A son finds a wife, a daughters for life?

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I think that's how the saying goes, or something along those lines.

AIBU to wonder if there's any truth in this?

I know many families where the couple are closer to the maternal grandparents, that's not to say there aren't cases where it's the other way around, it's just I definitely know of many many more couples where they are much closer to the maternal side and have a much more distant relationship on the paternal side.

Do you think there is truth to this? Or is my personal experience with those around me not representative of reality.

If it makes you feel any better. I couldn't get away from my parents quick enough. And I have a vagina

My mil would say it's true- she has two sons..one keeps tokrnistic contact and dh is not contact. She likes to blame me and sil for influencing her sons, because it's easier than accepting she's a shit mum

As said above - depends on the wife. In most households ( not all I know ) it's the wife that's sorts dinner/ people over/ Xmas/easter ,....

Couldn't be more wrong in my family or my partners

I think all things being equal and there being no major disagreements between maternal parents or the inlaws, that a daughter naturally gravitates to her own mother more than a MIL.

So I think there's a fair bit of truth in it. Obvs this is based on my experience and what I see around me.

I have children of both sexes so will be interesting to see what will happen!

From my perspective as the 'daughter'? Not true.
My mum-in-law is a diamond who I'm blessed to know. We invite her to holiday with us and see her as often as her (impressively active) social life allows. My mother and step-mother? Haven't seen either in years. For good reason.

Don't listen to stupid old superstitions or you'll be turning your left-handed children right-handed (as happened to me)! Love your baby, make the most of it, it goes so fast. And of course he will fly away from the nest one day. That's what they're supposed to do. How often you see him after that will be a matter of luck, keeping a good relationship with him and doing your utmost to get on with whoever he chooses to have a relationship with.

My brother and his wife are so close to my mum (my dad's dead) that I feel my mum far prefers her to me. I see more of DP's mum than I do my own, because I am sick of being compared to my amazing SIL.

I have come across many SMOGs and they delight in telling me the sad future I have in store about my 2 DS leaving me and I will be basically left with nothing, unlike them and their DD.
It used to make me sad, so I took a good look at my family and all the families of people I know. Guess what! I found the number of sons being near their parents to be about the same as daughters. There are also a lot (like me and my DH) whom neither of us live near parents, we have chosen to live near London for work.

Of course it depends on circumstances to a degree, but I would say this is true more often than not. There must be an element of truth for the rhyme to even exist.

My mother has six daughters and five sons. All are married and all have children. All the grandchildren are closer to their maternal grandmother. Although my mother still has good contact with her sons, it's not the same as with her daughters.

My MIL and mother both live five minutes away but I see my mother far more frequently. My DP still loves his mother, of course, but he doesn't make much effort to see her.

I wonder if daughters just feel more inclined to keep in regular contact with their mother than sons do? Maybe they get more from the relationship. My relationship with my mother feels more beneficial to me than my DP's relationship with his mother. She just has a quick chat when she visits and usually manages to wind him up. This is subjective however and not applicable to everyone. He's definitely drifted away from her since we've been together, but he does have a very stressful job and doesn't have much free time.

Thinking about it, I can't think of any family I know where the couple are closer to the paternal parents.

I don't know, maybe sons just don't need their mother the same way daughters do?

That said, I would love to have a little boy, but with fertility issues I'm unlikely to have another baby.