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I'm overweight and wear leggings

236 replies

LemonCurdles · 03/05/2017 17:38

I can't be dead certain but I thought I heard two women sniggering about me in a shop when I was bending down.

They went silent when I got up and looked in their direction. They proceded laughing and whispering again when I turned to go down the next aisle.

It may well have had nothing to do with me but you know when you just get that feeling that you're being watched? I had that before I even clocked them.

I think it was because I'm fat and wearing leggings. I worry now that if i need to bend or stretch and in certain light people may catch a glimpse of my breakfast underwear. And every massive little ripple of cellulite is probably on show.

But they are just so damn comfy.

Am I being publicly undecent in my choice of attire or am I being over self conscious and paranoid?

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HighwayDragon1 · 03/05/2017 17:39

YABU

Leggings are NOT trousers. Ever. Regardless of your size.

Areyoufree · 03/05/2017 17:40

If they were, then they are dicks. And they have to spend their entire lives being dicks. You can wear whatever you want.

SquatBetty · 03/05/2017 17:41

Just check your rear view before you leave the house! I couldn't care less if you are over weight and wearing leggings. What I don't like is people wearing leggings that are too thin and you can clearly see underwear through them - buy thick leggings, people!

SmhShakingMyHead · 03/05/2017 17:42

I drove by a very slim teenage girl on the way home. She was wearing leggings and her underwear was on full view.

I also saw another woman wearing very light grey leggings and you could see the outline of everything (hello growler outline!)

For that reason (regardless of size) I wouldn't wear leggings. They just aren't flattering as they show everything. They shouldn't have laughed at you though.

AfunaMbatata · 03/05/2017 17:42

I've never seen an overweight women in leggings not have very visible fat bumps and knickers apart from those that wear longer tunic type tops.

Wear what you want but people will be twats.

Babyroobs · 03/05/2017 17:42

I am quite overweight and wear leggings but very good quality ones that don't become see through. Also I always wear long tunic tops over them to avoid any problems.

Kennethnoisewater · 03/05/2017 17:42

It's probably because they're see through. And NOBODY wants to see your underwear, regardless of your size. Dress properly.

TheCatOfAthenry · 03/05/2017 17:43

I luffs the word growler! Grin

MsMarvel · 03/05/2017 17:43

Even in leggings everything shouldnt be on show. Perhaps your leggings are too small for you?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 03/05/2017 17:44

I am very overweight, and I wear leggings with either a tunic top or a knee length dress - basically I think it is fine as long as the tunic/dress covers my bum even when I bend down.

CuppaTeaTeddy · 03/05/2017 17:44

A lot of leggings are see through. Whether you're small or big, it's never a good look to see knickers through leggings.

Meekonsandwich · 03/05/2017 17:44

I am also fat and I love my leggings, I just make sure I get thicker ones, matalan ones are good! I wear longer tops with them, unless they're thicker like joggings material (the type that horse riders wear) or jeggings

user3459859083590890 · 03/05/2017 17:44

Leggings are not flattering. They are certainly not on me!

If you enjoy the comfort they bring - and God, are they comfortable! - team them with a long tunic that will cover your bum when you bend down. Test this before you go out.

As to people laughing - IF they were laughing at you, well bugger them. There's always some moron who will poke fun. Stop caring and live your life!

GlitterRollerSkate · 03/05/2017 17:44

Fuck what anyone thinks! Wear what ever you feel comfortable in. If they don't like it don't look!

AirBiscuitEater · 03/05/2017 17:45

Firstly, sorry you had to encounter such childish behaviour. What a pair of twats.

Secondly, it seems you are being a it harsh on yourself. Please don't call yourself fat. Alas, we are our own worse critic, I know.

Thirdly, I think bad quality, almost see through leggings look awful on anyone, regardless of size. Have you checked in the mirror at home to see if your breakfast underwear is actually visible?

Gym pants are a great alternative, comfy but generally thicker material. I also find H & M leggings to be decent quality Smile

IAmTheWorwax · 03/05/2017 17:45

It was rude if them to laugh at you.

However yabu for wearing leggings and being surprised when someone has a giggle when they get a full view of your under carriage. Have you ever seen someone bend over in thin leggings? It's not nice no matter what size you are.

Asmoto · 03/05/2017 17:45

Well, if they were laughing at you they were childish idiots, for starters - but I wouldn't assume that was the case.

To set your mind at rest, is there someone you can trust to check your leggings when you're bending over to make sure they're not slipping down or becoming see through? Sometimes when they get worn they can become transparent even on the thinnest of people.

If it's an issue, a long t-shirt, tunic or jumper usually removes any danger of showing too much through leggings.

WhooooAmI24601 · 03/05/2017 17:45

I don't wear them because I don't have a clue what to wear them with, but those women were arseholes if they were laughing at you. It doesn't matter what size or shape you are; no one has the right to laugh at your body. It's a vessel to carry about your internal organs, that's all.

Head high and ignore it. If folk want to be as shallow as that they've probably got really shitty lives. Nobody I know goes about laughing at other people's clothes (though I did get a bit shitty with DH when he bought himself some Crocs for pottering about the garden, but that's just common sense because they're vile).

KirstyJC · 03/05/2017 17:46

I would check in the mirror - bend over and see what is showing!

I don't think size is relevant but as pp say if you bend over sometimes you are showing more than you think. It amazes me how many people don't seem to check - I have walked behind many a school run mum with lovely clothes, lovely hair and lovely figure and lovely pink and whilte saggy pants clearly showing through what they think are leggings but are actually tights. Kind of spoils the overall effect!

user1493759849 · 03/05/2017 17:47

If you are comfortable, who cares? That said, leggings don;t look good for general going out wear. I wear them for going for walks as they are clingy and my wellies fit better with them, but I wouldn't go out properly wearing them.

Depends how overweight you are too. I am about 2.5 to 3 stone overweight, and they look OK on me. Not great though.

Soyamilkisniceintea · 03/05/2017 17:47

I always wear leggings. I don't know what else is comfy apart from jogging bottoms!

Arkhamasylum · 03/05/2017 17:48

What areyoufree said.

Why should you care what two arseholes are laughing at?

Neverknowing · 03/05/2017 17:49

Yanbu I love leggings, they're so comfy. I'm not fat but if I'm allowed to wear them why shouldn't you?!
If they were laughing at you (I doubt they were that sounds stupid) then it's their Bitchy problem. You can wear whatever you like!!

BuzzKillington · 03/05/2017 17:49

Quality is key. If they go transparent when stretched it's not a good look, fat or thin. Also wear a long top.

EphraimWaite · 03/05/2017 17:49

Regardless of size or legging quality, unless you're in the gym I think your top should at least reach the thigh/bum crease if you're wearing leggings. But I also think people who laugh out loud about other people's bums/flab/knickers/wardrobe should be smacked in the face with an off mackerel fillet.