To be annoyed with this mother regarding coke at a kids party

[franciemczoo]

We were at an 8 year old's party at the weekend at a local burger joint.

We allow our DD to have coke occasionally- I don't outright ban anything because I believe the minute you make something "banned" you're making something seem more attractive.

Before the party we were looking at the menu and it said any soft drink was included. So DD asked whether she could have a Coke as part of her meal deal and I said yes.

So we get to the venue and the waitress was very efficiently taking the orders from the children (parents were sitting on a separate table)

I saw one of the mums talking to the waitress and thought nothing of it. Said mum then came up to the parents - including the birthday girls parents who were picking up the tab and announced "I don't let (DD) have Coke and I don't think it's fair for all the other children to have Coke and not my DD so I've told the waitress to tell the children they can't have Coke when she takes their order"

We were all but were all too polite to say anything!

So what would you have done in this situation? Was the mum in question right to do this?

She's paid for a meal and party
She can decide on the food I guess

I wouldn't have done or said anything except thank you

Sure some people wpuld be more upset about the high fat burger and chips ...

I think I would have told her that DD had been told she was allowed it today as a special treat and go e and corrected the waitress.

Silly cow.

No she was wrong but it was up to birthday girl's parents to say something. That said I would have told the waitress to give my child what she wanted.

Ruby it wasn't the party mum....

Honestly, I expected this thread to be about her allowing Coke. I think that's fair enough.

She is an idiot. I don't give my kids coke but I would never expect others to do the same!

At first I thought you meant the party parents and wondered why they would choose a burger joint, but suppose it's up to them what they pay for.

But another random mum dictating what everyone has and what the hosts pay for. That's batshit and so very rude.

It's coke not crack. We allow it (once in a blue moon) as, like you, we think banning something gives it far more allure. Guess who's teenager is going to be the one skipping lunch and necking junk food and coke as soon?

I don't let my dc have coke - tooth enamel issue is hereditary in our family so I'm a bit ott. However, my dc know this and my reasons so don't order it. She needs to teach her dc to make decisions rather than dictating to everyone, totally bonkers.

And all you other parents just accepted this? Why?

I would have said I'd already told my child they could have it, and then told the waitress to change my child's order. She had no right to do what she did, it wasn't her party and she wasn't paying for it.

The way I read this was that some other random mother nothing to do with the birthday girl made this executive decision to ban coke from the party. In which case I'd have told her to jog on.

Other mother was waaaaay out of line. You don't get to control what other children eat or drink and if you don't want your own child drinking coke (fair enough) don't send them to a MaccyD's birthday party!

Oh
In that case I would have ignored her and ordered whatever !

Cokezilla strikes!!
She sounds nuts. .
But dc prob not allowed to eat them either. .

YANBU. Fair enough her kid can't isn't allowed coke, but it's none of her business if others have it.

I can't believe you all just accepted it!

What a weirdo, why didn't you all tell her to do one?

I would have laughed and asked her exactly what's the problem? Was it the caffeine or the sugar content.
Then challenged her on things like chocolate that have a higher caffeine content than coke. Or if Pepsi, Dr Pepper or iron bru was ok.
I am a cow though when my kids are banned by batshit parents for things their own aren't allowed.
Would have also told waitress to ignore batshit parent

She was BVU and V entitled. We limited all crap on our house when they were young (example - I have never bought sweets for the house outside Easter and christmas) but allowed at parties etc. I can't believe the gall of one mum to dictate. They will still do what they like and hoover up all sorts of crap when they are older and out without you anyway.

Naaaah.

No one is that much of a twat.

Surely.

Would have also told waitress to ignore batshit parent

This. It's a burger joint.

Can't believe Birthday child's parent's didn't tell her to do on though.

Never understand why people just put up with behaviour like this. I would have put her straight immediately. Why allow it to happen?

Sorry, assumed it was the birthday girl's mother.

She doesn't let her dd have coke. Fair enough. That's her choice. Seems a bit precious and OTT to me. The world is not going to stop spinning over 1 glass of coke, but. Like I said her choice and all that.
However that's the word choice is the common denominator. Its her choice not to allow her dd to have coke. However its not her choice to dictate as to what other children can and can't drink, because. Its not fair on her "poppet". No one guaranteed life was fair.

Silly bint. I'd have gone and corrected the waitress. I pick my kids' food, not some fucking vegan eco-warrior who thinks banning coke makes her the superior parent.

Maybe I've just got the giggles today but the post reads ten times funnier if you figure it's about cocaine. Actually that may have been a funnier comeback to Best Mother Ever. "Yeah, but you know, it's a special occasion and I never let her have a full line."