To be irrationally annoyed by people with lots of DCs

[Iloverichtea]

I know IABU really.

And that it's irrational, mostly groundless and a bit unfair.

But it really annoys me!

Any other irrational annoyances out there? I have tonnes more

[SugarnetMum]

5 is normal. I'm pretty sure the op is on about actually large families, such as above 10 or 12.

[GaelicSiog]

Op I can write you a whole post about why I wouldn't trade in my 9 siblings for the world if you'd like.

And how we weren't all on benefits why does the number of kids other people choose to have affect you?

[MommaL]

I have 5 kids. I can not see how they could be considered annoying to anyone but those raising them. They are good kids, even celebrity endorsed! by 5 different celebs! Yeah, I'm bragging, cos damn it I'm chuffed to bits that Alice Krige, Sarah Douglass, Sylvester McCoy, Tony Curran and Sophie Aldred all said my kids are "lovely kids" and a credit to me.

The kids all get on with each other and are good siblings to each other. There is very little squabbling or fighting.

It's none of anyone else's business how many kids they have.

[Janey50]

3 people in a row in a van. That made me laugh out loud OP because I know exactly what you mean! It makes me feel twitchy too.

[KERALA1]

I agree op. I don't think anyone should have more than 2 children for environmental reasons. Sorry if it offends but that's my opinion.

[Riversleep]

Sugar 5 is normal? Where? The average family is 1.8 or something, which means over 3 is quite rare.

[lovelylavender1]

It's a load of rubbish according to a PP kerala

[Highalert]

I hope you don't drive. Terrible for the enviroment driving.

[AliceTown]

I agree op. I don't think anyone should have more than 2 children for environmental reasons. Sorry if it offends but that's my opinion.

It doesn't offend me. I think it's a fairly rare person that doesn't do anything that negatively impacts the environment.

[lovelylavender1]

If you research it it's a little more than driving or doing something bad for the environment.

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

I don't have children
I don't drive
I don't fly

I also don't recycle

So yes, everyone does something that isn't ideal

[Crumbs1]

I think if you understood properly you'd reality issues of growing population are attributable to the upper end of the age range not babies - people aren't dying quickly enough. Birth rate is low in most developed countries that we are not producing sufficient young workers to support the ageing population.
I would argue mine had plenty of attention. This notion you can't possibly give proper attention to more than three is just codswallop. More problems are created with overly indulged, cosseted, every single decision negotiated, 'free spirit' parenting than was ever caused by parents letting children understand who was in charge and what the rules were. Inattentive parenting is neglect not failing to squawk times tables in Silanese whilst cooking organic lentils and examining their every body crevice for signs of possible illness. Over parenting and neuroticism causes mayhem to the mental wellbeing and development of children.

[lovelylavender1]

This is why it's such a problem I guess, people just won't hear it.

[Jaxhog]

I'm only annoyed when they boast about getting welfare for them. But that isn't inappropriate.

[fraggle500]

I'm always slightly in-awe of large families - my son is friends with a child who has 9 siblings. My son just loves going to their house to play. (He's on only child) he's always made to feel part of the family, they are friendly, kind and very tolerant towards different behaviour. It's such a lively, loving home. I get slightly sad it's just the two of us at times ( but not often) I wish I could be as generous with my time to have had more children.

[SashaSashays]

lovelylavender1 how many children do you have?

How do you limit your environmental impact?

[GaelicSiog]

As posted up thread, I have 9 siblings. All full siblings. I'm the youngest and was born in 1984, birth control was re-legalised in Ireland in 1980. All the others were born when birth control just wasn't available, and even after that it had a stigma attached to it. Condoms weren't readily available until a year after I was born.

So 10 of us. My mother makes no secret of the fact she didn't plan to have 10, but she did, and I can honestly say we were all treated fairly, had one on one time, did the things we wanted to do.

DD on the other hand is my only, but will have 6 step and half siblings by the end of the year. For those kids it's a completely different story, and I am bloody glad DD only has to spend every other weekend there.

In short, it's not the number, it's the parenting. Good parents will handle however many life throws at them. Bad parents will make a mess of one.

[AliceTown]

Do people need to hear it? Is it not okay for people to lack interest or disagree?

Surely it was fairly common in years gone by for people to have a LOT of children - the birth rate for the UK must be much less than it was back then?

[Jaxhog]

Or they're sitting behind me on a plane/train, and are out of control. But that isn't inappropriate either.

[hoddtastic]

does nobody remember that thread where all the people who one of many siblings talked about how shit it was to be in a big family. And all the parents of massive families TOLD THEM THAT THEIR KIDS WERE THRILLED TO BE ONE OF 83 and LOVED HAVING THE BABY TO PLAY WITH/ALL THE CHORES/NO ATTENTION FROM THEIR PARENTS.

I think it exploded, i think it was deleted

[lovelylavender1]

Yes I think people need to hear it Alice.

And the birth rate is less because mortality is less.

[likeababyelephant]

Sorry OP but you sound like a complete loser.

Why not put all that mental energy that you're wasting on people who have lots of kids on to something more productive and meaningful in life?

[pineapplesquash]

I have one. I can't bear to hear people speaking in Russian. I have no issue with Russian people (except maybe one ). I have Russian friends and colleagues and I would happily visit Russia but there's something about the language that's gets me quite upset. I think it's the way they seem to chew the words?

Sorry to any Russians who may be offended by this. I do like you, just not your chewy language.

[SongforSal]

A WHOLE load of nope OP.

My friend has 7 children, with a 15yr age gap between eldest and youngest. Both her and her hubby work extremely hard. Oldest 4 have either graduated or in uni and doing a Ms. Both parents are very hands on in after school activities, governor roles. No benefits and no nannies.

The kids are a massive credit to them (I couldn't do it though!) I really admire them. The youngest 2 are friends with my 2, and if they grow up like their older siblings, then they will be a credit to society.

[AliceTown]

the birth rate is less because mortality is less.

Because mortality is less?
Or because there's more contraception now, it's more acceptable for a woman to choose to be childless, abortions are legal etc?