Too think people should stop commenting on people's choice of 'hot weather' clothes

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I know people who are self conscious about their arms, legs, or birthmarks or whatever and are always very careful to dress in a way that hide them. Most of them dread Summer because they will be met with constant comments of 'would you. not be cooler in a t-shirt, that top must be very warm', 'I could lend you a pair of shorts. You must be sweltering in those jeans', 'Do you not think it's time to ditch the tights until Winter'?

I remember, years ago, when I was very self conscious, being at the receiving end of some of those comments myself and really hating the first days of Summer.

So AIBU to think that people should stop commenting to friends or relatives about how they choose to dress on a Summer's day? They're probably feeling self conscious enough without you sticking your oar in.

YANBU

One day last year we had unplanned drinks after work and it was scorching hot so everyone wanted to be outside. About six months earlier I had to have skin cancer removed from my lower eyelid so as the drinks were unplanned I didn't have sun cream with me so kept my cardigan on with back to the sun so my skin wasn't as exposed. Someone decided to make comments on me wearing my cardigan and I didn't particularly want to get into why, wish I had now, but the comments at the time made me feel uncomfortable. If I wanted to take my cardigan off I would take it off!!!

I also hate my legs so wear leggings a lot, even in summer. Yes I'm hot and uncomfortable but I would be more uncomfortable having my legs on show.

It would help if clothes shops catered for different body shapes and heights more!

Navy it does seem to be a case of 'everyone's out of step except me' with you.

I wasn't trying to 'villify' you (how dramatic). I am just curious as to the situations where you think it's okay to comment on someone's clothes simply because they're a 'good friend'.
I have some really close friends, and if they turned up on a hot day wearing a jumper I'd just assume they'd misjudged the weather or had some issue that they didn't feel comfortable telling anyone about. I wouldn't start going 'WTF are you wearing that for'? What's the point?

Blimey, people do find the oddest things to get offended about. Next time it's raining I won't ask my friend if they want to borrow a brolly as after all they are an adult and should have thought of that/asked for one/might have a massive hidden brolly phobia.

It's not odd to be offended by rudeness.

Yet you're apparently offended by posters disagreeing with you!

I don't think everyone is offended by everything, and I think more people are offended at the idea that other's will be offended, but there isn't really a reason to so why do it? To push our own sense of how others' should appear and get into others' business?

I've often heard and tell my kids we shouldn't comment on another's appearance for something that can't be fixed in a few minutes without being asked. There is no point and it's likely to make someone awkward at best and possibly upset so, why do it? I wouldn't want someone nitpicking over whether my outfit fits the weather or whatever and I really don't see why I should be pressured into giving my personal and medical history as to why I dress how I do [and I doubt others really want to hear about how I dress to make living with chronic low blood pressure and ovarian failure easier though I could go into it in graphic detail] so just...say something nice or not at all, why push your thoughts of how someone should dress onto them just because we may have a few moments of sun. If someone is overly hot or whatever, they'll likely tell you if they want you to know...

Well, yes it is.

Anyhow, you seem to be giving extreme examples to disprove the point. In general, do you think someone commenting on the fact that a friend/family member is wearing long sleeves or covering their legs on a sunny day is fine. Not necessarily dressing up like it's the middle of January - but not slipping into shorts and a t-shirt on a hot day either. Maybe wearing jeans and a t-shirt when everyone else is in dresses or shorts?

Urgh I hate this time of year when I have to part with my tights. Thick black tights do look a bit ridiculous in the height of summer, as do hoodies. Pointing it out is rude though.

As PP have posted the way around it is to wear light colours. If you like long sleeves ASDA usually have sheer long sleeve blouses that look really summery and aren't too warm. 3/4 length jeans hide the cellulite without having to part with your actual jeans. Kimonos are heavenly cool and still provide plenty of coverage.

I don't know why Navy is getting such a hard time.
I honestly think there's a difference between someone wearing a long sleeved top and someone wearing a puffa coat in 25 degree heat. The latter of which I would be like
In fact, during our recent good weather I have asked a customer if they're hot but equally I've been asked the same while working!
I think some people are gettingn their knickers in a knot over nothing to become professionally offended.

Now I know why London buildings are now so unbearable. All heated for those who think 20c is cold.

Stuff the next generation, eh?

Yanbu. I don't want to get my fucking legs out. They never tan. Never. Pasty white and skinny. Leave me alone!

Nobody has a moan at elderly people out shopping and not wearing shorts in the summer!

What really annoys me is when you can't win. I have scars from self harm when I was a teenager. If I wear short sleeves it's attention seeking but in long sleeves I must be far too hot. Sigh.
People should just refrain from commenting on anyone's choice of outfit unless they're wearing a mankini and girating.

*gyrating
For shame

Yanbu