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AIBU to think my other halfs an a-hole!

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meg180611 · 05/05/2017 00:08

We had the in laws for dinner tonight, so obviously I had to tidy and clean all the rooms they would see...also make the dinner for 5, which isn't the norm for me so a bit of a task. As well as take care of/feed/change and entertain our 5 month old daughter. Oh and do washings/hang out/bring in/fold put away. Also visit my mother with said child who was complaining she hadn't seen her since Sunday. (Sigh)

SO I thought, easiest thing to make? Pasta! Let OH know this when he txt asking the usual what's for dinner, his response... "can you not be a bit more imaginative? We have pasta all the time" I let it go and explained it's easy for me with the baby to just shove a pot of pasta on..

So I made a bit of an effort and put chicken in the pasta, and do you know what the first word he said to me before he even said hello? "Chickens a bit over cooked" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AIBU to continue to not speak to him until I get an apology? I know it sound pathetic but when you try and please and it gets shot down so harshly, really makes you resent them. It's even more annoying that he doesn't even think he's being sh*tty to me.

This is just an example of how most things he says/does since the baby infuriate me, do I just suck it up?

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Fruitcorner123 · 05/05/2017 08:50

I can't believe all the replies on here. The OP has a small baby why shouldn't she cook pasta? My family and in laws would have suggested a takeaway or something and if DH complained about the chicken when he walked in i would definitely expect an apology.

I would have said no to my mum though or she could have had baby for an hour while you got some jobs done?

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 08:59

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MatadorBowerBird · 05/05/2017 09:25

If it's just a bit of pasta and chicken which is oh so easy and straightforward and only takes 5 mins blah blah blah, why doesn't OP's husband prepare it himself when he gets home from work, or at least help his wife to prepare it, rather than expecting it to be on the table when he gets home and then moaning that it's not up to his standards?

You're not the only one whose mind is blown, Navy.

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 09:29

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53rdWay · 05/05/2017 09:32

If the first thing my husband said to me when he got in was that the dinner I'd made was overcooked, he'd be doing every sodding meal for the next ten years. She's not his personal servant ffs.

cestlavielife · 05/05/2017 09:38

Next time tell dh to pick up tesco finest or m & s nice prepared roast or pie or wuiche etc and stick in oven . Salads and nice bread.
Don't tidy everywhere.

LaurieMarlow · 05/05/2017 09:42

Oh ffs, what's this, this super mum brigade? Nothing wrong with pasta.

If it's so easy to prepare a delicious meal then DH should do it himself.

Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 09:44

If it's ONLY a bit of pasta and chicken then why SHOULDN'T the husband cook it after work?

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 09:51

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Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 09:56

Then if someone is making food for you every day then you have no business complaining that a) the food isn't exciting enough, and b) it isn't cooked well. Particularly when the person isn't only preparing food for you but your family too.

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 10:01

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pictish · 05/05/2017 10:08

I agree with navy on this one. It's nothing to do with wife work, it's just an ordinary occurrence. Cooking isn't difficult even with a baby in tow. It's just the usual and tedious fuck the husband and in laws because women with babies are as precious as unicorn foals Mumsnet rule that is applied as a matter of course.

Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 10:14

Or rather the usual cool wives brigade who can cook a four course meal for 20, whilst carrying their triplets in a sling having a broom up their arse to sweep the floor. They can also makes the chicken last for a week.

Their husbands are too precious to wipe their own arses after a hard day at work.

Figaro2017 · 05/05/2017 10:18

Imagine a man fucking up a meal of pasta and chicken. The cries of Man Child would be overwhelming!

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 10:23

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Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 10:27

Are you looking for a pat on the back?

I moved house on my OWN two days before I gave birth, I moved again on my own with an 8 week old, I worked and came home and cooked and cleaned after work.

But what the hell does that have to do with ops husband moaning at op?

MatadorBowerBird · 05/05/2017 10:29

Figaro, the cries are about a manchild who thinks he's above preparing pasta and chicken, then moans that his wife isn't doing it well enough for him.

MatadorBowerBird · 05/05/2017 10:31

And well done, Navy, have a medal - but what has that got to do with the actual thread?

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 10:31

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Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 10:33

You sound like a martyr Smile

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 10:35

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Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 10:37

Haven't you got some veg to be putting in the slow cooker?

NavyandWhite · 05/05/2017 10:38

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Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 10:39

Do make sure you don't overcook it, hubby won't be pleased.

Furchesterbaby · 05/05/2017 10:40

After work? Surely not

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