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AIBU?

AIBU with my friends?

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PhyllisNights · 19/04/2017 21:24

I'm the first one in my social group to get pregnant. I talk to my friends on a daily basis through WhatsApp and see them all in person at least once a week.

As it's my first pregnancy, I'm very excited. I can't stop talking about it. I'm so lucky, so happy, so fortunate & so privileged. My baby feels so special, like I know my baby will do something incredible in this world - I can feel it!!

And yet, my friends have started to turn on me. They've become very jealous. They make snide remarks, they mimick me & give me side eye. I feel like my pregnancy is the butt of all the jokes.

I can't help that I've been so blessed and so fortunate to get pregnant out of my friends first. I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

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OffOut · 19/04/2017 21:44

Why do people bother responding. It just encourages them.

FishInAWetSuitAndFlippers · 19/04/2017 21:45

In this instance gf means goady fucker.

Pregnancy isnt really your 'time to shine' billions of people have done it before, and billions more will do it after you.

They probably would be happy for you if you weren't such a baby bore.

It's as interesting to them as someone continually going on about a urine infection. It's something happening in your body and it really is pretty boring to everyone bar you and maybe a few close relatives who would like updates on how big your baby is in terms of fruit every week.

Chavelita · 19/04/2017 21:45

Yes, go and find a local parents' and babies' group, and tell them you're giving birth to a combination of Gandhi, Einstein and Mother Teresa. Also tell them you're staying at home to be a loving and responsible mother. You'll immediately find people who appreciate you.

WhataHexIgotinto · 19/04/2017 21:45

No way is this real. People just don't carry on like this ...

Allthewaves · 19/04/2017 21:45

help me out

your pregnant not an invalid

WhereYouLeftIt · 19/04/2017 21:45

Of course it's real. We've all known someone like this, haven't we? And then tried very very hard not to be them.

Or is that just me ?

HarrietSchulenberg · 19/04/2017 21:45

I think it's probably time for you to widen your friendship group and acquire some parent friends. You're at a different life stage.
When some of my friends starting having babies I thought they became incredibly boring. All they could talk about was bloody babies, nappies, potties and milestones. All I wanted to do at 22 was go clubbing and have adventures, babies and parenthood were not interesting to me until I had children some years later.
Time to let your old friends have their adventures while you move on and find other people who share your new interest.

irregularegular · 19/04/2017 21:46

No. Sorry. Nobody is quite this unself-aware. Surely?

Quite entertaining but you're overdoing it.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 19/04/2017 21:46

everyone has their chance to shine
What the fuck are you on about?! It's lovely that you're pregnant but women fall pregnant every day. You aren't groundbreaking.
Also, just by reading your two posts, I feel like cuffing you so your friends are being remarkably restrained in just side eyeing you.

If this is even real.

Ceto · 19/04/2017 21:48

Would it be unreasonable to sit my friends down and ask them to stop being so negative? I want to ask them to support me better and help me out.

Absolutely you should do this. Can I come? I'll bring popcorn.

DartmoorDoughnut · 19/04/2017 21:48

Oh god I know you're just a gf but seriously?! Do you actually have any friends?!

babyinarms · 19/04/2017 21:48

Tame it a bit and show some interest in their lives and they'll stop being pissed at you !
I'd imagine you're being quiet annoying at the moment. I'm sure they're happy for you but you don't need to talk about it 24/7.

Mulberry72 · 19/04/2017 21:48

Reality check - Your friends aren't interested in your pregnancy and will have little or zero interest in the baby when he/she arrives.

Get over yourself

MarcelineTheVampire · 19/04/2017 21:49

Is it still the Easter holidays? Bloody hell.

chinam · 19/04/2017 21:49

If this is not a reverse, I only have one piece of advice for you and that is to grow the fuck up.

MaisyPops · 19/04/2017 21:50

On the off chance this is a real thread I'll bite
I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!
Have a gold star, you're clearly so far beyond your friends and are so blessed to be in a better situation than them.

If you speak to them how your post reads then you'll be doing their heads in.

WhataHexIgotinto · 19/04/2017 21:51

Leftit I can honestly say that I've never met anyone like this!

Trills · 19/04/2017 21:51

When you got married first did you go on about how much of an achievement it was and how you were sure they'd catch up soon ?

They put up with it then and hoped you'd get back to normal but now they've realised you are smug and boring.

sobeyondthehills · 19/04/2017 21:54

I went to college, uni, started a professional career first & got married first. I've just always been up step ahead - I can't help it!!

I was the first in my group of friends to get divorced and have a baby out of wedlock first.

Takes all sorts

mrstiggy · 19/04/2017 21:54

I'm struggling to buy this one, but if this by some miracle is genuine, calm the feck down woman! You're having a baby, not solving world famine. Women have been doing this for a bloody long time, and flapping about like you have achieved something unique is not doing your image any favours. It will be nice to still have friends around you when you are over the babymoon, so dont blow it by being an insufferable arse now.

Screwinthetuna · 19/04/2017 21:54

Is this a wind up Sorry, op, but you are only as special as your friends are and your pregnancy and baby are only as 'incredible' as every other billon pregnancies and babies in the world. Get off your high horse and stop thinking you are better than your friends. Unless you are carrying the next son of God, you are probably boring your friends to death. And no, they probably don't want to be you, as your post seems to imply.

FannyFifer · 19/04/2017 21:55

If you're this annoying just in words on a screen then I really feel sorry for your friends, actually surprised you still have any.

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TroysMammy · 19/04/2017 21:57

First post too.

Bettyandtheboy · 19/04/2017 21:58

I call BS!

WhooooAmI24601 · 19/04/2017 21:59

Children are a huge blessing. They are not a contest, they are not something which gets you "one step ahead" and they are not something to compete over. You are at best massively insensitive and at worst a massive asshat. Also, no wonder your friends take the piss; you've irritated half the MN universe in less than an hour.

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