To be annoyed with this mother regarding coke at a kids party

[franciemczoo]

We were at an 8 year old's party at the weekend at a local burger joint.

We allow our DD to have coke occasionally- I don't outright ban anything because I believe the minute you make something "banned" you're making something seem more attractive.

Before the party we were looking at the menu and it said any soft drink was included. So DD asked whether she could have a Coke as part of her meal deal and I said yes.

So we get to the venue and the waitress was very efficiently taking the orders from the children (parents were sitting on a separate table)

I saw one of the mums talking to the waitress and thought nothing of it. Said mum then came up to the parents - including the birthday girls parents who were picking up the tab and announced "I don't let (DD) have Coke and I don't think it's fair for all the other children to have Coke and not my DD so I've told the waitress to tell the children they can't have Coke when she takes their order"

We were all but were all too polite to say anything!

So what would you have done in this situation? Was the mum in question right to do this?

I thought a parent was taking cocaine at a kid's party.

If I had the balls I would have done similar and said the same but replaced the word coke with chips/burgers etc.....

Then the mum may have realised what a twit she was being.

I would have ordered cokes all round for the party group, with extra large cokes for all the parents. Just because the other mum was being ridiculous and is going to completely embarass her DD when she is older if she carries on like this

I would take an opportunity during normal chat with Entitled Mum to tell her that the drinks cost a lot more and that as she had banned coke off her own bat that I felt she should contribute or at least offer.

If you take the kids to a fast food restaurant then really you might as well let them have whatever they like including coke. It's not like they are three years old.

I think that children have to learn they can't always have the same as someone else, life is not fair and I would never expect anyone to order differently because I don't allow it. One coke on a special occasion is perfectly acceptable, why should all the other kids suffer.

I would have gone and got my child one and paid for it

LOL at banning a one-off coke but eating in a fast food joint...

If it was Birthday mum then I'd just suck it up - if birthday girl isn't allowed then I kind of see why others wouldn't be ...

but some random controlling ogre, not a chance. Someone definitely should have over ruled her. Astonished that she did that at someone elses party! Very rude of her.

Oh and to the person who mentioned Sprite ..... it does NOT have caffeine in it!

There is no way I'd let DS have coke, and it often causes problems when we see a friend of his whose dad lets her have whatever she wants and however many cokes she wants. I have to stand my ground. I wouldn't force others to do the same but it would solve a lot of problems at a birthday party

That was a dick move. What do you think the kids will be drinking at a party in a burger joint. Fuck all to do with another mother what mine can have as a special treat.

I used to do some childcare as a teen for a family on a strict "healthy" regime. No sugar, meat or wheat. They were the palest snottiest worst behaved kids ever and last I heard the eldest is in prison for drug dealing.

I'd have ordered my child a coke even if I had to pay myself.

At that age I didn't allow ds certain sugar free drinks because they gave him stomach cramps butveven at his own party I provided them for others.

I think I would have said "oh sorry but I've already agreed coke with my DD as only allowed on special occasions but more especially I don't like to renege on a promise. You should have been here earlier and expressed your views "

Honestly what an opinionated cow

God no! You cant control what other peoples DCs eat.

DS is lacto and went to party recently. All the DCs had ice cream. I didn't stop everyone else from having it.

Bet party mums DC will be the first to get a coke from the corner shop once they reach secondary school!

Well mine don't drink coke (btw yabu calling it coke i/o cola, I got very confused for a minute there) but largely because they don't like it rather than they're banned from. Though I'd have to admit to dissuading them from any fizzy drink but whatevs. BUT in this case I'd have been ordering them both a bucket of it. Assuming you were too gobsmacked to do much other than sit like this

By that reckoning, if there's any vegetarians there she shouldn't let her daughter eat meat in front of them. Or wheat intolerant she shouldn't eat the bun in front of them....

How bloody entitled and wet! What a cheek to decide things like that at someone else's party! Some people are just so rude!!! And how wet is she that she can't stick to her guns when others will be having it!

I can't believe people like that exist. She should parent properly so her daughter understands different people have different things. I've had coeliac disease since I can remember and there were lots of things I would have loved to have when I was a child and obviously saw my friends and family have such things. I managed to understand it though even as a very young child!
Absolutely no way would I have allowed someone else to dictate anything to do with my son! No need to make a scene, simply change the order!

Can't wait until her dc is a teenager and quaffing coke at every opportunity. I'd have said something to the cheeky cow and ordered coke for my child. Depends on how mouthy you are though as to whether you'd feel comfortable doing that. I'm mouthy.

She's absolutely batshit to tell other parents what they can give to their kids. She needs to teach her daughter that she can't always have what others do although I highly suspect with a mother like this the mum is going to have to be more concerned about daughter snorting rather than drinking Coke when she turns into a rebellious teenager

If they don't allow their child certain things that's up to them, but to interfere at another child's party is so shocking I almost laughed with incredulity! I probably would have said something to the birthday parents. My dd would have said "do you have coke?" to the waitress and pointed out the other diners who had some. It's a real treat for her and she would have ensured she got her treat! That poor child is going to soon learn that all those banned foods are regularly eaten by other children and she's going to have to live with that, better she sees this now, rather than assuming everyone else will follow suit. I used to be allergic to orange food colouring as it made me hyper and my bf was allergic to milk. We didn't go around demanding that people not drink squash or eat ice cream because we couldn't! We just had something else. Hopefully karma will come full circle...

Disappointed spidey as well

She was a complete and utter arse. But if party mum was too timid to say anything, and the rest of you didn't bother...
I wouldn't have let that pass.

I think she was being fair had her dd of kicked up a fuss.. Large jugs of juice are common at a kids party and your dd could use her coke treats at times when its your family only. Not when other kids may get upset if she has one