to feel angry with mum becoming 'mother' (and what, if anything do I do about it?)

[ErnesttheBavarian]

Ok, probably totally outing myself, but well.

I am old. 46 to be precise. I'm from the NE. My mum has always been my mum. Even when we moved down south, she was still mum.

Then my sister, a few years ago, decided to better herself, and tried to reduce her northern accent and sound posher. She then started to call our mum 'mother'. I think it sounds fucking stupid and pretentious. And she isn't 'mother' she's mum.

Anyway, my mum has since adopted it. And refers to herself as mother. I still think it sounds totally ridiculous. I hate it. When I get a card (or even an WhatsApp) from 'mother' it gives me the rage. firstly cos it just sounds so fucking pretentious and jumped up, secondly, cos she's been my mum for over 40 years, and now she's "MOTHER" (wtf) and thirdly I guess cos it feels like she's siding with my sister, or even worse, adopting her pretentious.

I have mentioned before that I don't like it, but she still does it.

So, do I try again, and if so, how, or do I put up with it until one of us snuffs it, and just feel fucking annoyed every time I have some communication with her?

I think this thread is about to be discussed on The Wright Stuff??

Ah just seen that's been pointed out! God how annoying for OP, hope her mum doesn't watch TWS

Call her what you want.

Why am I never in when our threads are on the Wright Stuff?

On wright stuff right now!

The wright stuff brought me here!

Totally disagree with this guy. The sister married better than the OP, what the hell??

start calling her The Mothership.

"what are you getting The Mothership for her birthday?" etc.

Yes, I'd find it weird OP. I choose what I call my mum, and my DC choose what they call me, as long as it's not "old cow"!

"Grown women" do use mummy, yes, f they want to, what of it? I do (I am in my fifties) and my mother called her own mother mummy her whole life.

Yeah, each to their own man!

Do you like refer to her as mummy when just talking about her to other people as well?

When I am talking to her or to other family members I will say Mummy. When talking to people outside the family I will say "my mother"

I was sending an sms earlier and had written 'my mother' the changed it to 'my mum' because mother sounds as though I don't like her.

Though over the years we have called each other allsorts.
let mother sort it out

A discussion in what she calls herself

My sister is 54 and still refers to our mother as 'Mummy'. It makes me fucking cringe.