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to think some people have more money than sense

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hollyvsivy · 29/04/2017 23:07

An old school friend posted on Facebook earlier about taking her four kids plus two nephews out for the day. There was no special occasion yet they all went out for breakfast, stopped for drinks at Starbucks, ate lunch out, bought new toys and then a teddy from build a bear each to take home. Someone commented on how their DC loves build a bear too and she replied how she'd spent £250 in there on the six bears Shock That's two weeks food shopping money for me.

AIBU to hate these kind of braggy posts and such wasting of money when so many people could use the money so much better?

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C0untDucku1a · 29/04/2017 23:58

I was about tonsaythensame about £125 a week on food! As a family of four we spend roughly £70 a week.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 29/04/2017 23:58

You sound very bitter - probably best to focus on why that is, rather than on what she's doing.

Her saying what they did for the day isn't bragging and stopping at Starbucks for drinks is probably a good idea because you'd be screwed if you went there to buy trainers.

So what if they had breakfast & lunch 'out' as long as it doesn't mean they can't eat for the rest of the week?!

WorraLiberty · 29/04/2017 23:59

You had me at FB. Why are people even still on there? It absolutely encourages this.

Because not everyone has wanky 'friends' on Facebook.

A lot of us just have family and real life actual friends on there, that we choose to spend time with because....well they're not wanky or boasty.

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 00:00

Theres a lot of bitterness on this thtead.

How dare people take their kids out for the day and post about it on FB.

WorraLiberty · 30/04/2017 00:01

Not that I think the OP's friend is wanky

She can spend her money on whatever she pleases.

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hollyvsivy · 30/04/2017 00:01

The money related bragging is a common theme with her, yes. Of course people shouldn't only be skint and miserable but it's never a nice moment they've had while at insert check in at expensive eaterie it's always just about the name dropping of the place and how much they've spent. She doesn't work and has her PIL next door to help her with the DC because her husband works away. I can't help thinking I'd be annoyed if I were him.

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Bubblesagain · 30/04/2017 00:03

If she's got the money I don't see the problem, but bragging on fb is bleugh

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 00:04

Annoyed anout what? Having her kids grandparents help her out? Her going to Starbucks?

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hollyvsivy · 30/04/2017 00:04

My £125 shopping budget includes all household things like toilet rolls, cleaning products, pet food and bedding, food for two adults and three DC -one with a specialist duet plus nappies and wipes.

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WorraLiberty · 30/04/2017 00:04

You'd be annoyed at her taking your children out for some fantastic days out, if you were her husband??

Good job you're not then, isn't it? Confused

PeanutButterBunny · 30/04/2017 00:05

Its none of your business though how she spent her money and how her DH feels about it. If it bothers you so much, unfollow her.

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hollyvsivy · 30/04/2017 00:05

The fact that he's working hard for the money and not seeing his DC much as a result and she's frittering the money away.

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PeanutButterBunny · 30/04/2017 00:06

You can read his mind? Maybe he's pleased to provide his family with a nice lifestyle? Hmm

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hollyvsivy · 30/04/2017 00:07

I wouldn't say shopping and eating out is a fantastic day out. I'm not bitter, I'd happily spend that money on my DC if I had it spare but I'd go for a few days away rather than some teddy bears.

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SuperBeagle · 30/04/2017 00:07

I often think that people who brag online about how much money they have/spend must actually just run up credit cards and live in debt. People who genuinely have a lot of money tend not to brag.

WorraLiberty · 30/04/2017 00:07

Do your 'friend' a favour and delete her.

In fact you might want to take a long hard look at why you even started this thread and then delete your Facebook account.

It's not for you if you can't be happy for others and you find yourself comparing what they spend, to what you spend on your weekly groceries.

What's the point?

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 00:08

Maybe he's happy she's happy. I'm sure he has a good time working away while she looks after his kids alone

GertrudeBrisket · 30/04/2017 00:10

You sound so nasty. Its none of your business if someone else decides to give their kids a treat. What's it to you? Butt out.

WorraLiberty · 30/04/2017 00:11

I wouldn't say shopping and eating out is a fantastic day out. - Then it's a good job you weren't invited and that her day out, had absolutely nothing to do with you Confused

I'm not bitter, I'd happily spend that money on my DC if I had it spare but I'd go for a few days away rather than some teddy bears.

Yes you are very bitter by the sound of it.

Again, what you'd happily spend your money on if you had any spare, has nothing whatsoever to do with your 'friend's' choices Confused

Perhaps she and her husband should run their plans past you, for your approval?

QueenMortificado · 30/04/2017 00:12

Why is it anyone's business what anyone else spends on anything?!

babyinarms · 30/04/2017 00:12

That's a very detailed fb post, definitely bragging and boastful. Not tasteful or tactful !

Pinkheart5917 · 30/04/2017 00:13

It all depends on ones circumstances though doesn't it? Some people it would be a lot of money but others it's nothing too. Can't take money with you when your dead

I don't see anything wrong with breakfast & lunch out & stopping for coffee/drinks as well I've done that when we've taken the babies out.

You can see it as wasting money but to them they don't think it's wasting money and it's there money and they can do what the hell they like with it

such wasting of money when so many people could use the money so much better? You could say that about a lot of things

LoveMyLittleSuperhero · 30/04/2017 00:13

I would imagine soon as its the right time of year for bonuses to be hitting paychecks you may see plenty of posts like that in the coming few weeks/months

katronfon · 30/04/2017 00:17

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dustarr73 · 30/04/2017 00:18

You dont need a special occasion to have a day out.She doesnt work
but brought her kids out and her nephews out for the day.

How dare she,spend their money how they see fit.

Jealousy isnt a nice trait,how bout you lose it.