To be annoyed with this mother regarding coke at a kids party

[franciemczoo]

We were at an 8 year old's party at the weekend at a local burger joint.

We allow our DD to have coke occasionally- I don't outright ban anything because I believe the minute you make something "banned" you're making something seem more attractive.

Before the party we were looking at the menu and it said any soft drink was included. So DD asked whether she could have a Coke as part of her meal deal and I said yes.

So we get to the venue and the waitress was very efficiently taking the orders from the children (parents were sitting on a separate table)

I saw one of the mums talking to the waitress and thought nothing of it. Said mum then came up to the parents - including the birthday girls parents who were picking up the tab and announced "I don't let (DD) have Coke and I don't think it's fair for all the other children to have Coke and not my DD so I've told the waitress to tell the children they can't have Coke when she takes their order"

We were all but were all too polite to say anything!

So what would you have done in this situation? Was the mum in question right to do this?

Cheeky cow, I would have said something, what the hell has it got to do with her?

Mine were all allowed very limited amounts of coke and crap - they are now 15,17,19 and stick thin but you would not believe the amount of shit they eat now out of the house and my control

I wouldn't have been polite...

If you police your child's food and drink it's up to you to enforce it, not other parents.

For future reference - stand up to the batshit parent. Someone needs to let her know that her behaviour is NOT normal and NOT acceptable.

So not one of the other parents stood up to this daft woman?
What if she had said her DD was a vegetarian so no one else can have a burger?
Well done for all teaching your kids to be fucking doormats.

How incredibly entitled and rude!!!

I would have told her to fuck right off trying to dictate what my child was allowed to drink. Then I would have called her a fanny for good measure, before ordering my child a large coke.

Life's not fair, get over it. ... is what I say to my kids when they can't do/have/allowed to do something, that EVERYONE else is doing.

That's their shouting, not mine.

I may have shared that thought with her. Ridiculous my kids have never had coke

Pictures or it didn't happen.

What a cheeky cow, I wod have said something. I can see her doing the same in years to come. What an idiot that mum is, she does not dictate what my child can have.

What did they have instead?

"How incredibly entitled and rude!!!"

^this^

But tbh, I probably wouldn't have challenged her either with the reasoning that if she has enough cheek to do it in the first place she's probably going to be the sort of person who reduces me to a gibbering wreck lectures and demands why you aren't giving your child spring water filtered through angels wings......

Um, well I thought this thread was about parents doing coke at a kid's party

I'm very anti soft drink, I really am. I don't drink it myself and am probably very annoying. I very reluctantly let my kids have it at parties. I struggle to let my 5 yo. I wouldn't impose this on others, though!

Bloody Hell ,

What an entitled woman. So her DD could not have coke ? Fair enough , but to demand NONE have coke, not even her DDs party, the audacity of it .

AND not even her DDs party *

I would have spoken to the waitress and ordered my DC a coke, no need to argue with the woman.

My DS is allowed 1 fizzy drink when out for a meal or a sleck occasion, so possibly two per month, and I wouldn't let another parent dictate that but I wouldn't make a scene either.

If it had been the birthday girl's parents than that is different as they are paying.

I can't believe no one challenged her & just let her away with that kind of behaviour

Hahahaha that's an amazing story.

I also read it as being it was the birthday girl's mother which I would be 'OK, your party your rules' but for it to be some random is

Some people!

Our DD couldn't have fizzy drinks when younger and would complain that others were having them. We said sorry, your health doesn't allow it - no-one said life was fair.

I would love to think I would have said something to this woman but I may have been just too gobsmacked by her cheek!

And you all meekly sat there and allowed that to happen! I'm more agog at that than the actual batshit mother! Even if I didn't allow coke myself, I would have had to order one just to piss her off.

What about the mum (or dad) who'd organised the party? Surely it would be up to them to call her out?

Silly woman, and completely out of order behaviour at another child's party.
I'm not sure I would have challenged her though, because I wouldn't have wanted to make it awkward for the birthday girl's parents by creating a "scene" at their daughter's birthday. I think they could have objected though, and I would have supported them.

The mind boggles.what else will she ban for everyone else's kids? What a nutter.

I thought you meant cocaine