To be fuming with DDs secondary school over 'fuck boy'.

[Shitonmyshoe]

Just that! For those who don't know, girls now call sexually aggressive/promiscuous boys 'fuck boy'. My daughter has no interest in lads and is only bothered about her GCSEs (very studious but outgoing kid). Today a lad in her year placed his index and middle finger to his face and wriggled his tongue between them (classy) towards my daughter. She told him, 'get out of my face fuck boy' which has resulted in her being punished via a detention. For background she is less than 5 foot in yr 10 and he is well over 6 foot and obviously trains (shithouse wall). Apparently, reason DD was punished was because she was being aggressive 😂

Shitonmyshoe

Good outcome.

The girl responded in the correct way at the time. Yes, swearing in school is not ideal but it was her immediate response in a situation she was ill-equipped to deal with. For those comparing school to the workplace, it is not the same. In the first instance, I would hope that one would not be subjected to the crude, unsolicited advances of a 15 year old boy at work. Secondly, you cannot expect a 15 year old to respond in the same way as a grown woman, although to be completely honest I'm not sure I would have responded any differently in this situation. The boy's behaviour was appalling and completely inappropriate, and he should be punished and made to understand that this sort of gesture is unacceptable and will not be tolerated in school or anywhere. It's high time we moved on from this 'Boys will be boys' mentality and start to support and nurture our girls. I do hope you pursue this with the school OP. Your daughter deserves a medal not a detention.

Just seen the update! Fantastic news. Well done OP

Excellent news OP. Well done.

Excellent result!

I'm so glad to read your update OP, glad the school acted appropriately too!

Brilliant outcome OP

Excellent outcome.

Brilliant outcome OP!

shitonmyshoe Fri 28-Apr-17 19:12:07
OP here. Contacted the head this morning who checked the cctv and there it was. He has been excluded and his parents have to meet with the head next week (his poor mum). Head was very cross. DD did not have to complete her detention

What good news that is. My faith is a little bit restored. It's very lucky the CCTV caught what happened.

Thank FUCK for that.

Brilliant news op. I'm pleased the head has taken action. Hopefully this will teach the boy a lesson. What a great result for your daughter as well, showing her it's ok to stand up for yourself and being female doesn't mean we have to sit prettily and take any old shit being dished out to us.

Fantastic outcome, it's about time we started taking this seriously, not expecting girls to put up with this shit.

Great outcome OP really pleased.

Wish our school had done the same.... Sigh.

Good and just outcome, OP.

I'm still shaking my head at some of the comments on here.

Brilliant outcome!

Very pleased at the school's response - appropriate at last!
And while I understand that they felt the need to validate your DD's response by checking the CCTV, you'd like to think they might have listened to her in the first place instead of the knee-jerk response that she must have sworn at him for "no good reason".

But - they've sorted it now, so fair play. Let's hope next time they think a bit harder about it. AND, in the meantime, have a chat with ALL the students about the inappropriateness of such gestures (Under Section 5 of the Public Order Act, for e.g.). Someone said upthread that education was needed to help counter this sort of shit - well yes it is. But for ALL of them, boys and girls, so they both know what (not) to do.

So glad the outcome was satisfactory in the end, OP!! Such a relief, after this horrendously depressing thread.

Honestly, no wonder sexual harassment, assault, and rape are still rife - women are clearly eager to excuse it, if at all possible.

And as someone who's a victim of incestuous sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence, and coerced underage prostitution, while I wouldn't consider this technically assault, I don't take offence at people calling it such. These smaller aggressions are what lead to larger ones, can be very distressing, and frankly are just as unacceptable as groping someone.

Thank goodness the school saw sense!

Pleased to hear the outcome.

Good outcome, sensible reaction from the head.

Scrumples
In the face of what seemed an awful lot of posters saying that the Op's DD swearing in self defence to stop the boy (who was carrying out an obscene enactment at her with his tongue and fingers) was as bad as what he had done to her and should be punished - or that boys will be boys and he is young - thank you for backing up the idea that these smaller aggressions, like the one the boy had carried out, are what lead to larger ones.

But it is terrible that all that happened to you and I am very sorry.

So long as the op would be happy if her dd made a wanker gesture and called a slut in return and only she got punished then it's all good.
Strange the school acted so decisively after doing absolutely nothing to discipline the boy when it happened. And them being a school so lax with discipline as well

I've also experienced sexual abuse and completely agree with Scrumples. Well said.

women are clearly eager to excuse it, if at all possible.

Not all of us though, Scrumples Totally agree with your other comments. And for you.