To think it's rude to asking how much it costs?

[Hauntedbytheghostofyou]

I've had cosmetic surgery and it's something very noticeable. I'm very open with it but I'm sick of the first question being - how much did it cost??

Aibu? It's none of anyone's business

Sorry but it's stuff like this that I think why the hell should I tell anyone. I hope the people I've told don't just randomly start messaging people with this.

But you said you don't mind tell anyone by PM. We ALL want to know now, since you've made it sound so mysterious and cryptic, so surely they are just saving you the bother of answering zillions of PMs?

Have you had one of those ridiculous Kim Kardashian bums inserted? DH and I saw one of those once and we nearly wet ourselves laughing.

Had your tongue and lips modified so you look like a lizard?

Had your legs fused together like a mermaid?

Just say 'priceless' and change the subject

It is rude to ask questions about what certain things cost.. for example how much did your house cost or what i your wage! Just uncalled for.

OP, did you have a rib removed?

If they really want to find out the cost they can call a plastic surgeon and enquire ahha

ha I had cosmetic surgery last summer and people couldn't wait to ask what it cost, as lots wanted it done. it didn't bother me a jot!

So ... you need to fess up what have you had done and what did cost, or never speak of it again.

Weird that you think it's rude.
You must be a touchy person if you class curiosity like that as rude. I've just had a brace and people always ask how much it cost in the same way as I did when a friend had one before me as I was genuinely interested in if it was something I would get. I know people who have had Botox and of course I want to know how much it costs. It's not a touchy subject at all. They are not asking you for your annual income!

Juggling mum if you want to know how much a persons how cost Rightmove tells you what it sold for! Not exactly something to be secretive about.

l love the "slept with surgeon," "priceless " and "worth every penny" suggestions.

Some people want to know the price of everything and it is sometimes okay if there's a reason i.e they say they've always wanted to have it done themselves- that puts it into context. However, if they are asking in a judge-y way I can understand you feeling a bit 'got at' especially if you were bullied and may not be very comfortable with direct questions and confrontation.
I'd stick with humour and change the subject.

If you give the impression you are very open about something than unfort it would be hard for people to know which bits you are feeling open about and which bits you aren't feeling open about. If you don't feel comfortable telling them the cost just say something generic like "more than I planned to spend" or else something relevant.

Congratulations OP - glad you're pleased with it.

Given you're a self described open person idu the reluctance; presumably those that know you can google.

Do you generally not discuss the cost of anything? Some people just don't talk money ever. Or having suffered with self-consciousness do you feel embarrassed about telling people about spending that money to radically transform yourself? I sincerely hope you don't and you really enjoy the confidence boost it gives you.

To be honest, in this day and age where so many people look into having cosmetic surgery, I don't think it IS that rude, no. They probably want to get a rough estimate of cost to assess whether surgery is something they could afford themselves, regardless of which specific bit you had done. Or they might be the sort of person who says "oh you could have had it done for 1/4 price in Poland" or something similar (which is, in fairness, rude).

But it's rather like asking how much your new car cost, I think.
Some people don't like to tell others how much they spend, others don't think twice about it.

If you don't want to tell them exactly, just say "it cost just the right amount for me to be very happy with the results, thanks" and refuse to be drawn further.

I've always admired the fact Anne Robinson was so open about who did her face lift and how much it cost (about £10k apparently).

It's empowering to share information about costs, although I get them some people think it's impolite to discuss money at all.

I've always told people how much my ivf cost for that reason.

I think it depends how they ask. If you were a friend of mine I'd probably ask out how much the procedure cost out of curiosity in the same way I've had conversations with friends about how much our hairdressers charge to colour our hair or whether we give tips to staff in beauty salons. The fact that so many on this thread are now interested about it doesn't make us judgemental just curious,

I do think it's rude yes, some people have no filter.

I had reconstructive surgery following the removal of a large but turned out to be benign breast tumour. A few people scoffed at my choice of reconstruction (implants) asking if I'd gone for DD's another person, in front of a group of people who didn't know what I'd had done, said you got your free boobs on the NHS at least.

Double D's

I was actually mortified by the person who mentioned the free boobs. I'd gone through weeks of hell with biopsies etc and told I'd be left disfigured following surgery. I was offered reconstructive surgery and bloody well went for it.

Sorry OP, I've obviously been keeping this in

I had two colleagues going through IVF. The first only told us after her baby was born it was IVF and invited no questions. I said "congratulations". The other involved everyone during the courses and talked about it openly. She did get asked how many rounds the NHS paid and how much it was thereafter as well as how she felt.

I had colleagues saying "I no longer drive in through Croydon, we've moved to High Wycombe". I asked "is it lovely there?". Others tell you the size of the house they sold, the price, the re-mortgaging troubles... so people are more likely to ask about the prices.

You are setting the tone of the conversations yourself.

Bum implants? Chin implants?

DH's response to inappropriate questions about how much he earns or how much we paid for our house or whatever is "the required amount" - works quite well

Have you now got a tail? Do you now look like a Klingon?

Surely the response to obvious plastic surgery is, "gosh, don't you look well!" Which demonstrates that you have noticed an improvement or at least an obvious change in the person's appearance, but suggests that you're not that interested in hearing all about it.

I had dental implants in my early twenties. I still get asked that! I think people assume it's really expensive so are curious if you seem a 'normal' person. Although one person recently said ' that much?!' instead of the more usual 'I thought it would be more expensive'. Whether it's interest in having something done themselves I don't know but it's part of the process sadly!

Depends on how it was brought up. I actually just had this conversation this past week as both my sisters and cousins have had their boobs done. I have been considering the same for quite some time, so I asked if they didn't mind telling me how much it cost for them. The conversation flowed that way very naturally, so I think it depends on the persons intent or the WAY that it was delivered.. Of course they are my family too so I'm sure the closeness of our relationship made it easier to discuss. if someone says "geeez how much did it cost..." in kind of a judging voice I may be a little annoyed, but nothing to get carried away about. You don't have to tell anyone you had the surgery. If you don't want to talk about it then shut it down immediately and do not discuss the plastic surgery period. If you're open to discussing it then of course people are going to ask questions. Some people (like myself) have considered similar procedures and just want to know more from personal experience.

face transplant?