To be upset friend treated gift like this

[TooTiredAgain]

Don't you think it's rude when you give someone a present and they show that they dislike it?

I gave a good friend a newborn hooded towel from M&S as a gift when she had her second baby. I could see instantly that she did not look impressed. It was worth similar to what she spent when I had my baby, so it wasn't because it was small or anything. She put it on the arm of the chair, then her eldest child knocked it off and KICKED IT AROUND THE FLOOR, for some time. She did not tell them off. I pretended I did not notice, but I thought it was rude.

Is it a rubbish present for a newborn?

On a separate note, it was actually regifted gift. I often put aside gifts that I recieve with tags on, to regift if I don't need them. However, she would not know that. I received it from a neighbour, but I already had a lot of towels for my baby. But, I acted as if I loved the present when she gave it me! LOL.

What did she buy for your baby? You didn't put any thought into the gift so you can't really get upset.

I wonder if you inadvertently let slip it was regifted, I mean shes a good friend, did she see you open it when you had your baby, or perhaps notice it in a pile of things to be regifted in your spare room? Its not the item, its a perfectly lovely gift but it could be she thought you weren't putting any thought into it if you gave something away from a surplus pile of unwanted gifts?

I just checked out not on the high street.com and spotted a baby hamper almost identical to the one I bought for a friend from a lovely local baby boutique, I paid £19.99 and the one on " Not on the high street" cost £125!!! The set comprises, a toy, booties, towel, vest, babygrow and bib all in a beautiful hamper, now I am shocked - sorry for going off topic but someon further up thread got me interested in checking the sit out as I have loads of friends having babys over the next few months, think I will stick to my boutique :)

sorry for the rubbish spelling, had my fingernails done for the first time in my life, now I cant type, need to hack them off I think

www.notonthehighstreet.com/babyblooms/product/little-love-sleepy-time-hamper-blue

this is what I managed to find for £ 20 here

angelitomio.co.uk

sorry just gobsmacked at the price difference

OP, YANBU. The fact that you re-gifted it is a red herring - your friend wasn't to know that!

It's good manners to say thank you when you receive a gift. If your friend really didn't like it, she could have said something to you discreetly, perhaps along the lines of 'thank you very much for giving me this, its lovely but I'm afraid I won't get much use out of it as I already have several similar things. I hope you aren't offended but would it be possible to have the receipt?'. This approach does involve a little white lie but it would have been polite and spared your feelings.

I am that your friend didn't say thank you for the gift and then allowed her child to kick it around on the floor! Yes, she may be frazzled as a new mum, but this is just rude.

itsnot to be honest I don't know that many online baby boutiques (years ago when searching for gifts for colleagues we used to go to handmade stalls on old Spitalfields Market and there was a shop in Liverpool Street station arcade (not that cheap though).

I liked the notonthehighstreet star wrap as it was a recommendation and has lots of good reviews. I'd rather buy one nice thing (neighbour has used it twice now for her first DS and now DS2) rather than lots someone won't use.

Francis I don't think older child was toddler or is... But the child could be jealous of baby. Either way, child should know better than to kick something around or should be told off but hey these things happen and if the mum is in hospital and tired and wants to come home, or even just knackered after birth of new baby, then sometimes tensions get frayed.

We got a load of Hooded baby towels when ds was born, they are useless beyond tiny new born stage even then a proper towel is better, not surprised you regifted. Not surprised she wasn't overly excited

Agree with this.

I got given a white hooded baby towel when my DS was born. I tried so so hard to be grateful and thank my lovely friend, but I was kind of horrified that a) it was white and b) she'd left the price tag on and so I saw it was £30 of white towel. Expensive white things for babies make me anxious. And they are beyond useless beyond a few months.

I think it's poor manners to 'regift' and the child was rude. Not great all round.

I have to say I think this is a bit of a rubbish gift for a second baby. She'll already have loads of towles and will be thinking God where am I going to store this one, the drawer/hooks are already choka. It's also a very small gift, I'd haveput a cuddly toy or something in with it as well.

However, it is a bit rude to let the oldest child kick a newly received gift around.

Yes, passing on something that you don't want is 'giving stuff away' not 'regifting'.

Your friend has no basic manners.

I love regifting, and don't see the issue at all. We also quite liked a hooded towel. That said she is probably knackered, as long as she smiled politely and said thanks I'd not mind.

Francis I know what you meant but your assumption (maybe wrongly I'll hold my hands up) that I was maybe one of the posters who thought the child was a toddler...

In fact I didn't say that and I also didn't assume that!

I always know when I've been given a regifted gift.

Oh and YABU OP.

Dione I'm the same. Always know when it's been re gifted and unless it's someone who I know will like x gift (eg jewellery or a box etc) and not a close friend I don't bother...

Dione

I always know when I've been given a regifted gift.

How????

Not showing gratitude for a gift is shocking manners

I second mangosandpapayas' question: how on earth can you 'always' know if something has been re-gifted?

Fair enough if it's chocolates or bubble bath that's close to its 'use by' date but for something like a towel..?

It's like saying you always know when someone's lying to you. Not if they're really good at it you don't.