AIBU to think my other halfs an a-hole!

[meg180611]

We had the in laws for dinner tonight, so obviously I had to tidy and clean all the rooms they would see...also make the dinner for 5, which isn't the norm for me so a bit of a task. As well as take care of/feed/change and entertain our 5 month old daughter. Oh and do washings/hang out/bring in/fold put away. Also visit my mother with said child who was complaining she hadn't seen her since Sunday. (Sigh)

SO I thought, easiest thing to make? Pasta! Let OH know this when he txt asking the usual what's for dinner, his response... "can you not be a bit more imaginative? We have pasta all the time" I let it go and explained it's easy for me with the baby to just shove a pot of pasta on..

So I made a bit of an effort and put chicken in the pasta, and do you know what the first word he said to me before he even said hello? "Chickens a bit over cooked" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AIBU to continue to not speak to him until I get an apology? I know it sound pathetic but when you try and please and it gets shot down so harshly, really makes you resent them. It's even more annoying that he doesn't even think he's being sh*tty to me.

This is just an example of how most things he says/does since the baby infuriate me, do I just suck it up?

Op why didn't you give him stuff to do, like looking after baby and tidying up the night before, or he cooks and tidied up.

For heaven's sake.

Her husband:

• texts her daily to ask what's for dinner;
• when she tells him about this one, complains that she's not "being more imaginative" and requests she change it;
• when he gets in, complains about the dinner before even saying hello ;
• when she's cooking for his parents;
• and she's looking after a 5-month-old.

I do 95% of the cooking in my house, and if my husband had that kind of attitude I'd be telling him to get his own bloody chef. (I do cook pasta regularly though. Including for my MIL! )

From the op:

when he txt asking the usual what's for dinner

This implies he texts her most days if not every day asking about dinner.

Where does it say he texts her daily asking what's for dinner?

"he txt asking the usual what's for dinner"

What is wrong with that?!?

If someone else is cooking for you and your parents while looking after your baby, it is generally considered rather impolite to a) say "can you not be a bit more imaginative?" about the food and b) complain about the quality of the cooking as soon as you get in the door, before even saying hello.

You can set whatever standards you like for yourself, but that attitude would not fly in my house, pasta or no pasta.

Again, he said the chicken was overcooked as soon as he got in the door, before even saying "hello". That's rude. Also, if someone else was cooking for me and my parents while looking after my baby all day, I would consider it pretty bloody rude to whine "can you not be a bit more imaginative?" about whatever they were cooking. If I wanted something fancier than they were up to making, I'd suggest pitching in myself. Or at the very least, I'd be using the word "please".

But hey, she cooks pasta with pesto for her family - THE HORROR - and therefore does not deserve basic politeness

I am really shocked by some of the comments on this thread. On MN I am always seeing posts about how ILs are family and should be treated as such with no need for palaver. But it now seems that's doesn't extend to feeding them a normal family meal!

OP's DH being rude about what she planned to cook and about the fact that it was overcooked would have had me seething! If you don't cook it you don't criticise it!