close to home and I could hear it
Now while I know its massively unlikely anything will happen today, my anxiety is telling me to keep my babies at home with me today

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FeckinCrutches · 23/05/2017 09:46

My daughter was there last night, she still wanted to go to school.

Mulledwine1 · 23/05/2017 09:46

the meantime the western armies will carry on bombing and it will carry on fuelling the flames of the kind of cowardly evil shit we saw last night

Don't be ridiculous, Germany has not been involved in the actions in the Middle East and has opened its doors to a million or so refugees. Their thanks? The Berlin attack - and the other smaller attacks.

Don't try to blame the West for these attacks. These men (and they are nearly always men (except at the Beslan school attack I think) hate the West, and of course women in particular because they hate the freedom we have in the West. And how do you particularly target women - their children. So bomb a pop concert by an artist who appeals to kids. In any event I would not be in the least bit surprised if the perpetrator turns out to have been born and bred in the UK.

As for the OP - I am glad you took your kids to school.

mummag · 23/05/2017 09:46

I can understand how you feel. It was a shocking event. Think rational thoughts re statistical likeliness of it happening etc don't help people who are anxious anyway. Massive hug to all of you everywhere, I feel so emotional thinking about how the community has pulled together in Manchester.

HeyHoThereYouGo657 · 23/05/2017 09:49

OP I understand

All this carry on as usual , stiff upper lip (I hate that term) is all well and good but the comments (some anyway) are fucking horrible to you

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 23/05/2017 09:53

I agree with Neutrogena although these attacks are horrifying they are rare. Most women have a bigger chance of being injured or killed by domestic violence than be caught up in a terrorist attack. Your children are at more risk on injury being driven on the school run or crossing the road than being caught up in an attack.

Such attacks are called terrorism because they are designed to cause terror, they are dramatic and scary and unpredictable. They intend to trigger the sort of reaction you are feeling today. I am glad you have taken your children to school.

Mulberry72 · 23/05/2017 09:56

I'm in Manchester and awake much of the night.

DS has gone to school as normal. I personally see no reason for him to stay at home as (luckily) we are not directly affected. He's watched the news and we've talked about what has happened. I don't see any reason for anything more.

NavyandWhite · 23/05/2017 10:03

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Radishal · 23/05/2017 10:05

In Manchester too. Lots of "trying not to look to look anxious" parents in the playground this morning. Lots of extra tight hugs and kisses goodbye.

Oblomov17 · 23/05/2017 10:15

Why would you want to keep them at home?

Your thinking is not rational. Maybe go and see your GP about anxiety?

NavyandWhite · 23/05/2017 10:17

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Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 10:18

Maybe the OP has anxiety? Sometimes in the aftermath of events like this people don't think rationally.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 23/05/2017 10:19

please don't be daft oblomov, if every parent in Manchester who felt justifiable anxiety about what happened last night went to the gp there would be a queue for years.

Oblomov17 · 23/05/2017 10:19

Yes. I got that. But OP is still posting about the fact she didn't want to send them.

Oblomov17 · 23/05/2017 10:21

Lots of other posters have suggested op has anxiety.

To take it to the step, of not wanting to, send your children to school. Is a worry.

Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 10:21

It was a ^thought* about not sending them. Which personally I don't have a problem with.

If you do suffer from anxiety it's things like this that play on your mind.

Oblomov17 · 23/05/2017 10:22

"my anxiety is telling me to keep my babies at home with me today"

Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 10:23

So the OP has anxiety then.

Oblomov17 · 23/05/2017 10:26

That's right. And that's not good. And she needs help and support etc and possibly medication and counselling etc, to try and prevent her exposing her children to her anxiety.

OhYouBadBadKitten · 23/05/2017 10:26

ok, I see where you got that from Oblomov. Yes, if the op generally suffers from untreated anxiety, she can get help from her gp.

I remember back to 9/11 and I was suffering from severe undiagnosed postnatal depression. A cascade of events, including that day tipped me over the edge.

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Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 10:27

Do we know that she isn't already receiving that? Confused

Anxiety is horrible.

TheMaddHugger · 23/05/2017 10:28

My Heart and ((((((((((Hugs)))))) go out to you OP.

Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 10:28

YY one event can set you back if you have anxiety.

Oblomov17 · 23/05/2017 10:31

It's not slating Navy. It's advising someone to get more support.

Sparkling, if she is currently receiving it, she probably needs to revisit GP, to discuss other options, because she needs more help.

Sparklingbrook · 23/05/2017 10:33

Sparkling, if she is currently receiving it, she probably needs to revisit GP, to discuss other options, because she needs more help.

Not necessarily unless they are still feeling this way in a few day's time. some days there can be a blip and then you carry on.

(Apologies to OP for discussing their MH as if they aren't here)