To be annoyed with this mother regarding coke at a kids party

[franciemczoo]

We were at an 8 year old's party at the weekend at a local burger joint.

We allow our DD to have coke occasionally- I don't outright ban anything because I believe the minute you make something "banned" you're making something seem more attractive.

Before the party we were looking at the menu and it said any soft drink was included. So DD asked whether she could have a Coke as part of her meal deal and I said yes.

So we get to the venue and the waitress was very efficiently taking the orders from the children (parents were sitting on a separate table)

I saw one of the mums talking to the waitress and thought nothing of it. Said mum then came up to the parents - including the birthday girls parents who were picking up the tab and announced "I don't let (DD) have Coke and I don't think it's fair for all the other children to have Coke and not my DD so I've told the waitress to tell the children they can't have Coke when she takes their order"

We were all but were all too polite to say anything!

So what would you have done in this situation? Was the mum in question right to do this?

Am I the only one wondering why all the DC still had their parents there at an 8 year old's birthday party? By that age I wouldn't presume to have any control over what they were eating/drinking at a party!

I don't allow my 9 and and 7 year old coke because I drank it as a kid and well, had a good couple of fillings by the time I was a teenager!
I would never dictate to others (even if it was my child's party) about what they give their children so I think she was wrong. I would have said well I am buying it therefore he can have it!

Good point Red why the hell were all the parents there OP?!

Seriously?

What a tool she is.

Did anyone think this thread was going to be about a mum taking coke at a kids party?

Slightly disappointed by the actual content.

This is her BU. Fair enough if she doesn't let her kid have coke but she has to suck it up if her daughter thinks it's unfair. My daughter tells me certain things are unfair because her friend so and so does X and I just tell her different parents have made different decisions and that is all.

I read the title as mother's having coke at a kids party. But I visualised the white powder 🤣
Thought this one is heading straight to the daily fail lol

She was being very unreasonable dictating what a whole party can consume because of her stupid rules.

But you and all the other parents were unreasonable to sit there and say/do nothing.

I would have had no problem telling her she can please herself but I/my child will be ordering a fizzy drink. End of.

I was secretly hoping this was about a mum doing coke at a kids party.

But then I thought, nah, annoyed wouldn't quite cover that.

I would have told her that both my DD and I were both going to consume as much coke as we could!

Seriously - who does she think she is? And I can't believe you all sat there meekly and let her get away with such tyrannical behaviour.

Were they allowed sprite? Cos there is just as much caffine in sprite!

Did anyone think this thread was going to be about a mum taking coke at a kids party?

Yes.

Host at a party at your house, don't serve coke = fair enough
Host and pay for a party at a restaurant and limit the menu = fair enough
Go to someone else's party and limit the menu for everyone else without discussion = rousing chorus of "you're not the boss of me"

What if the birthday boy/girl wanted coke with their 🍔 and 🍟?

I hate that kind of person, I really do.

You sat there politely and let her dictate to you. Why?

I would have gone and ordered a coke straight away and given it to my child if they wanted it or not. No-one tells me what my child care or cannot have.

WHAT?!

I cannot believe that everyone let themselves be knocked back like a set of dominos.

Wow!

Wow

So if DD doesn't get something nobody does?

She'll be dealing with a very entitled teenager in a few years!

Silly cow

My DD isn't allowed cocaine either, and I'm shocked at your liberal attitudes.

I would have told my dd that it was up to the birthday girl's mum (since she was presumably paying) and sent her over to ask her if she could have coke. If the birthday mum said no then fair enough but I'd have told my dd loudly, in front of weird mum that I'd buy dd a coke after the party.
If the birthday mum said yes then I'd tell dd to order coke and if there was a problem I'd tell the waitress myself that she'd checked with the party organiser who said it was fine.
Cheek of the other mum trying to dictate to everyone to make it easier to enforce her own rules.

Or I would have asked her to repeat she said and then said to her...so, because you don't want your child to have a coke, you have stopped any of the children having a coke? Just to make her squirm. if she confirmed yes, I'd have said I'm sorry, I don't mind my child having a coke at a party, so I'm going to get him one...

Since when does Sprite have caffeine in?

Yes she was BVU!

But why on earth didn't you challenge her?!

What did her DD have out of interest? Another soft drink? Milkshake? Milk? Water?

Sprite doesn't contain caffeine!

" but were all too polite to say anything! "

Yeah-that's how people like her get away with such shit!

What did your daughter do/say?

Did she care?

By me, parents tend to stay at eight years olds parties...and this is one of the reasons why I would .. other parents interfering in what my child can or cannot have. At one party, another parent said she would take my much younger child to a party with hers...I was reluctant but agreed. When she brought her back she'd had her face painted and she's allergic to it. I hadn't known facepainters would be there.. just an example of how some people think they can decide what goes on with other people's kids.