To not make his sandwiches?

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Dp has been feeling rubbish at work lately. It's because instead of taking some proper food in he takes a couple of breakfast bars to see him through his shift but he is on his feet a lot so this obviously isn't substantial enough.

I suggested he should maybe make himself a sandwich or something to take with him. His response was that he can't be bothered it takes five minutes to knock up a wrap or sandwich. He asked me if I could make them for him but I refused on the basis that he is more than capable of making his own sandwich for work and that I have enough on my plate with 2 young dc, the majority of the housework and cooking and my own myriad of MH issues.

I am a sahm, but I don't see why I should be expected to make him sandwiches when he has ample time either before or after work to make one himself. I'm his partner, not his mother. Aibu?

I never even cooked for my ex. He liked meat and I'm a vegetarian so he had to cook his own meat.

My DH makes his own lunch. He also makes the children's lunches and their breakfasts and brings me a cup of tea in bed.

He also often cooks dinner.

Because he's not a lazy arse.

Yanbu op. Some of these replies are ridiculous. People think that because you sah looking after two preschool kids you should make a sandwich for an adult who just cba to do it and clearly thinks it's your job.
Surely he can get his lazy arse off the sofa to do it whilst you are busy looking after your children.

O and especially as you have your own health problems op.

Some of these comments belong in the 1950's. So because she works from home she's expected to do EVERYTHING? Her job never ends and his does when he clocks off. That's not fair. If he had no time to do it that's one thing, but going hungry because he can't be arsed is a problem an adult with opposable thumbs needs to find a solution for himself.

Ok I know I'm late to the thread and I have read the whole thing. What I don't understand is your anger at him saying he can't be arsed and asking if you would. The reason I don't understand this is, he didn't complain about what he has previously been eating for lunch (I get that his body language did) you suggested he start having sandwiches and he replied that he couldn't be bothered, which he is well within his right to say. Him asking you to make it doesn't come across like he said it in a demanding way but simply asked, you said no and that's that. So why the need for a thread that basically has a go at him when the situation was sorted, kind of? I could understand if he demanded you make his sandwiches everyday, I could understand if he didn't accept your no for an answer and I could understand if he suggested taking in sandwiches from now on. That wasn't the case though, you suggested he takes a sandwhich he stated he didn't want to make it and ask you, you said no and that was it. Have a missed something? I'm failing to see how he has been allowed to be called lazy etc when going by your posts that isn't really the case.

I love making my DH his sandwiches and we both work full time.. he does other jobs though. does your DH pull his weight?