Too think people should stop commenting on people's choice of 'hot weather' clothes

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I know people who are self conscious about their arms, legs, or birthmarks or whatever and are always very careful to dress in a way that hide them. Most of them dread Summer because they will be met with constant comments of 'would you. not be cooler in a t-shirt, that top must be very warm', 'I could lend you a pair of shorts. You must be sweltering in those jeans', 'Do you not think it's time to ditch the tights until Winter'?

I remember, years ago, when I was very self conscious, being at the receiving end of some of those comments myself and really hating the first days of Summer.

So AIBU to think that people should stop commenting to friends or relatives about how they choose to dress on a Summer's day? They're probably feeling self conscious enough without you sticking your oar in.

Yanbu but a lot of people don't get it. DH will question my need for leggings or tights under stuff. I can't bring myself to explain chub rub to him.

I tend to cover up and no one has ever commented. If you wear linen and light coloured fabrics then people don't tend to. If I was wearing tights or jeans, then it would be different I suppose.

Oh yes I totally agree! I've always had comments like that. "How you can stand to be dressed like that I don't know?!" "Is it winter already haha"! Shut it already!

I'm sat in the garden in a long dress with my arms actually out in the fresh air but I'm going to put jeans and a long sleeved tshirt on in a minute to go to the shop. I bet at least 2 people say something

I find that some folk tend to assume that everyone feels the heat or cold in the same way that they do. I tend to feel the cold more than one friend. She is forever asking me if I'm not too hot. If I was too hot I would change. I am an adult and can dress appropriately for my reaction to the weather!

Another friend lives in vest tops and long skirts year round. I make no comment as if she was cold in the winter she would put a jumper on!

Yanbu
I have eczema scars
Also I really feel the cold so it has to get really hot before I want to wear short sleeves.

Yes, I have this with family. My close friends and DP never question why I'm wearing jeans and usually a hoody in summer.

I think however, now that I'm pregnant, I'm not going to care and I will have my pasty arms out whether people like it or not.

Summer where? In the UK, you get a couple of weeks maximum where it's hot enough for shorts or a t-shirt.

Unless you're wearing something like woolly jumpers or snow boots, you're dressed for the UK Summer.

And it's only May. I've just checked and London will hardly go above 20ºC in the next few days. It's not Summer weather.

I find it so bloody rude. If someone, for instance, chooses to wear dark tights on a hot day then it is very probably that they have some issue about showing their legs - maybe they have scars, birthmarks, a problem with body hair, that they just don't want anyone else to see.

Subjecting them to remarks like 'would you not let the sun get at your legs', 'WTF are you wearing those tights for'? etc is really insensitive and crass.

I don't get into short sleeves unless it's over 23 and then only in my own garden. I've had psoriasis since I was two and you guarantee someone whom I've never met before will have something bloody rude to say if I dare go out without covering up. On the odd occasion I'm brave enough to go out without covering up, I inform the fuckers that I'm allergic to rude people.

I don't really understand the issue with summer frankly, it's so much easier to find clothes that are forgiving and comfortable than in the winter.

I don't agree Strikhedonia. In Winter you can wear tights, jeans, boots, long sleeves, polo necks, several layers and also a long coat anytime you go out. All of these cover a multitude.

In really hot weather short sleeves, open toed sandals, short trousers, light floaty dresses are considered the norm, and anyone who still wants to cover their arms, legs, shoulders etc can find it problematic.

Navy, why not just assume they're comfortable? Adults can wear what they like.

Exactly Navy, maybe they're more comfortable not revealing legs they consider fat, or arms they consider pale and unattractive or whatever.

Why not just leave them alone? What do you gain by commenting?

A friend did this to me repeatedly on a UK holiday: at the time I was self conscious about my weight and just didn't have many summer clothes. She went on about it: rude!

I have the opposite of this
I have self harm scars on my arms and in the summer the amount of people that tell me I should put long sleeves on to cover them up is astonishing
How someone is dressed and whether you deem it weather appropriate or not won't change your temperature so just leave them be

But you can cover up and be weather appropriate. I have sensitive pale skin and cover up but I look cool(ish) and weather appropriate. It does require a bit of an investment in an actual summer wardrobe but they can last years.

It annoys me,

Thing is no one likes being hot and sweaty so there's clearly a reason they are wearing that,
Maybe they're colder than you with circulation issues,
Maybe they have a medical issue with their skin,
Maybe they have sensory issues and can't deal with breeze or sun on their skin,
Maybe like me they have mental health issues and they have bizzare reasons they can't explain,

Either way why would you go out of your way to make someone explain themselves to you?

In the UK, you get a couple of weeks maximum where it's hot enough for shorts or t-shirts.
That's funny, I've lived in the UK all my life and I usually wear t-shirts/vest tops from April/May - October. I see plenty of others dressed the same way. I would wear shorts but my legs aren't up to it anymore.
I do agree with the OP though, it's up to the individual to choose what to wear, and it's rude for other people to comment. My daughter wears jeans and a light weight hoody in the summer, because she's autistic and that's how she feels safe and comfortable. Nobody else's business. As long as the private parts are covered it's an individual choice.

I realised last year that dressing like I'm on holiday in the Med doesn't work in the UK. Because even on our hot days, unless it's an absolute 30 degree scorcher which let's face it is rare, I get cold in the shade.

So I just decided to shed layers and continue wearing my normal clothes which works much better.

I do love people who go all out at the first sign of sun though, it makes me smile!

In the summer you can wear kaftan-style tops, they hide everything but they are so light, you can wear maxi dresses, wide trousers, ballet pumps, espadrilles, it's so much easier.

Most winter clothes are designed for slim people, I find so much more freedom in the summer.