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to think some people have more money than sense

184 replies

hollyvsivy · 29/04/2017 23:07

An old school friend posted on Facebook earlier about taking her four kids plus two nephews out for the day. There was no special occasion yet they all went out for breakfast, stopped for drinks at Starbucks, ate lunch out, bought new toys and then a teddy from build a bear each to take home. Someone commented on how their DC loves build a bear too and she replied how she'd spent £250 in there on the six bears Shock That's two weeks food shopping money for me.

AIBU to hate these kind of braggy posts and such wasting of money when so many people could use the money so much better?

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Riderontheswarm · 29/04/2017 23:11

It does sound a waste of money. I don't think it is worth thinking about or getting annoyed about.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 29/04/2017 23:13

Remember it doesn't /won't make her a better parent. .

MommaGee · 29/04/2017 23:14

If she can afford it then it isn't really a waste - they all had a nice day. Lots of people have more money then me and spend it on stuff I cant afford but I just don't read it and move on

RJnomore1 · 29/04/2017 23:16

People can spend money as they see fit - the person next to you probably wishes they had £125 for food shopping a week.

ClearlyUnlikeable · 29/04/2017 23:17

Usually people who brag on FB have no money anyway but like to pretend they have...

harderandharder2breathe · 29/04/2017 23:17

Unfollow or unfriend.

Yes bragging is tacky.

But really, there's worse things to spend money on than a nice day out for the DC and a toy they want. If they can afford it then what's the harm?

I do get where you're coming from. I have stabbing jealousy when I see my friends shopping sprees sometimes (she lives at home with no bills, I rent alone and struggle every month to pay for everything) but I have to give myself a shake and remind myself it's my issue not hers.

WorraLiberty · 29/04/2017 23:17

YANBU to hate braggy posts

YABU to decide it's a waste of their own money and that they could use it better.

Perhaps they do also use their money better.

Pallisers · 29/04/2017 23:18

build a bear is the greatest waste of money in the world.

But I don't really care what other people spend their money on.

Yet again so glad I am not on facebook.

UrsulaPandress · 29/04/2017 23:18

Her money her choice.

Fb is the work of the devil though.

PovertyJetset · 29/04/2017 23:19

Well she posted it all over face ache to brag! And there is nothing more boring than a braggart.

Honestly- it's so so showy, and crass and gross.

User2468 · 29/04/2017 23:20

That just sounds vulgar, maybe sometimes we do things that are quite luxurious but I usually avoid posting on social media as I don't wish to appear tasteless. DH has bought me some lovely things over the years that I would love to boast about because they're beautiful but I don't!

I have no problems with people spending large amounts of money on days out or expensive things but it's the boasting that I don't like.

We used to know a couple that would regularly tell us the balance of their bank account over dinner, it was actually quite embarrassing. But they thought they were such big fish and liked to tell all us little fish just how little we are compared to them.

C4Envelope · 29/04/2017 23:22

Thats FIVE weeks worth of shopping here! But I would love to have that disposable income Envy !! Instead of build a bear im thinking nice meals out and day trips with DD

redshoeblueshoe · 29/04/2017 23:39

Its 9 weeks shopping here - but only 2 adults.
You may not be surprised to know I'm also on the very careful with money thread
or tight bastards Grin

MagentaRocks · 29/04/2017 23:42

I don't see what is wrong spending money on doing something nice. If they have it why not.

We have recently spent a fortune taking a family member away. It was a massive treat for them and we went a bit mad but could afford it and the memories will last a lifetime.

SmokeCloak · 29/04/2017 23:43

It's her money and her Facebook.

If you are only happy to see people being skint and miserable on FB then maybe it's time you deleted your account.

FritzDonovan · 29/04/2017 23:45

Do you know she was bragging about it though? Maybe they just all had a really nice day out (irrespective of how much money was spent) and she wanted to FB document it. My Mil puts the day trips, holidays and nice meals they've had on FB - I wouldn't say she was a braggy person at all.
You don't say that she does this a lot, maybe it was a complete one off, which they can afford every so often. Your 'some ppl have more money than sense' attitude sounds a bit bitter, tbh.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 29/04/2017 23:45

It doesn't sound like that much of a fun day. Lots of standing queuing in shops and waiting about in cafes. Children hate that sort of thing.

Blimey01 · 29/04/2017 23:47

It's her money, she can spend it on what she likes. Maybe unfollow her on FB so you don't have to read about it if it annoys you.

SmokeCloak · 29/04/2017 23:49

I dont see it as bragging either. She updated her status anout her day which is what FB is for.

Should people only post about things that don't cost any money?

mooninscorpio · 29/04/2017 23:50

I am lucky enough to be able to afford nice days out & treats for DC. I would not be posting on FB or broadcasting how much I'd spent.. how vulgar Smile

khajiit13 · 29/04/2017 23:51

Really don't see the issue here. She didn't put it in her post, it was in a comment, a reply. Yes it's a lot of money. Far more than I can afford, a week's wages for me. But she has the money and it's happy to spend so who cares

Bunnyfuller · 29/04/2017 23:53

You had me at FB. Why are people even still on there? It absolutely encourages this.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 29/04/2017 23:55

I think the whole notion that you have to throw loads of money at children to entertain them is awful actually. How about teaching them the value of money, rather than that you can eat out, have any toy you like and an expensive bear just because you can afford it.

If this is done regularly then everything loses its value. The toys discarded as soon as they're home.

mrsm43s · 29/04/2017 23:56

OMG I can't believe someone would come on the internet and brag about having a £125 a week shopping budget. Really...

SmokeCloak · 29/04/2017 23:57

If you can afford it then why not? It doesn't make you a better parent jbecause just your kids only have a stick to play with.