AIBU with my friends?

[PhyllisNights]

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

[GinAndTunic]

Smeaton, don't you see how see so insensitive your post was? The OP wasn't the first to get a new kitchen. I mean, she can't help being the first and her friend has stolen her glory.

OP, you poor thing. Have a biscuit to dunk in your tears of shame and sadness.

[shyturnip]

Haha. You can't possibly be real but way to stir up MN OP

[PhyllisNights]

GaelicSiog, they're all at varying different stages. I actually stopped drinking alcohol and planned my pregnancy based on when I was more likely to get pregnant in the month. Not all of them want to have a baby right now, but the ones who do are very care free and think it will happen when it happens. They basically don't want to give up their lifestyle and put the work in.

[TheZeppo]

You are fun 😂

[TheZeppo]

I think 'slight headache' is my favourite bit.

[Xmasbaby11]

I can't see anything wrong with your friends' way of thinking. Although I find house talk very dull, I must admit!

[DartmoorDoughnut]

Oh ye gods so you planned this pregnancy well why didn't you say so?! That obvs means you can bang on about it incessantly hun

[WhataHexIgotinto]

Leftit, sorry I didn't respond sooner, I was just tucking the DC's in. Making memories etc. 😋

[DavetheCat2001]

Would anyone like to hear about my new bathroom suite?

[mccuntypants]

Bat. Shit. Crazy.

[ifyoulikepinacolada]

😂😂😂😂😂 op you can't be for real...

[GaelicSiog]

phyllis, I had been told I was infertile at that age. It's more common than most people think. I told everyone I didn't want kids, but deep down I was ashamed to admit I couldn't have them and desperately upset about it, even though I wasn't at a point in my life where I was ready to have them. I then got trapped in an awful, messy relationship and made it to 7 months without realising I was pregnant, but that's a whole different topic. The point is you never know what's going on in people's private lives. You are the one having a baby. Not them. Please stop shoving it down their throats, for everyone's sake.

[Crispbutty]

My new kitchen is due next month and I'm soooooo super excited!

[GaelicSiog]

crisp have you thought about names??? What colour? Will it be a singleton kitchen or one with a twin utility room?

[PurpleDaisies]

The only thing that's good about this thread is the replies.

You're totally clueless op.

[OboePlayingImmortalRabbit]

Dave I would love to hear about your new bathroom suite. Do tell.

[FaithAgain]

Please tell your friend that while gloss work tops look fab in B&Q they will drive her insane at home because they never look clean. Also they smoke like you wouldn't believe if youd blender catches fire speaks from own experience

[DavetheCat2001]

I think the avocado suite is on the way back...

[PhyllisNights]

GaelicSiog, I'm so sorry & thank you for sharing that. My sister-in-law can't have kids, she's had IVF & they're thinking about adopting. I have told my friends about that and I would think they would open up to me if they were struggling as we're all so close.

It all just seems a bit catty towards me, not like it comes from a place of emotional hurt, but that it comes from some sort of contempt. It really hurts because I am still carrying and you think they'd put their negativity to one side to make me feel as comfortable as possible.

[Mumoftwoyoungkids]

They basically don't want to give up their lifestyle and put the work in.

I remember when me and Dh were ttcing Dd. We really really "put the work in". With ds we were both too knackered from non-sleeping Dd to put much "work in" at all.

They are both equally fabulous / irritating.

[Moanyoldcow]

How can you honestly not realise how much of a douche you sound?

Read your OP but instead, imagine some painful Gwyneth Paltrow-type character saying it in a shit rom-com. Don't you agree they sound like a fucking twat?

[Crapuccino]

Downgrading to three out of ten.

Character getting less believable, rather than more so.

[IknowIAM1985]

OP you're coming across as little Miss Perfect and a bit of a know it all... life ain't perfect and one day the shit will hit the fan.