To not want to send my kids to school today?

[NoCapes]

I'm in Manchester, I was kept awake most of the night listening to sirens and helicopters flying overhead
I feel sick to my stomach about what has happened (as I'm sure we all do) particularly as it is so close to home and I could hear it
Now while I know its massively unlikely anything will happen today, my anxiety is telling me to keep my babies at home with me today

Children need protecting from parental anxiety.
It is our parental duty to try hard to not pass out worst bits on to our kids. All of us. Yours, mine, all of us. To aknowledge our worst bits and try to adjust them to give our children the balance, that we ourselves all lack, in one way or another.

So advising a parent who describes themselves as 'anxiety' to seek more support, is ......

Unhelpful?
Slating?

If everyone who lives in the Manchester area who was up all night and felt anxious about sending their children to school this morning started deluging their GP's it would be a huge strain on already strained NHS resources.

However, there's no doubt that if you are already a bit sensitive, or have MH condition or anxiety, then terror events can make you feel even worse. I have a friend who has been quite badly rattled by Brexit even though not directly affected particularly, it just shook her sense of herself/her family's security and made her feel quite vulnerable.

I don't think one should rush to the drs for a one off or even a few days of anxiety if there's no underlying issues- the key thing the Dr would be looking for is underlying problems and it continuing beyond a couple of weeks- i.e. it's not going to resolve spontaneously or just through time, which does happen.

What a crowd of horrible bitches there are responding to the OP.
If I lived in Manchester I'm pretty sure I'd so shaken up and wanting to talk about it.

NoCapes YANBU

Navy? Yet again?
Why do you keep doing this?
So many threads you do this? To me. On so many threads I post on.

Lack of empathy? You accuse me of such nonsense.

My DC know I suffer from anxiety. Why would they not?

• be so shaken up

Navy? Yet again?
Why do you keep doing this?
So many threads you do this? To me. On so many threads I post on

What on earth are you posting if that's the case?

children need protecting from parental anxiety

If only it was that simple. You have no understanding

I felt better this morning that dh was already planning on driving the children to school today so I understand everyone who is worried. I was a week off the Harrods bomb as a child and was working in WHSmiths in Wood Green when a bomb was planted outside so it's all very triggering and I've been in tears several times when listening to C's mum who is searching for her child.

Take care everyone.

Exactly navy and it just compounds the anxiety with a crushing sense of guilt.

Hi nocapes
I was really upset this morning and I'm quite inert normally. The children are the same age as my own and I grew up in Manchester less than a mile from the arena. I felt tears and shocked that they'd target children, mums and daughters in such a tolerant and welcoming City. I'm hearing stories of missing girls and my cousin daughter bailed out last minute. It's not distant or far away like ME or even london a seat of power a 'valid' if distressing target.
I think your sentiment is completely human and right to want to keep your loved ones close to you even for one day. I've no idea if you did or not but if you did that would be fine. Not even for fear but just to keep them close to love and appreciate them in a world that seems to value life so casually.
We all know they'll be back in tomorrow and we'll all carry on as normal and desperately try to prevent our communities becoming less tolerant or splintering.
But ignore the rabble be human and value and love and want to protect your babies. It is quite inhuman to suggest your sentiment is anything other than positive. They wont win we're British and we'll carry on we always do but it is terribly heart wrenching and sad. It's okay to say it's not okay or normal or fine.... because it isn't.

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Nobody on this thread who has said that we should carry on as normal has said what happened last night is "fine" motherintraining. That really is a horrible thing to say. The op said it too and it's a pretty vile implication

I'm not enjoying the news interviews with parents accompanied by children.

It's perfectly normal to want to keep your loved ones close to you after a traumatic event has occurred close to home. Nothing abnormal or abnormally anxious about that whatsoever. To have acted on those feelings and kept your children at home would have been excessively anxious, but not to feel that you wanted to keep them close to you, today. It's bloody ridiculous to suggest people go to see their GP for feelings they can control themselves through rational thought, already. It's not as if CBT, etc, entirely erases feelings, it just teaches you how to deal with them, and clearly the OP already knows how to do that, as she sent her children to school rather than passing her anxiety on to her children, and then considered whether or not it was rational and reasonable to feel as she was feeling. Sounds like a healthy, normal response to me, OP.

"It's not...even london a seat of power a 'valid' if distressing target. "

Yep, ordinary people, family people, going about their business on the bus and tube, walking over a bridge. What are you saying here? That it is less upsetting? More understandable that people are upset and feel they want to keep their children close if it happens to London families?