To be fuming with DDs secondary school over 'fuck boy'.

[Shitonmyshoe]

Just that! For those who don't know, girls now call sexually aggressive/promiscuous boys 'fuck boy'. My daughter has no interest in lads and is only bothered about her GCSEs (very studious but outgoing kid). Today a lad in her year placed his index and middle finger to his face and wriggled his tongue between them (classy) towards my daughter. She told him, 'get out of my face fuck boy' which has resulted in her being punished via a detention. For background she is less than 5 foot in yr 10 and he is well over 6 foot and obviously trains (shithouse wall). Apparently, reason DD was punished was because she was being aggressive 😂

Just catching up, I'm so glad the school belatedly caught up with real events and acted appropriately. I'd be tempted to send a quick email saying thanks, just to encourage them.

A boy of 15 can't really be deliberately 'promiscuous' either.

What on earth...

I have been followed by a boy I estimate was aroun d 12 who was being 'deliberately promiscuous' shouting for me to 'get your tits out'..asking for a fuck and once asking to see my 'minge'

a 15 year old is definitely capable of that. Honestly...

Oh come on, copper, if a 15 year old boy is sexually harassing another pupil, he needs to expect a harsh comeback. It's very different from randomly calling someone a slag in order to intimidate them. If you attack someone sexually, it's fair to surmise you're sex obsessed.

I don't know why that was aimed at me user, I've no problem with a girl shouting at and/or swearing at a boy who's harassing her.

I just clarified what my 15 yr old boy understood the word to mean, that's all.

Like you can "slut shame" a boy.

And people wonder why so many people choose to home school. This school sounds vile.

HomityBabbityPie
Like you can "slut shame" a boy.

That would depend on the boy.

I'm sure you can slut shame a boy. But in the case the OP outlined, the boy seems shameless.

I think if a young boy is having sex with multiple partners at 15, it is because he is damaged.

If this is their GSCE year he may be 16 or nearly by now.

I think you may be behind the times about this behaviour:

nearly a third of men and a quarter of women aged 16–19 had heterosexual intercourse before they were 16

www.fpa.org.uk/factsheets/teenagers-sexual-health-behaviour

Even if he may deserve sympathy though, for past abusive experiences no one realises about, he had no right to do what he did and OP's DD was right to defend herself.

If bad things have happened to him, maybe this is an opportunity for his parents and school counsellors to help.

Good on her.

Both in detention. Both inappropriate. Regardless of gender and height

'Inapproriate' is a euphemism in his case.

"Inappropriate"

No, no one should be put in detention for defending themselves against something so vile.

KindDogsTail

that would depend on the retaliation and the ability to prove that the retaliation was infact retaliation.

Boney, the whole episode was caught on CCTV.

The boy behaved badly. The girl retaliated in kind. He probably didn't mean it but you can't really defend it. It's an aggressive act and he should be told it's wrong and that he shouldn't do it and if he does, his target is likely to react. In this case, I think quite mildly.

How would you react to a man making the same gesture at you Boney? Or in case you're terribly restrained and would turn the other cheek, how do you think the average man would react? What would you tell a boy doing that to a man to expect in return? Do you think women should react differently?

nooka and limited
I am not defending it
yes it was caught on camera (allegidly).

I was responding to KindDogsTail about people defending themselves, and what would be appropriate. (given some of the earlier responses on the thread)

I agree to an extent but where do you draw the line with swearing then? It's not acceptable in a school environment and she needs to be corrected or whatever you want to call it. The best way of dealing with this is rising above it, rolling her eyes and reporting it. she isn't defending herself by using foul language.
I have been subjected to similar behaviours and I have risen above it. I was very well endowed at school and had various comments and gestures towards me. After responding 'fuck off' a few times which inevitably resulted in further aggravation and both of us being detained (albeit mine being shorter) I took far more pleasure in laughing in their face before reporting it.

If she isn't reprimanded then becomes the debate that sometimes swearing in school is ok and it's obviously not.

Sorry the bottom paragraph meant to be deleted!

Teenage girls saying it's good at last to have an expression which is the male equivalent of 'slag'.

But his detention should be a lot longer than hers!

This is not about language, this is about a response to sexual harrassment. The boy involved need some support for his constructions around women and the objectification of them. I don't think your daughter should have been punished. It sounds as though her response was provoked by the actions of another. Whilst I'm not condoning swearing, I would probably have been equally repulsed and reactive should someone have done that to me.

So glad to hear of the school's response.