To be upset about photos on husbands phone?

[blueocean88]

We're on holiday at the moment and I was on my husbands iPad with our son looking through photos, he got excited swiping through and accidentally deleted one. I went into deleted photos to retrieve it and there's photos in there that my husbands taken of women around the pool. Obviously angry/upset I looked at his messages and he'd messaged a friend saying there was loads of Milfs in our hotel. He's since deleted that message but can only assume he's sent the photos to his friend. I'm really upset about it, haven't said anything to husband yet as don't even know what to say and really don't want to ruin our holiday. Would you be upset about this?

A little more context on the legality of the behaviour: www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/nov/02/why-is-it-still-legal-to-take-creepshots-of-women-in-public-places

His behaviour is disgusting, not to mention illegal.

Eww, gross.

Seriously, what is wrong with people??

This makes me think this isn't the first time he has done something like this AND what else has he deleted from you in the past? His friends just as disgusting as him, he obviously feels comfortable to share these photos with him.

I'd happily go tell the woman he photographed and any husbands/partners they may have.

Leave them to deal with slime bag. What a vile disgusting creature.

I don't see your relationship lasting. Get rid asap.

He's a creep.

Maudlinmaud

In all honesty yes I probably would probably ask for a pic with him to send the girls if he was that gorgeous a lifeguard.

But its not illegal to take pics of people in public spaces. I have to confess I took a sneaky pic once of a woman, who was supporting herself on a pole the tube, entirely using her butt crack through leggings to grip it. It was amazing and I had to show dh.

Sunnyjac it's not voyeurism. It's creepy as fuck but not illegal under E&W law

That's really upsetting for you OP, I'd be bloody furious. It's disrespectful to you and those women he's taken photos of without them knowing. I'd let him know you'd seen them, ruined holiday or not.

That's disgusting! So disrespectful to you and also to those poor women he's leering at! Not sure what to suggest, I get not wanting to ruin your family holiday but there's no way I'd be able to hold my tongue, I'd be furious.

Unbelievably disrespectful to you and the women he is perving over! What is wrong with him?? Definitely a flight home - he needs to understand the severity of his actions.
Sending you a hug, you must be feeling really upset

He wouldn't have deleted it if he didn't know full well that it's disrespectful to those women and to you. He's an arsehole.

Really sorry OP, this must be very tough to find out and to read

I would guess there's a lot more unsavoury things you don't know about your DH tbh. This is unlikely to be the first.

I really feel for you OP. What a horrible shock to have to deal with on holiday. Stay strong.

That's grim, I'll be going on holiday soon and the though that there are normal looking people who get a bit of a boner about taking pictures of unsuspecting women around the pool and sending it to randoms to do whatever with is pretty disgusting.
How old is your husband? Has he always been a bit dodgy?

I knew someone who took sneaky pics of unsuspecting people, (usually they would be over weight people) and then post the pics on twitter thinking they where really funny. It's a horrible thing to do to anyone regardless if they are dresssed or undressed.

Total creep alert!!!

Did you marry a 12 year old?

He sounds like a dick. I'd Defo mention something.

Is he on Facebook? If so, tomorrow while you're both chilling by the pool, don't say a word, just write a fb post linking this thread and say 'gosh dh (tag him), so glad you don't do shit like this'
What an arsewipe!

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He's 28, and on the whole a lovely guy and great husband. Not perfect but who is? Do I think he's done this before? I have no idea, I wouldn't have thought so before this but obviously I don't know him very well I suppose.

There were two photos, not loads, but that obviously doesn't make it any better.

We have 2 days left now (we leave Wednesday evening) and a 9 hours flight home. I'm really upset about it and don't know what to do, I'm a bit weepy to be honest as I feel blind sighted by it and don't know what to say or how to act. Ideally I'd want to wait till I get home but I don't know if I can just pretend I'm fine when I'm not. I'd read the milf message a few days ago and got angry about it but let it go for the sake of the holiday but seeing the pictures today has made me furious again. I don't know if he did send them to his friend, that's something I'm just assuming. He may have kept them for himself, I have no idea.

Yes, cuppatea, it does sound like a 12 year old, boasting to his mate that he's been let into the adult world with all the nudey ladies and having to send photo evidence to his friends to prove it.

FFS. Those poor women, thinking they're around normal responsible adults and secretly being photographed by a fucking creepy pervert.

Ugh. What a loser.