To be utterly disgusted and depressed that women think its ok to make small penis gags?

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Just been reading a thread further down where yes some scumbag bloke had been horrible to someone. Lots of outrage and tell him he has a small dick, tell him he has a micro penis basically mock the size of his genitals.

Can you imagine if a woman upset a bloke and all his mates said tell her she has awful labia, tell her her fanny is horrible, tell her she doesnt look normal down there
Its horrific!!

Do you know how many lovely men with smaller penises get inundated with this? Do you know how many teenage boys worry themselves to death because of comments like these?

Its depressing/sexist/cruel and plain nasty. You should be ashamed of yourselves!

Thinking about it, it is especially strange that the OP thinks it soooo horrible that women, would do this, but the fact that men do it all the fucking time is just considered normal.

Because women are supposed to be gentle and nurturing and protective of manfeelz.

Twenty pages of thread because of hurt manfeelz. Wow. I am glad the debate somehow went on to be about feminism. As has been pointed out earlier, men's problems with their small penises is all selfmade. They established a culture in which telling someone he has a small penis is an insult, and now they have to deal with women doing it. Big surprise. Yawn

So empathetic to the ops ds vestal

What about being kind to all people and being understanding of hurt feelings in both men and women?

Ok men have their faults and some men have many many more than others but women are not automatically faultless either. Surely people should be judged on an individual basis not as a whole gender.
Men hating comments such as yours above really do not help the cause of feminism.

Agreed re Bert.

OP lost me at

Yes there are women upset about stuff, yes they are traumatised, yes generally women put up with more sexism than men but that doesn't help a lovely lad crying into his pillow about something he has no control over!

Sigh...

So because it's your poor baby that makes it different??? What about the poor and many more women who put up with this shit daily???

Yes body shaming isn't great but this thread and the actual reason it was started is the fucking pits.

at won

How can you expect men/some women to change their attitude and behaviours which of course they should when you can't acknowledge there is something terrible about your own attitude?

Yep lost me to.
Wow screw op's son

Men hating comments such as yours above really do not help the cause of feminism.

Again, men don't oppress us we are so nasty to them. They oppress us because it profits them. Me being nasty, or not, doesn't change anything in men oppressing women.

Millions of women have been not only nice to, but sacrificed their own lives for millions of men for thousands of years.

Men do not oppress us because we are not nice enough. Don't be silly.

The OP's son's hurt is not "self made" Vestal, nor do you have any evidence that he oppresses you or any other woman. Unless you believe that his very existence oppresses you. Is that what you believe?

I don't like it either.

I don't care if women suffer disproportionately, it still breaks my heart to think of any one, only one, of our DSs feeling/being body shamed.

If you wouldn't like it happening to somebody you love, don't do it to anybody.

Has anything been gained by this thread? I can't believe there's such an argument over something that is rarely said in the first place!

Jane If you'd perhaps RTFT you'd have seen lots of people saying they hear this quite often (although obviously not as often as men shout things at women) and see threads on here with some frequency where penis size is suggested as a suitable retort, or even quoted as a reason to leave someone.

Oh, god- I so want to post but I have 200 cupcakes to ice! Back later.........

Well I personally have never heard any woman saying it. That's all I'm saying.

Won and kalli,

I am OP. I will just go tell my son to go screw himself then!!

:(

Well I personally have never heard any woman saying it. That's all I'm saying

Yeah - as soon as men stop measuring their own masculinity by their dick size the better.

I think kalli couldn't believe what won said.

Lass - yy, thread has moved on so you probably won't see this, but the upset in the CanLit community was vast. Early career academics feeling that their ongoing careers were in jeopardy if they spoke out on behalf of the student that made the complaint, and the entire community feeling that no one was safe to make a complaint at all if they intended to publish. The signatories were all respected journal editors, reviewers, publishers, essentially a who's who in the world. Months of writers trying to decide between standing up against harassment, or protecting their own livelihoods, and everyone being forced to take a stand one way or another. It went way beyond process and into the right to make a complaint. We had students and faculty in tears (some of whole recognized the behaviours and had been subjected to them.) As well as students and faculty considering their futures in an environment they felt to be no longer safe. MA could have handled herself and managed to walk the line better. She was only trying to support her friend, but unfortunately she did so without equal concern for the student. Very messy. Everyone has revamped procedures now which is no bad thing, but the whole saga has left people feeling that their right to highlight sexism, misogyny, and bullying in the academy is under question. (I am only discussing MA's role for obv reasons - SG's role would be a whole other thread, but sadly he is one of many.)

Thank you @littleoldladywho

I was keeping an eye on the thread to see if you would reply. Thank you for doing so.

Op i'm not taking the mick out your son, i'm disgusted by what has been said regarding him.

I agree with the OP. Insulting someone's genitals because of their behaviour (however vile) is horrible.

It is clear your post was meant in thevway you sat kali But I can see in a one line post read hurriedly OP might have misread it

Just seen this. I have used this insult without thinking in the past. I should have known better as have a family member with hypospadias. I will try to avoid it in future and am sorry for OPS ds. Do hope he is able to make peace with it.